1. Is Paul and Mario’s story of falling in love on the day they met typical of how most couples fall in love?
This is not typical of how most people fall in love. Most people start off as simply liking each other’s company and slowly interacting more and more until they are actively seeking each other out. As they get closer they being to share more about themselves, both positive and negative aspects. As the begin to agree on goals for their relationship, there reactions become more similar, their psychological well-being becomes tied to the relationship, and finally they begin to see themselves as a couple and not just to people.
2. How might Robert Sternberg label the kind of love that Paul and Mario seem to be describing? How might
Sternberg's Theory of Love describes three components that make up different combinations or levels of love that can be shared between two people. The three components are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy refers to understanding and concern for the other person. This component deals with warm affection and getting to know each other on a deeper level. Passion refers to stronger feelings of emotion,
They are perfect. It is definitely true love. But only at first. Later it seems silly and immature. What true love actually is becomes apparent with age, and childhood crushes definitely are not true love.
While that sounds typical of a teenager, adults usually operate a little differently. The adults think of love in a strategic, convenient, and smart way. When Lord Capulet tried to marry Juliet to Paris, he was thinking what would be best for the whole Capulet name. As husband and wife, Juliet and Paris could carry on the family legacy. This quote shows how in love Romeo was with Juliet, and that he didn’t want her to marry Paris either: “...one fairer than my love? The all-seeing sun ne’er saw her match since first the world begun.” (I.ii.95-100) But why did they fall in love in the first place? The answer is fairly simple. It’s a chemical reaction. When the human body is “in love,” it releases the chemical dopamine - the same chemical that gives you the unique feeling of elation from being on drugs. Human beings are programmed to feel a certain way, when around particular people or situations - in this case, their feelings of love is putting them in a state of blissful euphoria. The scientific answer as to why we fall in love isn’t hard to wrap your head around. According to Marcelo Gleiser, “scientist have invented a machine that is able to analyze brain scans” and the images taken by the machine also map the blood flow to the brain. Although the science of love is mainly a chemical reaction, it’s also a multisensory reaction. Love isn’t just feeling a certain way about someone, it’s also what they smell like or what their voice sounds like - we’re not just dependent on looks. That’s why Romeo and Juliet fell in love, almost
Love does not always apply between people. There are many forms of love that have nothing to do with marriage, sex, or passion. One of them is Philautia, or love of self, which is completely different with selfish lover who is possess with owning their lover. Philautia is associated with narcissism, which one could form self-obsessed and focused on power and frame ("The Ancient Greeks' 6 Words for Love And Why Knowing Them Can Change Your Life").
Love, love, love; the only thing everybody talks about. Every movie, every series, every story talks about how two people fall in love and live happily ever after. All stories get to the conclusion that the love the couple shared was unique and that the two lovers matched perfectly together. But what happens when two lovers do not belong to the same social class? What happens when they don’t share common things they like? Are they not meant to be? “In love everything is possible”, someone once said. When someone is in love, he/she would make everything that he/she cans to make his/her lover happy and
In order for love, friendship to occur your desire to please the other will undoubtedly cause a friction with your inner self. At some point you must deny your desire for the other, or deny your humanity. Also the object in life, your choice, and the others choice must be mended harmoniously. Otherwise, and in most cases relationships are doomed to failure. “Hell is other people” (Sartre) She is unable to leave the dark apartment; her relation with parents, friends, and people is strained; she is no longer a part of the world.
Romantic love is a deep interaction between two persons. It is not just any interaction, but one in which both persons lose themselves in the other. “Concentration and fusion into the whole being can never take place through my agency, nor can it ever take place without me. I become through my relation to the Thou; as I become I, I say Thou” (Buber, pg. 160). So romantic love happens when an understanding comes to being that the other is you and potentially your entire universe of being for as long as you are in relation.
Have you ever noticed how, when you meet someone, you just click, or dont click? Then there is that one person, the one person, no matter what happens, you guys come back together? You guys could have a fight, but you guys are okay again soon, and it just eneded up making the relationship so much stronger. Im not saying this has to be a significant other, this could be a best friend, person you just adore, or of course your future wife or husband. Its your other half, soulmate, like thats your person.
Strangers meet, they break down social walls between one another, and they feel close, as one. They supposedly fell in love with one another, to Fromm, falling in love is not love, it’s more infatuation. Fromm describes
The first stage of romantic love begins with attraction. Whether you have been best friends for a long time or you just met the person, you begin your romantic relationship when there is that feeling of
One theory to explain why people fall in love is the evolutionary theory of love. This theory looks at love as an extension of our evolution. Since the goal of evolution is to survive, the traits that insure survival are passed down from generation to generation.
The triangular theory of love is a theory of loved developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. Presented in 1985, Sternberg was a member of the Psychology Department at Yale University. During his time as a professor, Sternberg emphasized his research in the fields of intelligence, creativity, wisdom, leadership, thinking styles, ethical reasoning, love, and hate. In the context of interpersonal relationships, "the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component."^(5)
According to the article, three factors are present when you fall in love: “Studies have found: You have to like the other person’s physical appearance; you have to find his or her personality desirable, and you have to feel the other person likes you” The teens had declared their love for each other within 3 hours of meeting. All they knew at the time was that they found each other attractive. This shows that they were infatuated with each other rather than in love because they knew nothing about each other except their
In M. Scott Peck’s work, The Road Less Traveled, he says “Love is too large, too deep ever to be truly understood or measured or limited within the framework of words” (81). He also seeks to define love as “The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's personal growth” (81). For Peck, he recognizes that the nature of love is so mysterious that a true satisfactory definition of love has yet to be created and suspects his own definition to be inadequate. He also recognizes that love is categorically vast in that it is divided into eros, philia, agape, and others.
A close-knit loving bond between two people can begin with a friendship. Whether it is a friendship between two males, two females, or one male and one female, these friendships will develop into love. In no way is it a romantic love, but this type of love connects and bonds friends. Friends may move away or friendships may wane, but the love between the two people burns on forever.