Marriage, Good Or Bad? By Laurie Essig And Lynn Owens

The book has a section entitled, “Marriage is traditional” and in that particular section it mentioned about how “marriage has changed over time.” When examined current day marriage trends show that people are looking for partnership or soul mates, not for the most traditional reasons of the past. The idea that one person is supposed to be with one person for the rest of their life is no longer relevant. It is possible to have many happy years with one person, but that does not mean that these people will die together. People can have a falling out. Situations change—people do grow. If people stayed stagnant their whole lives, where would society be? With the way

In the play Tartuffe, Molière portrays marriage in a unique way. He expresses a different perspective on marriage that most people would disagree with. In the play, marriage never seems to base around love but rather seems to be a very serious part of their life. Mariane submits to her father because during this time period the father was able to choose whom his daughter would marry. This submission is not based on love but rather who her father enjoys the best. It puts a great deal of pressure on the father to make the right decision. Marriage to Tartuffe would have caused Mariane a lifetime of discontent and it would have also associated the

Marriage is a relationship is about coming together in which two people have promised themselves being with each other. However, marriage in the United States has changed in the 1950s from what it is today. Marriage in the 1950s was different because there was no such idea of a divorce because women had to fix their marriage. (Tartakovsky). Yet, marriage that occurs today people can get a divorce in America. Marriage is better today in America than in the 1950s because of more freedom and not being pressured into marriage in society. This time period 2015 for me is more preferable to live in for marriages instead of in the 1950s. Although marriage is a union between two people, there is a

“Marriage and Love”, a short essay by Emma Goldman, gives a wonderful argument regarding love and marriage, in fact, she nails it. Marriage does not equal love or has anything nothing to do with it. Not only that, but the marriage could also easily kill whatever relationship was there prior to the declaration. Marriage is simply a social construct, one that imposes control by religion, tradition, and social opinion (Goldman 304). However, if marriage is such the ball and chain that we all joke about, then why do people get married?

In the article “What if Marriage is Bad for Us?” Laurie Essig and Lynn Owens summarize the things that

In her book Marriage a History Stephanie Coontz explains the male breadwinner family model and its dominance in family life during the 40’s, 50’s, and early 60’s. An illustration of the male breadwinner model is composed of a father, mother, and two children; typically a boy and girl close in age. Funded by their father’s well paying middle class salary, the wife and children live a comfortable life in suburbia and participate regularly in consumer trends. Perceived as the head of the household, the father was the sole financial provider. On the other hand the mother was the head of domestic life and was responsible for the children. The popular 1950’s TV show The Adventures of Ozzie and Harriet exemplified this family model. With regard to the male breadwinner family model, imagine having eight other brothers and sisters. Imagine growing up without a mother, and with a father who worked constantly. Then consider living this life alongside your peers who come from the “normal” male breadwinner families Coontz describes… How would your family differ from your peers? What would be your thoughts and feelings towards family life? More importantly, how would these unique circumstances change your perception of the nuclear family?

“Will Your Marriage Last?”, by Aviva Patz, is a cohesive article about marriage and divorce. Aviva Patz is the executive editor of Psychology Today. Patz narrates the story of Ted Huston, a professor at the University of Texas, who followed the lives of 168 couples for 13 years after their wedding date. She was then able to draw conclusions about what makes a couple stay together or end up filing divorce papers. Although marriages and divorce are the themes of this article, it is really about society’s pressure on young people to be perfect.

In over half a century, marriage has transformed from being a social requirement to simply being an option in today’s society. What has caused this change? Many institutions in our society have changed drastically along with marriage. Although these institutions have not caused marriage to be optional, they do strongly correlate with the decreased value. The economy, education, religion, and government have all altered since the 1950s. When any institution encounters a change, all other institutions are affected. Family is a major institution in society, and I believe that marriage is an important aspect of this institution. Cohabitation, religion, women in the work world and divorce have all effected the way marriage is viewed today.

Marriage has been a heated controversy for the past few years because people often marry for the wrong reasons. Anyone who thinks of an ideal marriage would think of two people loving each other and sharing a personal bond or goals together. Marriage is regularly defined as the legally or formally recognized union of two lovers as partners in a personal relationship. This definition remarks there is an actual connection between two people in marriage, but do people actually consider this when committing to “love” and “support” their partners forever? As research and studies have shown, people ultimately get married for many reasons, except love. This philosophy can be easily applied to the short poem, “Marriage” by Gregory Corso. In this emotional poem, the author argues marriage is more effectively understood or known for culture and convenience rather than through the abstract considerations of love. Here, we can identify people generally decide to marry for the incorrect reasons, for instance the story of the author himself. Corso finds himself confused multiple times, wondering if he should marry to not be lonely, for tradition and for his physical and mental health. He disregards love, a relationship or a connection with his future wife. General ways of convenience like loneliness, health and economic status between cultural stereotypes and religion are usually the true reasons of why people chose to have the commitment of marriage with another person.

The purpose of this paper is to examine the field of marriage and family counseling beginning with the history and development of the profession and its importance in the field of counseling. This paper will also evaluate five major themes relevant to Marriage and Family Therapy which include: roles of Marriage and Family Therapists; licensure requirements and examinations; methods of supervision; client advocacy; multiculturalism and diversity. The author will discuss significant aspects to the field of Marriage and Family Therapy such as MFT identity, function, and ethics of the profession. This paper will assess biblical values in relation to Marriage and Family Therapists and to the field

Specifically, they maintain that “to say marriage creates wealth is to confuse correlation with causation” (161). Perhaps marriage does not make you rich, but the authors oversimplify matters by leaving out any mention of the ways that it can help couples who are not well-off. Even for couples living paycheck to paycheck, marriage makes financial sense if they are the right match and able to have an enduring marriage. Kate Ashford at Forbes magazine reported that some couples never thought about the benefits they can get from the system before choosing to cohabit rather than getting married. Marriage can bring Social Security benefits to savings on health insurance and lower rates of mortgage when buying a home (Ashford).

Another point that I disagree with Doe’s argument is the economic benefits that she says cohabiting couples are missing, which may be true for some cases but not all. Ninetta Papadomichelaki and Keith Vance wrote an article called, “The Importance of Being Married” agree with me that marriage is obsolete. They share the same argument about cohabitation couples having more money than married couples when they say, “Marriage doesn’t even provide a tax break as in many cases couples pay the so-called “marriage penalty” by being charged more taxes than if they filed as individuals.” (Vance, 261). Doe’s argument about economic benefits from marriage may work for many marriages, but not ALL of them. How about those couples that meet each other in

The con of marriage is equal for both men and women since one cannot merely live without the other. Marriage had a different meaning for men and women almost six decades ago. Women cannot bear heavy lifting, as that is a man’s job. Men don’t enjoy cleaning and don’t want to be seen doing it, for it is consider women’s work. During the nineteen-hundreds, marriage was a necessity for women since they could not work for themselves, so women needed to marry into a wealthy family. The man she marries needs to have money, so she knows that she will be well taken care of, and inherit the solid earnings of her beloved. Men want sex and women want a family. However, both genders need each other to fulfil what the other one wants. Men crave sex by being tempted by a woman’s beauty, however, being worked-up led to wanting to have sex, but he could not since he is not married. On top of being deprived of sexual release from a woman he must work even harder (no pun intended) to convince the women he chose that he is worthy of sleeping with her. Furthermore, providing her with financial and emotional security to offset the start of a good marriage. He would need to earn the trust of not only her, but her parents, definitely her father. Moreover, he currently has to court her for a while, and propose the question of marriage with a ring. To him, giving her, a polished ring validates how

Waite and Gallagher also discuss the benefits that marriage gives to couples. Including the financial benefits, in that through specialization and by sharing incomes getting married boosts standard of living by thirty percent and this benefit is not incurred by cohabitating, as those who cohabitate do not share as much and are less committed to the wellbeing of their partner. In addition to the financial benefits, they also discuss the emotional benefits of knowing you have someone who loves you and who would take care of you. Children similarly benefit from having married parents as there are more financial resources available to help take care of them and they get to spend more time with at least one parent.

Generally, marriage is defined as the legal contract between spouses that establish rights and obligations between them, between them and their children in law (Oxford). As far as I am concerned, marriage is not only represents the relationship between two people or with their Children. Marriage is to use the power of law to encourage people to take responsibility for setting up their family, raising their Children and preserve their love. Most people may have more pressure when they get married because they need to pay for their house, create a better environment for their children and preserve their love. The pressure from the marriage is helpful to their growth, because they require people to work hard earn more money for their families and be patient to protect their love.