My Crucial Decisions

Life can bring so many adversities that can results in battles with depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety over life's uncertainties.

“Learning to love yourself will be the hardest thing you’ll ever do in life”. The 21st century, the era of perfection. The era where you are told how to look or else you are not considered beautiful to the world. The era where people like myself go through extremes to be beautiful even just feel beautiful. The extremes that I took were, looking for “love” anywhere with anyone, not caring about my health, and putting my academic career in danger, all of that just to be and feel beautiful.

As I revisit my past, I realize that every decision I made created a rough road for my passage into adulthood. I became a waitress at 15 years old; which at that time was considered the second most stressful job in America, the first being Air Traffic Controller. Additionally, I quit school at 16 years old; needing more time to be able to support myself. Moreover, I began a relationship with a man that was ten years older than me. These three major decisions in my life created complicated life options in my adult life. For instance, when I turned 44 years old, being a server severely damaged my back; causing me to endure back surgery; thus, giving me few career choices until I can retire. Lastly, my selection in a mate resulted in having a baby; which changed every aspect for the rest of my

As we go through periods of stability that are life chapters, and periods of instability that bring about the transitions, we must recognize where we are in the Life Launch. The continuous flow of the four phases is how we grow and develop through our adult years. It is very important to know how to engage and move through the Renewal Cycle of Change. The magic formula that I have begun applying is, Hold On to everything that is important, valuable, and beneficial in my life. The things I like about myself are my spirituality, my family, and my friends. Let go of what’s not working, get rid of dysfunctions, leave bad attitudes behind, and unlearn bad behaviors. Move on is the action I’m taking and will make happen over the next chapter of my life, while I hold on, let go and take on. These actions are making me set precedence in my life and take the necessary steps to start a change for my future. For success to happen in the new chapter of my life, I must learn how to go with the flow of change and embrace the change. By not allowing myself to remain stuck during a transitional period, I take notice and move forward during the challenge. It’s perfectly okay to go through the Renewal Cycle because it goes on and on. It’s life if you allow changes to help you to continue to grow, as you evaluate where you are on your travels through your Life

Throughout your short time while on this Earth you will go through many different changes in your life, style, and with the society around you. These changes are not always a negative thing as well as them not always being a positive thing. However, these changes are always all brought on by the changing surroundings around you and the actions that you take in order to either maintain these surroundings or advance with the change and change your life because of these changes that are being brought upon you. The biggest problem that I have been facing for my entire life is always questioning myself as well as the others around me. While this problem may not seem like a problem at all because we cannot advance in society without questions

Some people dwell on things and allow them to swallow up their lives. I’ve learned that some things just aren’t worth it. Second lesson, family comes first. I’ve learned the hard way too many times that your family will always support you, and have your back. Even though they did not always agree with the decisions I’ve made, they never stopped supporting me nor stopped loving me. Third lesson, do what makes you happy. Everyone always speaks about having money and a luxurious job. I would prefer to make decent paycheck and wake up happy with the job I have, than make a bunch of money and dread waking up every morning to go to work. Lastly, be grateful. Be grateful for the love you have received; be grateful for the times your parents yelled at you because it means they care, be grateful for the memories you share and overall be grateful for the life you’ve lived.

In order to complete my heart's desire I've made sure to do above and beyond. My parents have also pushed and encouraged me to become the best me. I went to some of the best schools and took the best classes in Miami Dade County because my loving parents and I made sure that my grades remained on top. Even though I strived for the best, still I struggled with family issues. In middle school, I had a difficult time because my family was about to lose our home to foreclosure. When you lose someone or something so precious in your life, it can be a draining and learning experience. On the outside to everyone else they thought I looked blissfully happy, and like nothing was going on in my life. I was wearing a perfectly painted mask as my disguise. Little did they know that in reality I was constantly worried and I felt powerless. I had my father who worked as a construction worker and he tried to help out as much as he could, but he had his other kids and bills to pay. My hardworking mother was a Registered Nurse who graduated from the University of Miami for crying out loud and she did whatever she had to do to try and get a job but it was like everywhere she turned there was a roadblock. Finally, she got a

Becoming of older age, I began to understand that it’s perfectly fine to be imperfect. The extraordinary person I believed I would never become started off by committing faults and mistakes. Despite the fact that I was treated differently it pushed me toward understanding that I am enough. No matter what obstacles or battles I come across I’ve convinced myself to ignore the negativity surrounding me and converting it to positivity.

A multitude of events have affected my life, but not all of them have been accomplishments, some have been hardships that have changed my character greatly. When I was fourteen, just a few days after Christmas, my father collapsed at work and was rushed to the hospital. There, doctors discovered that he had a brain tumor which had been pressing on his brain stem, ultimately leading to his seizure. Over the past few years, he has gone through a cycle of treatment and remission, all the while experiencing a steep decline in mental health. With everything my parents were going through, I found myself being forced into adulthood much faster than I ever anticipated, before I even had a driver’s license. Instead of worrying about midterms, I found

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I’m not quite sure when it all began, I guess you could say Junior High. The worst years of your life, It’s when all your friends began to grow womanly assets, while your stuck with a nose your baby face has yet to grow into. My body and my confidence for the longest depended on boys views of me. If boys didn’t like me then why would I consider myself beautiful. My lack of self-esteem is one of my biggest insecurities, what boy wanted to be with a girl who could barely look at herself in the mirror without finding something wrong with herself. It’s still hard till this day. I’ve been thru it all, rape, self-harm, and depression, but one thing that has kept me grounded has pulled me from the edge is my faith. It’s the only

By the time your life actually winds down, you've spent most of it consumed in trying to be someone you aren't and do things that you aren't meant to do.

     I have had many challenges to overcome thusfar. I’ve had problems with family members, with girls, with friends, but most significantly, problems with myself. I have made the wrong decisions and I have had trouble realizing what is important to me. I now

…As young adults we set off to experience life and world, we lose weight, put on weight and perhaps we are a little more accepting of ourselves, but we are still unsure and we really don’t love ourselves.

One section in Sean Covey's book The Six Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make is school. Some points that are true are that to get good grades, wasting time should be avoided and that doing extra credit is good. Some things that are untrue are that getting involved in extra curricular activities is important and that college is always a good decision.