My Conflict Style

At home, with my husband, any conflict we have, I know needs to be addressed and addressed in a way where I am confronting him immediately and being completely honest. I can use the words I wish to use as they come to me and can say exactly what I am feeling without sugar coating it. At work, with my coworkers, any conflict that occurs, I must strategically think about how to address the conflict, when to address it and the process that will occur after addressing the conflict.

In the second scenario, the parties in conflict are in a student-teacher relationship. Notably, the professor has the higher power in the relationship, and is better with usage of conflict styles than the student is. Furthermore, the results of the questionnaire determine that I exhibit very strong habits of collaboration in impersonal interpersonal conflict. “Integrating shows a high level of concern for one’s own goals, the goals of others, the successful solution of the problem, and the enhancement of the relationship” (Wilmot and Hocker 165), which I seem to possess even in an impersonal relationship. Particularly, the results of this situation, shows that I have strengths in avoidance, compromise, and accommodation-conflict styles. I understand my stance in this circumstance, and acknowledge the fact that I could use some improvements in these habits when dealing with conflict. Notably, the following discusses the benefits of knowing my conflict

In a dispute, it's often easier to describe how others respond then to how we respond. Each of us has a predominant conflict style that we use to meet our own needs. By examining conflict styles and the consequences of those behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of the impact that our personal conflict style has on other people. With a better understanding, you then can make a conscious choice on how to respond to others in a conflict situation to help reduce work conflict and stress.

The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) was originally developed by Kenneth W. Thomas and Ralph H. Kilmann in 1974 (Kilmann, 2013). The TKI assesses a person’s behavior when they are confronted with a conflict situation. For their work Thomas & Kilmann define conflict as any situation when the concerns of two people appear to be incompatible (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974). According to the TKI when a person is in a conflict situation their behavior will go along two dimensions. The first dimension, on the y axis, is assertiveness, a person’s attempt to

This activity will help you determine your natural style for dealing with conflict. It is useful to assess your predominant conflict management style(s) because we all tend to prefer one or two of the styles and at times may apply them inappropriately.

Separate assessments of my conflict style reveal that I have become primarily attuned with the integrating style of conflict management, which came as no surprise to me, as I found the results of the assessments to be accurate. However, the assessments also showed that I was nearly equal in the compromising style, leading them to be a near tie. I would be the first to admit that his has not always been the case. It has taken a fair amount of life experience and focused effort in order to move away from the predominate style of compromise

There are different conflict management styles, the dictatorial style, which insists that things are addressed their way and the low self -esteem style, which just allows others to have it their way. It is up to the individual to decide which way works for them. Additionally, the abdicator handles conflict by bowing out or walking away. This method is unhealthy because it robs the offended growth opportunity, which results from working through issues (Pegues, 2009, p.49). Another style is the collaborator, which often involves cooperation and pulling together to reach a common purpose and are emotionally balanced.

My conflict style that I think best describes me is collaborating. I do like to have a conversation after conflict and solve problem, and I like to make a person feels that it it win-win situation. I don't want to have a conflict with someone and keep thinking that he or she thinks bad things about me. So, even when I know the person was wrong, but he or she doesn't not accept the wrong doing. I try to make it win-win-situation just to keep moving without thinking bad thing. In fact, In collaborating style, many potential problems could arise, such as blaming each other, regret after conflict, not agreed

I find that my desire to avoid can put off the wrong vibe to those under my care. The last thing I want people to think of me when it comes to conflict is that I attempt to avoid it at all cost. That can be casted in a negative light. The greatest room for improvement for me in this area is using this style more out of habit than using it when necessary. Since I scored high, there is a good chance I am overusing this style. I have to be more intentional in how I deal with conflict. Though I tend to see conflict as a disruption in the flow and the work at hand and in my opinion it causes unnecessary stress so I only attempt to address it when it is unavoidable. This can hurt my leadership position in a lot of cases and I must learn to use it

First, I didn 't think much about the personal issues my character has at home, so the conflict management style I used would have been just don 't think of it! With the student who had the dangerous situation at home, I made sure I got the entire story line before I reacted to anything. This would indicate I used the accommodating style of conflict

Conflict is a fact of life - for individuals, organizations, and societies. The costs of conflict are well-documented - high turnover, grievances and lawsuits, absenteeism, divorce, dysfunctional families, prejudice, fear. What many people don't realize is that well-managed conflict can actually be a force for positive change.

There are four distinct conflict styles which are the levels of assertiveness and cooperativeness that are employed by a person in a conflict situation. Everyone has their own individual conflict style; my own style tends to be accommodating. This means that I am not very assertive and I am very good at cooperating with those I am in conflict with. In this essay I will examine each conflict style and my own choice of style and why I tend to default to this style. I will also examine whether or not my choice of the accommodating style is the best approach to resolving conflict, and discuss the advantages of learning to use each of the styles in specific situations.

Conflict is defined as the perception of incompatible goals or actions between two people (McCornack, 2013). How you approach these tense situations greatly affects the outcome of the conflict and your interpersonal relationships. Everyone experiences disagreement at some point in their lives and it is important to know what you bring to conflict situations in order to become a more competent communicator. Therefore, I completed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Questionnaire and asked my sister and boyfriend to do the same regarding my conflict style (Introduction to Interpersonal Communication Course Workbook, 2013, p.29-31). I chose these two people to fill out the questionnaire because they both know me very well in two different types

Some days are better than others and we definitely wake up feeling different each day. Although, our mood can ascertain how we will handle our issues with others on a daily basis. If you are in a good mood you might be more relax and not stress any issue with anyone at work or in the streets. Now, if we are having a bad day more than likely our conflict style might be more on the competing style. This is when you stress your position without considering opposing points of view. Personally, I’m a pacific person most of the time. Hardly ever you will see me in a bad mood, so my conflict style does not differ much with people at work, customers, and even my family. My conflict style is the collaborating style in which I try to always find a

For many of us, every day is a struggle to avoid conflict. Yet avoidance is practically impossible since the core characteristics, ideas and beliefs of each individual often conflict with our own. Differences of opinion, competitive zeal, and misinterpretations, among other factors, can all generate ill feelings between co-workers within an organization. While we can’t avoid conflict, we can learn how to sidestep negative confrontations by becoming familiar with the types of conflicts that most commonly arise in the work place and by learning how to resolve them.