Making Dating Work

When one looks at romantic love, one would conclude that it is a social dyad that brings about certain responsibilities between two people in a relationship such as honesty, protection, openness and expressions of love. (William, 2008: 76). Contrasting with

My hands were sweating. My breathing was heavy. This felt unnatural. A certain unease blanketed my confidence. This was sought to be a sin. She seemed nervous, almost a noticeable blush and some butterflies, but not as nervous as I was, this was something new, a step outside of the box kinda moment. All my life I always stayed faithful to my religion, I'm Muslim, a religion looked upon as one of most strict and profound rules. I would always see people dating, holding hands, but I was always curious as to why it's wrong, why we must follow tradition. I felt drowned in these ideas, always having to diverge my thoughts toward the "correct" way, almost like switching lanes and finding a road block. This was my moment to feel butterflies and the flutter in your heart, maybe even a slight increase in temperature, an experience both terrifying but enlightening.

These continuing opposing qualities in our relationship ultimately created an imbalance in our relationship that could never be made balanced again. Before I knew it, my husband had become the person of lesser interest in our relationship. The principle of lesser interest occurs when one partner in a relationship is more emotionally involved than the other and that the less involved partner can exploit the more involved partner in various ways. “A significant gap in emotional involvement could lead to a situation of one partner’s taking the other for granted, or an even more extreme situation of exploitation. When relationships of this type result in marriage, the results were expected to be unsatisfactory (Waller, 1938). This suggests that it might be better if romantic relationships with unequal emotional involvement dissolve before getting to the point of marriage” (see also Sprecher, Schmeeckle, Felmlee, 2006, p.1256). In my marriage, I always felt as if I had to walk on a tight rope and I’, sure that you can see why. At its worst I was made to feel as if I were a child that couldn’t do anything right. As I sit here and write this paper, I see so clearly just how it evolved to this. The assertiveness that I was so attracted to morphed into an arrogance that made him an unbearable, controlling egomaniac. It is so easy to see now how becoming the person of lesser interest would be the next logical step.

Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.

The generation of today enjoys their lives largely revolving around technology. You can go to school online, buy all of your groceries from your home, and make video conference calls around the world. Naturally, in order to meet these desires, the world of online dating has flourished. Millions of people are signing up for a variety of websites that guarantee happiness for all different types of people. For those who can’t seem to find the time to go out and meet other singles in their community, online dating is seen as a quick and convenient way to discover relationships. Online dating has become a popular new mechanism for seeking a romantic partner and initiating intimate relationships.

traditional ways of ‘love and marriage.’ In the 1920s and the 1930s, the new concept of dating began to dominate. The act of courtship began to fall subordinate to dating and many couples began to adventure out into the public sphere on dates. The result of dates contributed to the notion that men would pay for whatever public activity was done between the couple. However, the rise of entertainment culture was an outlet for young men and women to show off each other in order to boost their reputation. “Popularity was clearly the key”, states Beth Bailey, as the number of dates someone went on demonstrated his or her popularity to the public eye (Bailey, 26). This ‘rate and date system’ was essentially the main system that was put in place

In the articles that has been researched, the objective of the articles was about sex, dating, marriage, and family.

The audience is society as a whole especially those that think that connection with media can overcome lack of conversation

The idea of "love at first sight" is a common theme portrayed throughout a wide variety of media outlets within the American culture. In his article "Choosing Mates-The American Way," Martin King Whyte puts forth the idea that in American culture there are two distinctly different theories that describe the process in which we go about choosing a companion, one which involves a marketplace viewpoint and another that is established in love (134). These competing viewpoints surrounding the ways in which we choose our partners are important ideas to consider when thinking about the formation of family bonds within our culture. A few other intriguing viewpoints that I will consider in the formation of my own family is the idea of "choice" that is prevalent amongst our Western culture (Pasupathi 163), as well as, the power that an individuals demographics plays on their opportunities at choosing a companion (Pasupathi 165). With the notion of the "traditional American nuclear family" being constantly challenged and reshaped in our current times, one can get a sense of how the concept of family is a fluid one. As postulated by Stephanie Coontz in her article, "Historical Perspectives of Family Diversity," what constitutes a family has consistently differed throughout history and that one must always take into consideration the context of the many outside influences (socioeconomic, time period, cultural, etc.) that have a part in its formation (55).

In the article, “Is Dating a Thing of the Past” by Shannon Doyne it explains how teenagers this time don't interact anymore and accept their modern electronics do all the work. In this scenario, these people have altered their relationship between one another such as not having sentimental friendships. Without devices, us humans can have deep friendships and build stronger connections. Today, our society only look forward to new technology than participating in knowing a stranger.

“Happily ever after.” Whether in Disney movies or cheesy romance novels, these three words have been uttered a countless number of times in a manner of different ways. What society fails to acknowledge is the large impact it has on young girls and their perception of reality. This concept is not just a sweet ending to a heartwarming story that young girls can easily forget. No, rather it is a concept that is targeted at females and repeatedly encouraged by society. They are told what they should expect from relationships and marriage. Furthermore, they are told how to act and behave in order to have a functioning and healthy relationship with their significant other. However, life as we

That they have to ask them in a romantic any type of romantic way. Most men ask women to marry them in some type of grand romantic gesture. It is like men have some kind of pressure to ask them. How society puts some kind of weird pressure on men when it comes down to proposing to women. Men have been taught since they were just little kids to ask the women to marry them. For centuries now men have always proposed to the women first. If women start proposing to men, this could change the way society looks at women.

Kate Chopin, as a forerunner of feminist authors in 19th century, also interprets her understanding of how one’s social status can affect his/her ability to choose marriage suitors and make marriage decision. In the story, “love” or “affection" can be given up for reaching higher social ladder. People on “top” have more power to make decision on marriage than people with lower “ranks”; also, males have more power to make decision than women. As a result, female with lower “ranks” is more likely to attracted by males with higher “ranks”. But males want to find an equal or beneficial marriage for themselves. People follow these rules in marriage selection process in order to reach better equality in marriage. It reminds me of the traditional culture in China. In old times of China, young women cannot date or talk with males, and their marriages must be arranged by their parents in order to be equal. And even some people today still believe in that only equitable marriage will leads to happiness. In article “Ratoinal Choice and the Price of Marriage”, Robert Cherry defines equitable marriage as “one in which sexual behavior and the allocation of household time and income are determined by only comparative advantage and each individual’s endogenously-determined preferences….The actual services provided by each spouse in the typical marriage can deviate from those which should be provided in equitable marriages ” (Cherry, 1998).

The theme of love is a universal, timeless issue that has always been discussed and forever will be. People are searching for the true meaning of love and how it is different from person to person and from race to race. Everyone is amazed by how love can make people experience so many emotions and how love can bring sadness and happiness and confusion. ‘La Belle Dame Sans Merci’ By John Keats and ‘Porphyria’s Lover’ by Robert Browning for example both share the common theme of love, both lovers had to depart their loved ones whether due to societal pressures or due to the fact that the lover is from a different world. However the idea of women having power

One day aliyanna and dan started dating on a holiday. They liked each other and their parents approved. So the next day , aliyanna and dan went on a date to red lobster. They have been dating for 11 months and are still going. When they were at red lobster and then out of nowhere,