Mixed Family Interview Paper

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Overview Valarie is 18 years old and comes from a mixed Asian-American heritage. Valarie’s mother is from Thailand and his father is from America. Valarie is a special needs LD (learning disabilities) student recently started attending our church through a relationship with a girl in our youth group. We met through Wednesday Small Groups where I help with the youth guys group. While Valarie has only been coming to our gatherings for a short time we have developed a friendship and he was more than willing to share with me. In preparation for this interview, I reviewed some materials from my undergraduate studies on adolescent and developmental psychology, as well as, eastern religion and philosophy. These resources shaped my questions in several…show more content…
Valarie’s father is American and his mother is Thai. Valarie has an older sister who is in college. Valarie’s parents are divorced and he spends most of his time with his mother and sees his father infrequently, but it appeared that he has a good relationship with his father who lives a few hours away. Valarie mentioned that he gets teased a lot because of his looks and his struggles in school and that this is compounded by the fact that he doesn’t have a lot of people around at home to help him because his mom works a lot. Valarie’s family dynamic led to some interesting revelations about his life…show more content…
First, while I have gotten to know Valarie over the past few months since he started attending our church, I was surprised by several his answers. Valarie seems very private, perhaps a cultural influence from his mother, about many of the struggles he faces and yet there was a sense of deep pain from some of his life experiences. This is an area where much love, prayer and support is needed and I hope we can continue to provide some of this as a congregation. Second, I was astonished by the degree of perseverance, fearlessness and independence from someone who literacy level is somewhere around second grade. Valarie seems capable of some many things that I even might struggle with, like navigating the bus system, and yet is still so far from being able to independently care for himself. Finally, I was greatly moved by the struggle of being in a home with divided belief. It must be very confusing the mixed messages he is getting from his mother and from the church about what it means to have faith. Valarie seems genuinely committed to seeking after Christ and yet he is pressured by his mother to continue his Buddhist practices. Perhaps Christians fail to consider how they could and should support someone in this kind of situation. All I can do is support and encourage Valarie, at church and in prayer, allowing God to continue to work in his
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