Marriages are a big responsibility in many different reasons. For instance, if the marriage is

This behavior is considered to be abusive because it negatively affects the victim and the people around them like other family members, friends, co-workers, etc. Due to gender rules in society, women are typically seen as weak and submissive and a majority of the time they tend to be the main victims when it comes to domestic violence. Statistics shows that this crime kills about “one-quarter of all American women” (Life at Home, 365) a year while millions of other women suffer at the hands of their partner. With time domestic violence has morphed into five main categories which include physical, verbal, financial, sexual and psychological or emotional abuse. That includes anything that is meant to harm, threaten, frighten, manipulate, humiliate, intimidate, or falsely accuse the victim. It takes place all over the world and is evident in every social class. It can happen to anyone regardless of their race, gender, age, sexual orientation, or beliefs. Domestic violence is most common with adults, especially those who are married yet they are certainly not the only ones to experience domestic abuse. Research shows that when children witness domestic violence between their parents, boys are more likely than girls to abuse their future intimate partners, while girls who normally witness domestic violence are more likely to be the victims as adults in future relationships (Weebly.com). There has been

Women and men with low-self-esteem tend to be afraid to start over or walk away from the things they have built with their abusive partner, so they attend to except a lot therefore they become victims of explosive conflict. Most women and men hold on to their partner in hopes that they will change therefore they have to walk around as they are walking on hot coals, in hopes that they won’t set the bad temper individual off. In this case a lot of physical and mental abuse takes place.

Even though we think of it as men hurting women, there are times where it is women hurting men. As we saw in the movie, thin line between love in hate, Brandi had caused harm to Darnell because he chose to go back to his high school sweetheart. Let us say that you and your spouse were in a heated argument. You are going back and forth saying some things that you know would hurt their feelings or you are bringing up things that they have told you about in their past. Would you consider this DV? Often, people are just thinking that you are saying it because you were mad, but in fact, you are hurting that person mentally. When children witness domestic violence between their parents or the ones that are currently taking care of them, they often tend to pick up those behaviors because that is what they are accustomed too. According to Flanery, R (1992) if someone witnesses an event due to domestic violence that even can be overwhelming. But if it is untreated it can more than likely turn into Post traumatic stress disorder

Being in an unhealthy marriage does not only mentally drain you but also emotionally. Kingsolver compares an unhealthy marriage to “a slow asphyxiation” and to feeling lonely (67). She uses this comparison to emphasize the fact that sometimes marriage can end up killing you slowly. You feel like you cannot be yourself and more importantly you are not happy. Feeling like you are losing your breath slowly is an unpleasant feeling. You feel desperate for some kind of alleviation. Kingsolver states, “disassembling a marriage in these circumstances is as much fun as amputating your own gangrenous leg” (68). A “gangrenous leg” has no fix, and so does a “nonfunctioning marriage” (Kingsolver 67-68). It is better to cut off something that is no good. It is worse suffering through the pain and letting things get worse. Once you cut off what is making you unhappy you feel

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors, which some individuals use to control others in their family or home. Most domestic violence starts with emotional abuse which can lead to verbal abuse. When a person you love or care about break you down by saying, “No one want to be with you, you are ugly, you cannot make it without me and you would not be successful or you better not do something or I will beat you.” Verbal abuse can make a

Domestic violence is an act which one individual purposely harms another, usually someone they are close with, in order to please themselves or to get what they want out of it. Many American’s do not believe that domestic violence is a that big of an issue because many don’t hear or see it daily. The terrifying fact is that on average, one out of four women are domestically abused by their spouse. According to the New Choices, Inc. there are twenty-three warning signs that people are involved in a domestic relationship (Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence). The majority of the signs including having the spouse being controlling and having to be in power. They are always having to know where the spouse is and if they think about leaving, that individual will either threaten them or threaten to harm themselves in order to make that person stay in the unhealthy relationship. The abuser is generally obsessed with power and control. If they do not feel like they are in control of their spouse or have a higher power than them, they will use the act of domestic violence in order to put

Imagine being in a marriage where your partner would constantly nag you for not agreeing to the way they saw things. They never wanted to know what you thought about the topic of discussion if it was not the same as what they had in mind. Then, when you disagree with them, they get angry and tell you how they wish you would just feel the same way. This is emotional abuse in a nutshell. Unshared perspectives, unrealistic expectations, and lack of communication in a marriage causes emotional abuse which is a main cause of divorce in American Society.

Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” Abusers choose to use certain things against their spouse to make them feel bad. For example, an abuser could beat you and then make you feel bad for what they’ve just done. Domestic

When someone in the relationship is having an affair it’s hard to forgive and move on but there is no magic potion to fix it back together it takes teamwork. The divorce rates are skyrocketing as the years go on. Most marriages don’t even think about seeking help to improve their marriage and they wait too long to even consider help. Marriage is something that people do when they are committed to each other and want to be happy and in love. Many things change this along the way throughout the marriage and solutions to these marital problems are available. Many people think that their solutions are going to work, but they haven’t tried marriage counseling, its easily one of the most effective ways to save marriages.

“Belief that the abusive partner will change because of his remorse and promises to stop battering is a big reason why woman being abused don’t leave the abuser. Woman who are being abused stay with the abuser because that’s all they know.” (“Facts v.s Myths”).They do not know that they should leave the abuser because they believe that they deserve the abuse they are being put through. Abuse can start putting thoughts into the person being abused mind making them think that it is their fault and when that abusive partner comes home and starts yelling they automatically start to think that it is their fault.

Within the American society many different types of domestic abuse that exist, but I will be discussing four of them. Physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual abuse. In the U.S 85% of women are physically abused compared to 15% of men. Physical abuse means inflicting pain on someone by use of physical force with the intention to harm them. Women between the ages of 18 and 34 may experience domestic violence at some point in their life. There are 38,028,000 women throughout the U.S that have been physically abused in their lifetime by an intimate partner, and 4,774,000 women that experience abuse daily (Vagianos, 2015). In the world there is a stereotype that only women are victims of domestic abuse, but men can also fall victim to this abuse. According to Psychcentral.com men are thought to be the only ones who abuse their spouse/partner due to the fact that they are stronger but, 33% of men have been abuse in their lifetime. Even though women are said to be weaker than men it is still possible for them to abuse men physically, by biting slapping or even destroying their personal belongings women also tend to emotionally abuse their partner more often

Abuse is not always physical violence. Emotional and verbal abuse fall into the non-physical abuse aspect. Just because there is no physical pain, these types of abuse eventually lead to fear, and should not be overlooked. Also, these types of abuse may reflect why victims have a problem leaving their spouse. Being too fearful to leave is one of the most common reasons why victims stay with an abusive partner. Sometimes when couples argue, there is a type of violence within the home where the abuse consist of couples pushing one another, slapping and grab one another, but the abuse never goes further. This too is abuse, and should be dealt with just as seriously as the type of abuse that lands victims in the hospital with a black eye. No abuse is too small to be

Domestic violence is use to gain and maintain total control over a victim. An abuser knows how to play with feeling .They use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear down and keep a person under control.

The over all purpose of abuse is to gain and maintain total power and control over the victim. With power achieved, the victim relies solely dependent on the abuser. The cause of abuse can not be traced to a specific reason, making domestic violence hard to predict or prevent. Some reasons as to abuse can stem back to growing up in an abusive household, drug use, alcohol abuse, poverty, marital strain, or personality disorders. Stress also plays a big role in abuse along with unrealistic expectations. When a spouse or partner is under extreme stress whether it be at work, with parents, or friends the stress combined with the unrealistic expectation for everything to be perfect and exactly the way they want things acts as a trigger to abuse. The abuser lashes out, out of anger or frustration because of stress and their unrealistic

     There are various forms of emotional abuse but they all contribute to the victim as feeling helpless and inability. One form of emotional abuse is verbal dominance. Meaning the victims opinions, feelings and thoughts carry no weight and are pretty much meaningless. A second form of emotional abuse is isolation, this occurs when the abuser limits the victims access to money, use of the car and other normal activities. The abuser also talks negatively about friends and family making it uncomfortable to maintain outside relationships. A third form of emotional abuse is guilt, this occurs when the abuser blames the spouse for his/her assaultive behavior with rationale, after a period of time the spouse blames self for the battering. A fourth form is fear; the abuser threatens harm to spouse, family or friends in order to stay in control of a situation. Finally a fifth form of spousal abuse is humiliation, this is when the abuser may put down the spouse in front of children, family and friends. (Wallace)