Manners and Etiquette of Pride and Prejudice

Pride & Prejudice starts off with Darcy being evaluated as a stuck up, evil man. However, the readers are only seeing Elizabeth’s perception of Darcy by gathering information from her outside community. The climax of Pride &

In the movie Darcy belittles Elizabeth during the ball, but she doesn’t care. She says to her mother and father that if he would ask her to dance later, she would say no on the spur of the moment. The story that Jane Austin wrote, only tells that Mrs. Bennet explains Darcy’s insult to Mr. Bennet but

“Lady Catherine will not think the worst of you for being simply dressed. She likes to have the distinction of rank preserved” (Austen 127). Distinction of social classes has been slowly fading away in today’s modern society, but contributed to create a society dominated by a ironclad hierarchy prior to the twentieth century. Jane Austen published Pride and Prejudice in 1813, which revolves around the love story between Elizabeth Bennet and Fitzwilliam Darcy. Both Elizabeth and Darcy have to overcome various issues of the Regency era, and learn to accept each other towards the end of novel. Jane Austen showcases the nineteenth century turmoil between the upper class and the working class through the strict social hierarchy and conflicts between the characters in Pride and Prejudice and ultimately proposes a solution towards the end of the novel.

Before his transformation, Darcy exhibits arrogance and pride. Darcy’s behavior at the Meryton ball, in particular, reflects his arrogance. Although many people at the ball initially esteemed Darcy for his wealth, “his manners gave a disgust which turned the tide of his popularity.” (14). More specifically, his manners contained characteristics that were “haughty…and fastidious” and “were not inviting.” (21). Because Darcy’s pride restricts him to dance a mere four times, he further insults the Meryton assembly by failing to interact socially (154). While at a ball at Bingley’s estate, Netherfield, Darcy reveals his arrogance through his rude behavior toward Mr. Collins, a cousin of the Bennets who has close ties to Darcy’s aunt, Lady Catherine de Bourgh. Although Collins speaks to Darcy without proper introduction, Darcy does not conceal his arrogance and shows irritation “at being so addressed.” (92) Entertaining Collins with only “distant civility,” Darcy’s rudeness increases as his patience with Collin’s speech diminishes, eventually leaving Collins with only a slight bow (92).

Although Darcy's words revealed a large metamorphism in his disposition, his actions are more evident and show his true ability to change. At Mr. Darcy's introduction to the novel he is immediately described as "…haughty, reserved, and fastidious, and his manners, though well bred, were not inviting" (Austen 12). Austen introduces Darcy with all of his pretentious nature. Following the Meryton ball, Austen continues to display that unattractive nature of Darcy by comparing him to Bingley. "Darcy, on the contrary, had seen a collection of people in whom there was little beauty and no fashion, for none of whom he had felt the smallest interest, and from none received either attention or pleasure" (Austen 12). This statement reinforces the idea that Mr. Darcy is only concerned with talented women of great importance. It is Elizabeth, however, who wins his heart with her liveliness and witty remarks.

      Mr. Darcy, as one of the main characters, is for the better part of the novel a focus of the theme of pride. His pride is very obvious. It is a part of his nature and is seen in his mannerisms and in his speech. Darcy has such a high opinion of himself that he does not care what others think of him or his prideful actions. He believes that he is the best in every way possible and finds that his standing in society gives him the right to be critical of those not as perfect as he.

Bingley is a very good-natured man who appreciates the good in people and doesn’t look down on other’s, Darcy doesn’t participate in any dancing and is overall very rude and obnoxious at the party.

Dance for Mr. Darcy is much more of an expression of his particular interest at that time and whether his dance partner met his economic or social class requirements (both based on wealth), rather than accepting societal notions of proper conduct by choosing not to dance even though there are eligible dance partners were available. His decision not to dance appears to completely ignore the individuals with whom he is surrounded, thereby missing the opportunity to engage in potentially meaningful relationships, including getting to know Elizabeth. Clearly, we see that wealth to Mr. Darcy at the Meryton dance blinds him from acting appropriately to those around him and potentially missing out on a truly meaningful relationship to him with Elizabeth.

Living with a man who was not one’s husband was one matte; but marrying out of one’s social class is another action that society would denounce. Mr. Bingley was fascinated with Jane Bennet since their first meeting. His friends and family had gone out of their way to warn him not to marry her as it would ruin his relationships with his upper class acquaintances. One friend in particular, Fitzwilliam Darcy, had taken extra precautions to make sure that his friend would not tarnish his own reputation. “The first mentioned was that regardless of the sentiments of either, I had detached Mr. Bingley from your sister...” (Austen 168) These words, written in a letter from Darcy, are proof that he had derailed Bingley and Jane’s relationship for the good of Bingley’s character. Although society defamed people marrying out of their social class, Bingley and Jane had eventually found themselves together, despite the disapproval of his friends and family.

Pride and Prejudice are both influences on Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy and their relationships. Ironically this attitude changes as Elizabeth forces Darcy realize his faults, and he does the same to her “How despicably have I acted!.. I, who have prided myself on my discernment! - I, who have valued myself on my abilities!” (Austen 236). Elizabeth realizes after reading Darcy’s letter, after she rejects his first marriage proposal that she has no reason to despise him as she had, and that he is a very delectable person. This serves as a turn pointing as Elizabeth becomes aware of her pride

Equally, Mr Darcy tells his friend Mr Bingley how outspoken and rude the Bennet girls are, and how he dislikes the family. He makes this known to Elizabeth by refusing to dance with her. “Indeed, sir, I have not the least intention of dancing. I entreat you not to suppose that I moved this way in order to beg for a partner.” Mr Darcy replied with this, when asked if he would like to dance with her.

Pride and Prejudice, a Jane Austen novel, is one of the most classical pieces of literature in history. It has been evaluated and critiqued a countless number of times, and has been adapted into several films. It can be argued that there is a lot to be retained by readers from this literary work, an important message that can be passed down from generation to generation. During Jane Austen’s time, in the early 1800’s, women were around to be married off, bear children, and cater to their man. Men were meant to work and instruct their women, and the more money you had, the more respected you were. A woman’s goal in life was to marry

Elizabeth Bennet is a very good example of both pride and prejudice. She is her father’s favourite as she is the cleverest of his children, in his words she “has something more of quickness than her sisters”. The first time she meets Mr Darcy, at an assembly (ball) she overhears Mr Bingley attempting to convince him to dance. He refuses. When Bingley suggests he dance with Elizabeth, describing her as very pretty (though not as beautiful as Jane) Darcy is not convinced, replying that “she is tolerable, but not handsome enough to tempt me”. To Elizabeth’s credit she tries to laugh it off, relaying the story to her friends but the reader can see she is more affected by the comment than she lets on during her conversation with Charlotte Lucas after the ball. Charlotte says his pride “does not

     In Jane Austen's novel Pride and Prejudice, set in the Regency Period, dance performs several important functions.  Dance patterns emulate courtship rituals, marking dance as a microcosm for courtship and marriage - two main themes of the novel.  The Regency period propagated the belief that no ingredient was more essential to a courtship than dancing:  "To be fond of dancing was a certain step towards falling in love..." (Austen 7).  Therefore, knowledge of dance - dance steps as well as dance etiquette - was a crucial necessity and was often acquired through study and awareness of conduct codes.  These crucial codes were disseminated through popular courtesy/conduct books, which

Mr. Bennet denies but he secretly goes without telling anyone. The Bennetts are then invited to a ball at the Bingleys mansion. This being where the Bennett sisters and their primary love interests will first meet. At this ball though things don't go exactly as planned in regards to Elizabeth. Charles Bingley instructs Fitzwilliam Darcy to ask Elizabeth to dance. In response Fitzwilliam calls Elizabeth tolerable and says that Jane is the only beautiful girl at the ball. This is overheard by Elizabeth and sparks her first impression of Fitzwilliam. Which at this point she sees him as a rude, arrogant, and proud member of the Upper class who doesn't like to dance with females of a lower social status. Although initially Elizabeth does find Fitzwilliam to be tall and handsome. This leads Elizabeth to have a dislike of Fitzwilliam which then will make way for her current attitude towards him during this point in the novel. Throughout a series of events Darcy’s idea of Elizabeth changes into the polar opposite of his idea of her at the beginning of the novel. Elizabeth’s idea of Darcy changes much more slowly throughout the novel at one point turning down a proposal from Darcy toward the beginning of the second half