Dear Beverley Turner
I have read your article, “mums, I spy on my kids on Facebook and so should you”. This article is about a mother of three who spies on her kids over social networking sites such as, Facebook to protect and care for her children to see if they are not at harm whilst communicating online. The topic I shall mention in my letter is, is it a good thing or a negative action to ‘lurke’ on her children online to know if they are not at risk to harm. I am writing to you, because I disagree with this article about spying on children.
In my opinion kids and teenagers need to be more independent as they get older so they know how to deal with difficult decisions on their own. Although you are a mother and worry deeply about your kids, when they become older they will always relay on you to help them out in situations because they were never taught how to, when they were younger. “He adores the sense of independence and freedom”. By this quote it shows how much your son would like to be left alone and be able to enjoy the freedom. Why not let him live his life the way he would like to?
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Although in many countries an adult is legal at 16 and are known mature enough to make their own decisions. Although she clearly states “worrying about physical dangers is of course completely normal”. This shows that she is worried about the negative impact of social media and is worried about her children becoming victims of cyber bullying by having access to unlimited internet. Although this is one reason as to why she should spy on her children I still disagree with the
In Navigating Conflicting Norms, in the Privacy chapter of It’s Complicated by Danah Boyd, Boyd uses the voices of a conflicting mother and daughter to convey her statement. The mother reasons that if her daughter, Bly, puts information about her life on the internet that anyone can see then she should really be able to read her information because they have a “connection” being mother and daughter. It is later brought to light that privacy should be a matter of social norms and etiquette than technical access. Summed up, in this article, Boyd states that teens like whatever their parents can’t find. The teens could argue Erving Goffman’s position that you wouldn't stare at someone in public so you shouldn’t
¨The Undercover Parent¨ (March 16, 2008) is a news article written by Harlan Coben that claims parents should sit down with their children and address the possibility of concerns the parents may have about Internet safety and let them know that there is a likelihood that spyware will be installed on their computer. I both agree and disagree with Coben’s claims.
Hook. Background. Amy Webb discusses the security of online data by focusing on her friends and their child “Kate” as well as her decisions with her husband about what to post and what not to post about their own daughter. In the article “We Post Nothing about Our Daughter Online” by Amy Webb, the author cleverly uses labeling, pathos, and rhetorical analogies to argue her opinion that parents should not post personal information about their kids on social media.
Amanda Todd is a 15 year old girl from Canada. Just like many other teenagers, she let the idea of social media control her. Many parents nowadays don't monitor what their teenagers do online. Teenagers will go on social media sites to look for attention that they may not get at home, to meet friends that they don't know personally, they will even look for a romantic relationship with someone they have never met before. With social media comes emotional dangers, legal dangers, and future impacts.
“The Undercover Parent” is an article about whether or not parents should get a software that watches teens and children’s actions on the computer. So should parents of Teens and Tweens go undercover? Harlan Coben, the author of “The Undercover Parent” editorial (19 March 2008) from the New York Times online website claims that parents should have conversations about their Internet safety concerns with their teens and tweens, and let them know that Spyware is a possibility. I agree with what coben is arguing about. It talks about specific details on either giving parents an option on if they should download it or not, so the author writes good things and bad things about it. It's not snooping or spying on your teens. It basically for their safety. If they still had this software in the future, I would get this because everything the author says about this software is very agreeable. I would do it for my
For example, the author said “it is far easier for a predator to troll chat rooms and MySpace and Facebook”, But text messages and cell phones don’t offer the anonymity and danger of the Internet they are usually one-on-one with someone you know. I agree with the author said that parents should put spyware on their kids phones and computers, it might keep the kids from a lot of trouble. Parents should not be nosey or trying to eavesdrop but should know what their kids are doing. There's a lot thing that happen not just on the interent but in real life, they could be smoking or meeting with someone they do not know. They could into serious trouble if there meeting up with someone they do not know, the person could be a drug dealer, he may be a pedophile, or he might just kidnap your
However, this new Facebook’s feature can be backfired because Facebook invades users’ privacy. Many users felt like their privacy was completely infiltrated, just about everything users updated or changed was instantly blasted out to hundreds of friends. News Feed has kept all the users’ information “loud”, and allowed people to see pictures and posts, which could give out information that users might not want their friends to know. Users claim that News Feed features leave the door open for people to 'creep'. “Facebook has always tried to push the envelope” (p.545) and “Everyone is freaking out” (p.544). Using people’s first reaction to the Facebook’s “News Feed” feature, Thompson later explains the privacy problem that this new feature may have caused. Thompson tries to inform the readers both side of the benefits and disadvantages using Facebook. The author creates a great connection with the readers by doing so, makes the readers feel that he’s on the same with them, that he understands the whole circumstances.
To begin with, parents spy on their kids so they could know what they bring doing during their days.In the article the author states that “61 percent of parents checked the websites that their teenagers visited, 60 percent visited their social media accounts and 48 percent looked through their phone calls and messages. Basically, what is this quote is saying is that parents are tracking their kids due to their websites that they go thru their cell phones who they being texting or calling and they social media such as facebook instagram. This is important because, it shows that parents are very careless for their child. So, if
Autonomy is the greatest right that any one person has. Adults are mature and intelligent enough to choose what they believe to be the best decisions to help them flourish in life. Children, however, are not developed enough to make that decision for themselves. This is why children are dependent upon their parents until they are old enough to make those kinds of decisions for themselves. It is also why parents have a right to raise their child how they see fit since they should have the child’s best interest in mind and have the ability to make those decisions. In the essay “The Child’s Right to an Open Future,” Claudia Mills provides a rebuttal to Joel Feinberg’s essay on “The Child’s Right to an Open Future.” She believes “that it is
Coben is explaining on why parents should be monitoring their children. I think parents should have the right to check on what their kids are doing even if it’s private. I do understand that teenagers or kids should have the privacy they need, but parents should have the right to know what their child is doing.
My counter argument is that parents would not like it if their kids were always getting in their business everyone deserves privacy. But it’s a good idea to monitor little kids computars to watch out for pedifiles or other dangers. I think spying on your kids and getting in their business but trying to protect them from all the harmful things
Evidence that directly supports my opinion is that parents should monitor their kids every once and a while and not every day. The evidence should come in the form of concrete examples from your experience or observations, and reading”Not long ago friends of mine confessed of putting spyware on their 15 year old son’s computer so they could monitor all he
Even with the dangerous developments in social media over the past several years, many parents have chosen to allow their children to use these sites despite age restrictions. There are three reasons to argue for age restrictions on social media sites: lack of supervision by parents, targeting of children by pedophiles, and the prevalence of children falsifying their age. The ability of pedophiles to conceivably target children with social media proves that this is an issue that parents need to examine so that they may better protect their children. The threat from pedophiles causes an enormous problem for millions of children on social media sites. Unfortunately, Western Daily Press states that “Pedophiles can get away with grooming young teenagers on social media sites.” My essay will argue that age restrictions need to be in place, and additional regulations should ensure that law enforcement agencies have the tools required to supervise underage children 's use of social media, including Facebook and Twitter. Quoting from Business Wire, “three out of four parents feel that social network sites are not protecting children.” According to Irish Independent, “four out of ten children falsify their age” when using social media. I will also argue that additional research on this topic can be used to raise the awareness of parents, and can also help to alert the children themselves to the danger. My essay will also examine questions, such as: How can social media sites protect
Some parents are not aware of dangers of internet that brings to their children particularly making friends through internet. For example, their children might get cheated with someone else on internet and their children will not tell what happen to them when they encounter danger. According to BBC News, a 47 year old man defrauded a 13 year old girl online and asked to meet face to face. Luckily, the girl’s mother found out beforehand or else her daughter might be in danger. From this news, we can see that there internet friends are not always honest and they are more likely to consider as un-trustful strangers. Therefore, parents should concern more about their children, teach them about the dangers of making friends on internet, and avoid them from going out with a stranger.
To eliminate independence from the equation doesn’t seem like a sound idea in my opinion. Yes, for the most part parents are an excellent force of guidance that can steer a child in the correct direction, but limited exposure to the media and the un-Godly world we live in won’t be as useful when they’re old enough to leave the nest. I don’t believe that a parent’s word will be enough to prepare oneself for reality. For instance, you can describe to someone how to make a movie with an infinite amount of detail, but it’s trumped by the much simpler option of showing them a movie and learning by example. Would a 9 year old, like Hagmann’s be too young for complete autonomy and control in their life. Yes. I, however, believe that the road to independence should be gradual, and that parents should have full authority, and then throw them into the deep end when they’re still highly dependent on them.