Matching Men : Tinder And The Presentation Of Masculinity

At some point in our lives where we are searching for that special someone. The methods of going about dating have changed quite dramatically over the years. Going out has grown from traditional dating, to internet 'dating', to group dating.

Online dating has altered the process used for obtaining a romantic partner as well as has altered the process of compatibility matching. Online dating has created a new platform for meeting potential partners. Romantic relationships contribute to emotional well-being and individuals crave the intimate connections that are formed through their romantic partnerships; it is a fundamental part of human motivation. These dating sites have created a medium for potential partners to meet by alleviating the daunting task of conventional dating by solving the problems such as lack of access to potential partners, confronting potential partners regarding their romantic availability, and gathering the courage to approach strangers face to face (Finkel, Eastwick, Karney, Reis, & Sprecher, 2012).

Society’s current structure of masculinity is unforgiving in form. It cuts out other forms of masculinity, it physically and mentally demanding, and its ill effects extend far beyond the men it infuses itself in. Yet what would we do if we were given other options for masculinity, ones that allowed for unique blends of attitudes and perceptions? Looking in to the lives of homeless men we can see the forced strategies which create new masculine codes created for the adaption against patriarchal pressures. They are made out of survival need to circumnavigate the painful mental and physical reality that is only made worse by harsh masculine standards. Yet these new masculinities hold out a form of hopefulness for society. They offer up new discussion to what it means to be a man, the potential for change, and what we can expect from changes in male identity over time. Using what we learn from the disadvantaged, we can hope to improve the lives of people, although the process will take time, effort, and careful mediation.

Activity 7(pp. 24-25): 1) In the newspaper I read an article about match and tinder. A person who is trying to find a spouse may create a fun and flirty profile on an online dating website. The person is creating a positive public persona of someone it would be fun to date or join in a relationship.

In the years leading up to the feminist movement, men initiated the contact with women. Men would woo young women by their charm and with the permission of her parents, spend time together. As time progressed, dating became more common and a way of really getting to know someone. With the emergence of the twenty-first century, dating has taken an entirely new form with many stages. The first stage of dating is of course the initial “liking of someone because they are attractive” stage. This stage then leads to the talking stage. As…. says, “talking” is a time in which two people may casually get to know each other through texting, talking on the phone and hanging out casually, possibly while going on dates.

The reading that interested me most was “The Decline of the Date and the Rise of the College Hook Up” by Paula England and Rueben J. Thomas. The initial motive for this research was that an undergraduate student of England’s “wanted to do a research paper on why students on campus didn’t date much anymore” (pg 69). The two researchers, England and Thomas, then began questioning students on Stanford University’s campus about what they thought about the increasing occurrence of hook ups as compared to going out on dates.

Most feminists neglect these notions because they show superiority of the man as well as undermining the women. This significantly decreased the willingness of Americans to put in the effort to date someone, because it is seen as such a burden. As was said before, the part of the American Dream that included marriage seemed very important during and before World War II, but after, why even marry? Hook up culture is defined as “spontaneous, commitment-free (and often, alcohol-fueled) romantic flings.” This definition tears down the new forms of dating that have come to be in American society. It is difficult to settle down or live an ‘ideal’ life because there is no promise that everyone is looking for a long-term committed relationship. As technology starts to match the population of desperate singles up with random people, the need and want to prove oneself worthy of another’s attention and affection ceased to exist. Romance no longer finds itself within American society, it is just an idea that seems appealing to the masses. Tech entrepreneur Cheryl Yeoh from San Francisco refuses to go on a date unless it is a week away, because she knows there will be nothing special or romantic about it if there is no time to prepare. Actions like these attempt to save the dying romance culture. But modern technology is an uncontrollable force that is manipulating the minds of future

This maxim works often, but recently it worked in Delta Air Lines’ campaign Delta Dating Wall. The campaign gave people the opportunity to get photos taken by fake world famous landmarks to up their Tinder dating profiles. The audience got free high quality selfies, an interest of many people on dating apps, and in turn Delta Air Lines

Pay more attention to your username,” she asks the question, “How do you create the kind of online identity that lands you the first date?” Izadi explains this by providing sections in her article of the Do’s and Don’ts that could affect how someone perceives your online identity. She lists the Do’s as be thoughtful of your username and to be authentic and the Don'ts as don’t only talk about who you are and don’t just post selfies. She provides some background information about how researchers from Queen Mary University of London thought about how people are perceived in online dating through their profiles so they analyzed previous research on attraction and they went through nearly “4,000 studies, settling on analyzing 86, with literature ranging from psychology, sociology, and computer, behavioral and pre cognitive sciences, to figure out the most effective approaches to digital dating.” She also goes to say “ You’re only as good as the profile your craft.” This leaves people with online dating profiles to think about if the way their online profile is set up, is directly affecting their chances of a first

Jace Hansich, a freshman at South Dakota State University stated that he felt that he has had both positive and negative experiences using Tinder (Interview). Jace said, “A positive is that I get matches and it makes me feel good about myself. A negative would be that I have swiped left on a lot of girls and it kind of makes me feel bad and degrading” (Interview). My last interview was with a Junior from the School of Mines, Dalton Kuel described his experiences as mostly negative (Interview). Dalton said, “The majority of mine, if my intentions are to actually try and hang out, usually end up pretty negative. It’ll get to the point of ‘yeah we should get a cup of coffee’ and then when it comes time to actually meet its like they are not

Homnack (2015) suggests that “online dating has changed the ways in which interpersonal relationships are developed and maintained” (p. 2); Online daters are granted access to use various platforms through which they can easily meet other singles alike to them. Holloway and Valentine (2003) highlight that “for marginalized people, the internet allows them to meet other people alike to themselves who may not be immediately available in their local social circles” (Pascoe, 2011, p. 9). According to Pascoe (2009a) “young adults especially are at the forefront of developing, using, reworking, and incorporating new media into their dating practices in ways that might be unknown, unfamiliar and sometimes scary to adults” (p. 117). Today, the main

My biggest issue with your current profile photos is that some of them aren’t a very good quality. Particularly photos 3 and 4, the image is quite blurry, so it’s hard to see you clearly. If I was swiping through your profile and couldn’t get a clear idea of what you looked like, I’d likely just swipe left. I also don’t like that you have two shirtless profile pictures. You clearly are in great shape, but two shirtless pictures comes across as vain. While you should be proud of what great shape you are in, I think one picture would communicate that just as well, and seem less vain.

In our society today a person can often look around a room of people and see nothing but the top of their heads, along with their eyes staring down at lit up screen filled with tremendous possibilities. One thing you doubtfully will view is everyone surrounding talking to each other making kinship with in their proximity. Instead, making connections through their phones. In the article written by Nancy Jo Sales “Tinder and the Dawn of the“Dating Apocalypse””, Sales speaks of the dating culture of the current twenty-first century and her views on how online dating has affected thus creating a sort of “Dating Apocalypse”. In the culture of intimacy may it be consciously or subconsciously people are seeking love and security in their lives through hookups and technological dating cites such as Tinder.

In today's post-modern society, dating practices are both vast and varied. People meet their romantic partners in any number of locations including at work, at the bar, and increasingly, on the Internet. Online dating has become very popular over the past decade, and according to a study done in Washington DC, over 74% of single Internet users in the US have taken part in at least one online dating-related activity. In addition, this study found that 15% of American adults (that's 30 million people) say that they know someone who has been in a long-term relationship with a partner they met online (Biever, 2006).

I bet you wish you could swipe left to not have to read this paper? Or maybe with that first sentence I have intrigued you to swipe right and keep reading? I am of course finding some humor in the left or right swipes, based on Tinder, the dating app that allows its users to swipe through thousands of photos a day to meet new people. Whether or not you have used Tinder, there 's a great chance that you have heard about it, or know someone who has used it. This mobile application is self proclaimed to be, "The fastest and easiest way to meet new people and form new connections." (Tinder Facebook) Since Tinder was put out to the public in 2012, this free app has become one of the most used dating applications. (CQR) On a rise with its worldwide millions of users, I find Tinder certainly interesting, but just like other mobile application and social media, Tinder is part of our societies consumption of technology, and is part of our individual inner strive to find self fulfillment in, "the perfect picture."