Moller's Theory

Everyone faced with lots of different challenges such as divorce, death, and financial issues in their lives and stories are a way of coping with certain issues. Scott Russell Sanders’ tackled this issue in this essay “The Most Human Art”, and in Macbeth, by Shakespeare, the characters prove how this theory is inflicted in day to day life. In Scott Russell Sanders’ essay, he proves that the grieving can find safety and support through reading stories. He says that in most stories, there's a happy ending, like in the fairy tale formula which is “Once upon a time”, and “Happily ever after”.

The Death of Ivan Illych brings an excellent in-depth description of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s 5 cycles of grief theory. In the book, it shows how Ivan Illych goes through these cycles in their own individual way. The cycles that Kubler-Ross uses in her theory are: denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and acceptance. To get a better understanding of these cycles, this paper will describe each cycle and provide quotations that will help develop an idea of how someone going through these cycles may react.

The book, Lament For a Son, written by Nicholas Wolterstorff talks about his pain and grief after losing his 25-year-old son (Joy, 2009). His son died while on a mountain-climbing expedition. Dr. Wolterstorff has several books published during his career as a philosophical theology professor in Yale Divinity. However, he wrote Lament for a Son with a different journal style since it is a personal thing for him. The book is similar to a journal as he narrates the events that happened before and after his son’s death. The emotions expressed in the book are common among people who lose close relatives. What matters is how a person handles the issue. Kubler-Ross invented the five stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptancethat explain the escalation of grief when stricken by bad news (Axelrod, 2004). The paper looks into the book and its relation to the five stages of grief.

Brian Sztabnik’s podcast Talks with Teachers, episode 51 “Is Homework Helpful?” is a quick episode for teachers on the go. Taken from an article written on Edutopia, Sztabnik discusses five questions teachers should ask themselves when assigning homework. Sztabnik begins the podcast describing how much time his young nephew spends forty to fifty minutes up to double that amount when distractions and breaks are factored in on assignments. He cites that the National PTA recommends teachers assign 10-20 minutes of homework for first graders and increases that amount by 10 minutes each year. Consequently, by following this recommendation, students will spend at least 137,160 minutes doing homework from 1st to 12th grade. That equals 2,280 hours or 95 straight days of homework. Students in Finland get around a half an hour of homework but still score very high on International tests.

Kubler-Ross, E and Kessler, D (2005). On Grief and Grieving, London: Simon & Schuster. p7-28.

As Wolterstorff describes his continued grieving process, he investigates several books on grief, explaining that many encouraged him to avoid the pain he felt, turning to rationality. After discovering this advice, he quickly rejects the idea, arguing that he refuses to look away. He continually reminds himself that pain is not all that there is in life. This process of facing the pain allows him to accept joy without looking away from the death of his son (Wolterstorff, 1987, p.54).

“You know what I’ve found out about disappointments? I think that if we face them down, they can become our strengths.” (Bauer 113) In the novel Hope Was Here written by Joan Bauer, the main characters go through some difficult struggles. One of the main people, Braverman and Addie both had to overcome disconsolate times. Braverman chooses family over education. Addie goes through hard times when she losses her husband along with three unborn babies. This reminds me of the time where my mother’s friend, like Addie, lost a child, and had to overcome that. While people go through difficult struggles everyday, they learn to learn and grow from them. Like William J. H. Boetcker said, “The difficulties and struggles of today are but the price

Grief is a dominant emotional force that masses of people who suffer losses succumb to. How do people deal with grief? In 1969, the psychologist Elizabeth Kübler-Ross construed five possible stages of grief that people undergo to explain the emotions one feels during grief (Gregory). These stages, in chronological order, are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Kübler-Ross acknowledged that not all people experience the stages in a linear way, as well as noting that grief can be a “rollercoaster”, with a person In the novel The Catcher in the Rye, Holden Caulfield suffers the loss of his younger brother Allie to leukemia before the plot begins. This raises the question of how Holden deals with his loss. Throughout the Catcher in the Rye, Holden exhibits the characteristics of the five stages of grief.

"Do you think, Victor," said he, "that I do not suffer also? No one could love a child more than I loved your brother" (tears came into his eyes as he spoke); "but is it not a duty to the survivors, that we should refrain from augmenting their unhappiness by an appearance of immoderate grief? It is also a duty owed to yourself; for excessive sorrow prevents improvement or enjoyment, or even the discharge of daily usefulness, without which no man is fit for society." (78)

There is one thing in life that is inevitable - death. This fact makes it hard to lose loved ones. After reading the short stories “Removal of the Cherokees” by Burnett and “Christmas Eve on Lonesome” by Fox, Jr. it is apparent that the main theme is loss. Throughout these stories, the characters’ experience a loss of something that is exceedingly significant. The idea of losing someone you love is very agonizing.

Additionally, the women compare this grieving to the mourning process when their partner dies. Moreover, when their spouse passes away, not only are they morning a death, but they are learning how to transition into providing for their family (Sakarida, 2015).

Many things can leave a change to a person. For example, losing a close family member. To represent a fallout of this, the book Scrooge and Marley: A Christmas Carol Showed what happened to Scrooge after he lost Marley, someone that still liked Scrooge. After his death, Scrooge became grumpy and despised Christmas. This change of someone losing a family member, can go two ways someone can fight over it and look up to the bright things in life showing that they’re resilience. Or they can take Scrooge’s route and never forgive or become friends with anyone as long as they lived. Either way, the death of someone will impact your life heavily and feel sorry whenever you would think about it.

In this essay I will outline the main theoretical models relating to loss and grief.

Sigmund Freud was an influential psychoanalyst in the late 18th century to the early 19th century. He made many advances in the field of psychology which have impacted other academic areas such as sociology and social work. In his 1915 paper “Mourning and Melancholia” he connected the normal realm with the pathological. In which he “compared mourning – a normal if painful event from which hardly anyone is spared – with a pathological although very common one: melancholia” (Fiorini et al. 2007). The natural human process is to mourn the loved subject or object when it is lost. Freud explains that grief is the feeling of losing love and once it is fully lost desolation and fear takes its place

Rostow identifies five stages of economic development. The traditional society is characterized by the dominance of agriculture, which is largely at the subsistence level, and the non-realization of potential resources. In the second stage, economic growth begins to speed up. There is an expansion of trade, perhaps an increase in external influences, and an introduction of modern methods of production, which are used along the more traditional techniques. The take off stage occurs when old traditions are finally overcome, and modern industrialized society is born. Investment rates rise from five percent of national income to ten percent, one or more major manufacturers emerge, political and social institutions are