Men and Women Verbal and Non Verbal Communication

​​Gender is defined as whatever behaviors and attitudes a group considers proper for its males and females. Unlike sex, gender is something that we learn from the day we are born. “Young children begin to acquire gender role stereotypes at about the same time they develop gender identity and by the age of 3 or 4 most children” (Amanda Youmans). Peers, community, media, religion and our upbringing all play a role in the understanding of our culture and what is considered acceptable for males and females. When the sex of a child is revealed, they are automatically placed into a gender specific role with certain expectations. There are things in this world such as colors, toys, media depiction and taught behaviors that play into these gender roles.

Nonverbal communication is used in order to communicate or send cues between people. This communication is usually used in order to get the point across when we are communicating or expressing our feelings. Some gestures include waving, clapping, thumbs up/down, or even a middle finger when a car unexpectedly gets in your lane when you’re driving. Just like verbal communication, nonverbal communication is taught and learned at early stages of life. As mentioned in On Being Different; culture can be absorbed at an early age in reflection to “the unique human capacity to learn” just like being taught what stop, yes, no symbolize in hand gestures. Some cultures I am most familiar with would include; American, Mexican and European culture.

Throughout many studies, researchers have said that gender develops from families, which is part of the social construction in children. According to Coltrane and Adams, Gender is defined as “To what it means to be a man or a woman in a specific time and place” (Coltrane and Adams). People in this world think that gender is automatically part of biological sex, but according to Coltrane and Adams, it is not a direct result of biological sex. The term is defined as “to refer relatively distinct biological differences between male and females such as genitals, hormones, and chromosomes” (Coltrane and Adams). For gender it is also social and it refers to how a person thinks that someone should look, act and feel (Coltrane and Adams). On the daily life, people will usually assume that a person “is” the gender that corresponds to his or her sex: females are feminine and males are masculine (Coltrane and Adams). In addition, gender also describes how the typical man and woman are supposed to present themselves. A man presenting himself as masculine and a woman presenting herself as feminine in particular cultures (Coltrane and Adams). In other words how women should act and how men should act.

At a very young age we are introduced to a gender identity based upon the sex we were born with. Girls are associated with the color pink, dolls, nurturing tendencies, and inclined to be more emotional. While boys are associated with the color blue, the nature of masculinity, sports, and said to be more outspoken. However, gender and sex are two different things. Sex is the biological differences between female and male, while gender is social construct attached with social roles

Gender can sometimes be seen as biological characteristics humans have, when in fact it is the social characteristic ones society deems either masculine or feminine. Sex, on the other hand, is the biological differences in humans, for example, hormones and sex organs. People usually play gender roles in society, otherwise known as gender ideology. Gender ideology is when men and women have certain attitudes regarding their ‘fixed’ roles, responsibilities and rights. Throughout history men and women have been socialized to play these expected roles that have been placed on them due to their sex. In my own personal life I have encountered many instances where I have been socialized in relation to sex and gender.

Over this summer course I have learned a lot about communication. I learned how significant nonverbal and verbal communication is, along with listening. I never fully understood how big communication is in our daily lives. I now realize that it is a huge aspect of how we continue in our lives. This course has showed me different levels of communication.

Gender is socio-psychological characterizing of being male or female. Gender identity is the sense of being identified as one of these genders, and it is usually established before three years of age. Gender role describes the expectations of the society as how a male or female should behave according to their sex. Biology is the natural factor for differential gender development, and biologically a person with 46 XY chromosomes in their cells and gonads of testes would be a male, and a person with 46 XX chromosomes in their cells and gonads of ovaries would be a female. Also, hormones such as testosterone and estrogen, and evolution offer some insight in to the psychological differences in the genders (Santrock, 2009). However, there

The communication styles differences between men and women have been a strong topic of interest in the research world for centuries. These differences have led to miscommunication, conflict, and even dissatisfaction between couples throughout the world. The study analyzes this communication styles within couples, more specifically among married couples. It has questioned how differences in communication styles between this married couples married five years or less affect marital satisfaction. This study will be conducted through the use of an interaction analysis. The goal is to increase the amount of knowledge regarding effective communication and how it is relate to marital satisfaction in order to ultimately aid the rise of marital satisfaction and the decrease of the divorce rate among the United States.

Gender doesn’t necessarily reflect your biological sex. Gender is created and re-created depending on our social life (Lorber). It is something we construct, adjust since birth and might keep throughout our lives . Since gender identity is presented at a very early age, this social construction starts with parents because no matter how we think about it, as a society, we have gendered roles we follow(Lorber). When you're born, parents decide which way to direct you. It’s all about timing and the way gender is applied to us. “Parenting is gendered, with different expectations for mothers and fathers” Lorber says. It is from parenting where we start to learn how we should behave depending on our biological sex. That’s why the way parents dress

I remember being in Pre-K, when they gave us our first handbook and one of the first things we learned in class was to identify ourselves as boys or girls. How could we do so? There were two drawings on the book; one of a naked boy with a blue background that explained boys have a penis and another of a girl with a pink background that explained girls have a vagina. Besides that, my parents were always very strict about how ladies behave, how they dress, and how they not play rough with boys. In middle school, I went to a Christian school were they constantly told me the differences between a male and female and clarify all the time that I was a female, just in case I forgot.

Without any doubt, support is something everyone needs to achieve their life goals, that’s is why you see people heading to places where support is provided.

Gender is set so thoroughly in our actions, beliefs, and desires, so that to us it appears to be completely natural (Eckert and McConnell, year/pg. unknown). A major part of gender identity is understanding the difference between sex and gender. Sociology shows and explains the major differences between sex and gender (Tischler, 2011, p. 247). While sex refers to the physical and biological differences between men and women, gender refers to the attributes of masculinity and femininity that are based on biological distinctions (Tischler, 2011, p. 247).

2.My parents and family members never influenced my beliefs in any which way about sexual orientation. The possible reason I never got influenced one way or the other is a result of having no one approachable to spark up a discussion about same sex matters. The only time I heard about anything related to LGBT is in the church. My pastor at the time emphasized on how it’s wrong to have other sexual behavior except heterosexual behavior.

There exists a disparity in the communication phenomenon between men and women. This disparity according to scholars can be attributed to the male dominance in the society today and relationship tensions between couples. A study on cross-sex conversations showed that, when men and women engage in a friendly conversation, they do so as equals but they do not play the same roles in the communication. Women tend to ask more questions and likely to utter utterances that encourage responses from the other speaker. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to interrupt their partner’s conversations and make direct opinions and facts to control or dominate the conversation. Thus, the communication phenomenon between men and women is strikingly distinct.

“If women ruled the world, there would be no wars. Instead, there would be a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other.” This quote is a perfect example of how communication between men and women vary. Communication has been and will continue to be the most essential aspect of human existence, which happens to differ greatly between men and women. Being aware of the differences between men and women in communication is significant in day-to-day interactions. Normally, conversation is a two way street between two individuals. There is ingoing and outgoing information, that is, one individual is listening and the other is communicating information. In general, men and women have very distinctive attributes but the fact that communication is such an important factor in our daily lives makes the art of communication such a dire process to understand. Imagine a world where communication between men and women were technically the same. The world would be much different.