My Expectations On My Family

My parents’ ultimate goal was for my siblings and me to graduate from high school. Noemi, Jesus, and Erwin, my older siblings, never told me about the do’s and don’ts of school. Their lack of guidance frustrated me. I always thought that older siblings wanted the best for the youngest. Whenever I asked them something though, like how to spell a word, their response was, “Are you stupid? How don't you know how to spell that?” After getting shut down multiple times, I stopped asking for help.

Ever since I was a young child, my parents always told me to try my best in school, they always told me this for the reason that they never had the opportunity to have a good job because they never finished school. This event is shaping me to care a lot regarding my education. In addition to that, another event that has shaped me to become the person I am today is that since my parents don’t have good paying jobs they have to work hard to take care of me and my siblings this event has caused me to become a hard working person and to seize all opportunities to live a good life because I don’t want to struggle like my parents.

But, although we are siblings, we are very different in this sense. Presently, I still do not know what I want to be or where I want to end up, even with the help of courses such as Civics and Careers. My dad often lectures me about knowing what I want to be so that I can plan the future out. Moreover, my sister is a very extroverted person, whereas I am introverted. She is very social and not shy at all towards people she does not know. I, on the other hand, am very shy and not good at speaking in public. My parents often scold me for being so shy and quiet and tell me that my sister got to where she is because she was so social. In particular, the largest expectation that was passed onto me from my sister is academics. For the entire time that she attended school, she was always excelling in all her classes and never had any difficulties. Consequently, when I started to go to school, my parents had the same expectations for me. Although my marks were relatively high, they were always low compared to what my sister had gotten. My parents always expected more of me and pushed me to be exactly like her

From a very early age, I always assumed it was a part of my future to pursue an education. The American educational system engraves the importance of school at a very young age. Elementary school children are motivated through rewards when they try their hardest to reach their goals. Students are exposed to statistics and facts outlining the consequences of not getting a college degree as soon as they reach middle school. High school counselors and staff make it their priority to ensure that students apply to college. Students are conditioned to believe that education is the building block to a successful future. My cultural upbringing did not support my choice to pursue an education, however, I refused to conform to my family’s behavioral expectations because certain norms must be challenged due to progressive time periods and conflicting values.

Over the previous years, I grew bored with routine. I didn’t involve myself with school activities and stayed home for most of my days. My parents rarely planned any activities for me and my sisters. I had stopped expecting them to involved themselves with my school life. I didn’t even mind when they wouldn’t come for my band concerts. It’s hard being a child of immigrant parents. There are situations they would never be able to understand. The sole advice they can give me is about hard work. They want to push me and my sisters to our limits so we could have the better life that they never had. From them, I learned life lessons of self-sacrifice and determination of making things work, despite the roadblocks and challenges.

My granny was the only person in my family to have a college degree. I am the second because of her. From middle school on we talked about college, where I would go, and what I would do when I grew up. Parents encourage careers that lead to the greatest profit, mine were no different. My granny never encouraged me to choose a career based on the profit. She only encouraged me to choose what made me happy. Life had it’s own plan and some things changed how my educational journey would pan out, but that didn’t make it impossible. Because of her I knew anything was

My parents came from a background of poverty, and as a result, they have always stressed the importance of seizing opportunities and accomplishing more in life. My parents try to motivate me by constantly comparing me to my sister, who was successful in becoming the first in our family to go to college. In effort to encourage me to do the same, my parents place my sister on a pedestal, emphasizing her glory, while telling me that I am far behind from ever reaching that pedestal. Ever since I started elementary school, I was subjected to being told I was disappointing as a student and need to become more like my sister. From my perspective, when my parents compare me to my sister, it strips away my individualism, because they are essentially

My family is no different from the others, for it's not perfect. I have an Intelligent sister who can achieve a perfect GPA and do great courses.She is practically perfect. My parents always tell my younger sister and me that we should be more like her. Yet it is practically impossible , since we all have our own way of thinking. My younger sister is attending middle school. She's practically knowing who she is. So at this point she talks back to my parents and wants to do

My mother and my aunts made sure that I graduated high school, completed college in four years, and finished graduate school. My mother believes that getting an education is the most important requirement to being successful. Some people, looking in from the outside, may feel that my family pushes me to hard; and when I was younger I thought the same thing. However, now that I am older I appreciate the push and constant motivation. If it was not for my family, I would not be where I am today. I have always wanted to follow in my aunts footsteps and become the second doctor in the family. Between her and my mother, they have support me financially and provided me with other necessities to continue to move forward. I have set my focus on many short term goals in order to reach my long term goals. There are days that I want to give up, but I know the hard work will pay off

There is also the aspect that I want to go to college because it is what is expected of me. Only my mom really completed college and got a degree. On my dad’s side completing college isn’t really a big thing. Despite that, everyone from both sides of the family expects me to complete college and I want too, for them and for me. In fact, I want to do more than just complete college, I want to go on to get my masters and my doctorates to prove to myself that I can. I want to live above and beyond the expectations set before me and college is what gives me that

See growing up in a large family like mines education was very important. Despite we didn’t have many to graduate from college put a lot of pressure on me. See my grandparents didn’t go to high school or college. So, they were real hard on their kids about go to school and graduate. So, made my parents hard on my brother and me about our education. My brother and me will be the first in our large family to graduate from college. My mom was real hard on me because she didn’t want me to go to in be like her. She had

First of all, let me say that I’am Turkish and in my culture you’re either a doctor or a lawyer. You are expected to do very well in school and when I say very well, I mean straight A’s. To be a doctor or a lawyer, you already have to do very well in school anyways. Turkish parents want the best for their kids, but it’s also kind of a competition between parents, whose kids are the smartest. I’m going to be a nurse so I make the cut, but I could never get straight A’s, so I never felt smart enough. I would get so close, but just not there, for example, I would get all A’s and one B. Also that, I have two sisters and two brothers and only one of them had graduated highschool and I was expected to be a graduate of high school and college. My

As a seventeen-year-old high school student, a lot of pressure is being placed on my shoulders to decide upon my future plans and goals. All these decisions that are going to shape the rest of my life looming closer by the day, both an exciting and altogether terrifying prospect. Everyone seems to have an idea of how my life should play out; society says finish high school, go to college or university, enter the workforce, purchase a house, and have two point five children. Our society wants us to conform, to follow the typical path in life and contribute to the country collectively. My parents, on the other hand, want my happiness, but they would also like for me to do well in life, a tricky combination. Job titles like doctor, lawyer and politician are thrown around constantly in conversations regarding where I am headed, as if saying these things repeatedly will somehow make them a reality. Myself, I’m just focused on graduating high school, the idea that soon my life will be changing so drastically still hasn’t really sunk in yet. The truth is, I don’t know where I’m going thus far, which makes this essay a good start in figuring that out.

”No one is ever born into Life alone. Everyone has shared the bond of family, at least at birth, and for many people it is a bond that will follow them throughout life. For many people it is the most important bond of all.”

My family happens to be deeply religious, conservative and often closed minded about certain aspects of life. In other words, everything that they tend to support and believe in as a family unit, tends to be something I can not personally agree with. As anyone can imagine, this has deeply affected my interpersonal relationship with my family in a negative impact. As an adult, I have come to my own conclusions about my personal beliefs about life and what those entail for myself. These beliefs are usually the exact opposite of what I grew up with, much to the disappointment of my family which has created a deep divide between us. This has probably affected my relationship with my father the most, as he has always been the most outspoken about his disappointment.