My Experience At The Age Of 22

In Dr. Winch’s Ted Talk he addresses three “emotional injuries,” and discusses how people tend to make their emotional injury worse than it has to be. He also reassures us on how we can lessen the damage of our emotional injuries. The three emotional injuries are loneliness, failure, and rejection. Dr. Winch believes that people who experience one of these feelings tend to make matters worse by convincing themselves that they can’t change their feelings and ultimately they end up contributing to their injury. People tend to think of their faults or they play an event or situation over and over again in their head. Thinking negatively does nothing to improve their injury. Dr. Winch believes that thinking positively can help reduce the emotional

Griffin also writes about how these bottled up secrets create barriers against understanding others, like issues of homosexuality and race. "Habit has made it natural not to feel. To ignore the consequences of what one does in the world becomes ordinary. One is never allowed to see the effects of what one does" (Griffin 372). Basically she is saying that it is so much easier to hide behind this barrier than to break through it and try to understand others of different races or sexual preference. She is also saying that people get used to not feeling any emotions, once someone ignores feelings it becomes a habit and they do it over and over again. It is easier to hide from something than to face it head on.

However, the point is that we feel them physically. Many people feel something and then bury it deep down until they think it’s gone. What you feel does not leave your body or your heart unless you confront it. Emotions are meant to be endured, not ignored. I want to help you confront your emotions, not run around them. Confronting your emotions will allow you to experience happiness, even if something sad or upsetting happens in your day” (Valpone). (elaborate)

Our emotions in many cases affect our perception of events as well as the actions that we take ourselves by permeating our way of thinking, and therefore affecting each thing that we do in that moment. In particular, emotions about the perception of ourselves have been shown to have both the ability to positively and negatively affect our actions and performances in life. This is what can be

It is also concluded in their research that people who lack emotional expression are inclined to anti-social behaviours. These behaviours are a direct reflection of their mental health. Self destructive acts may take place to suppress emotions. Some of these acts include alcohol and drug abuse, physical fights or vandalism, physiological well being or an absence of a mental disorder from the perspective of ‘positive psychology’ or ‘holism’, mental health may include an individuals ability to enjoy life, and create a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience. Mental health can also be defined as and expression of emotions, and as signifying a successful adoption to a range of demands.

Feelings about a situation can have a large impact on difficult conversations because they can make one less likely to listen effectively. Also, something I never considered, they can influence self-esteem. With a damaged self-esteem, other people cannot learn from their mistakes and the relationship is damaged (Stone, Patton, Heen 2010). I find myself needed to learn from this chapter especially. I tend to hide my feelings to avoid conflict. Yes, this has reduced my number of difficult conversations, but it has not increased my happiness. I can even see how it ruined a past relationship. The relationship needed to end, but I never voiced my hurt or annoyance from the actions of my significant other. This, ultimately, contributed to the end of that relationship because I was not happy, and I was not making sure my feelings were

In Why Letting Yourself Feel Broken is The Key Grayczyk, reveals that through a difficult time she kept telling herself that she was fine. “If you tell a lie enough times, you start to believe it yourself” says Grayczyk, as she herself wanted to believe her own thoughts. Many want to convince themselves that nothing in their life is falling apart, everything is where it is suppose to be. Later in Grayczyk’s article she states that her secret is “´It's okay not to be okay´”. One does not necessarily have to meet the standards of society, it is okay for one to roam freely from others advice. Pretending to feel something may lead to self emotional destruction. One may not be able to pass through the phase of accepting what happened and moving on. As much as one tries to hide bravery through other emotions, one will still encounter an upsetting feeling. One can repeat to oneself that one may not care but can not become successful in believing oneself. Yes, after a bitter experience one will not feel happy, it will all take time and when one is ready to say “I am okay” it will be the “... honest to god Okay, not the shitty plastic Okay you had been using before that only worked half the time and kept cracking along the edges” (Reya

Maybe being emotional about a problem, in a way that others might recognize, makes the given problem easier to cope with, because you in turn do not also have to cope with the problem that you do not understand. If you carry with you an aura of dread and despair, will people not recognize these emotions in you? You might not acknowledge so yourself, but part of the problem in concealing sorrow arises from the fact that everyone else carries on the way they did before. Life goes

A ‘life lesson’ commonly repeated is, “Don’t let your emotions control your decisions.”, but without listening to my emotions, feelings, attitude, and thought process, how can I go through my life? Growing up, mainly in my years as a young child, I remember being told to hold back the tears when I was crying, to get up when I was down, and to focus on what made me smile rather than acknowledge what made me hurt. Yes, there is a difference in the reasons to be crying and it’s important to make it clear; there’s crying because you did not get what you wanted and decide to conclude your anger by throwing a fit, but then there is the throat burning, nose clogging, jaw tightening crying that surfaces when

I do not enjoy making others unhappy or uncomfortable, so I can gauge my emotion to make them at ease. The drive to develop a greater sense of my internal state can help me to better develop my self-awareness.

Hochschild’s managed heart study explains that people manipulate their appearance, manner, and expressive features in order to present a particular self-consistent with situational cues (Pfaffendor). Emotions are seen as either organismic and arising out of instinctual urges that are only modified by sociological factors to fit an acceptable mold, or interactive in which people have control over their emotions by having cognizance of the psychological forces at work in a given situation (Pfaffendor). A person who is

This research aims to establish what strategy is most efficient in restricting the passing of emotions between people. Participants, referred to as “therapists” in this study, listened to “clients” describing a positive or negative situation. Self-reports and facial affect were used as a means of measurement. Participation engagement was also taken into consideration.

Many psychologists would argue that once we reach adulthood, we should have a good grasp on who we are as individuals. However, this statement is not always the case because as humans, we encounter situations that can impact our lives so much that they cause us to re-evaluate what defines our behavior and how we define ourselves. Most often, people who undergo these drastic changes were somehow directly involved in a negative incident. The studies were conducted to try and discover whether self-conscious emotions can

If I use Peterson’s (2015) advice then if I change my negative thinking into healthy thoughts then it will have a encouraging influence on my emotional schemes, which in turns will change my actions (p 22-23). Peterson’s (2015) concept of handling my “thud” feelings to diminish myself from the Flat-Brain tango during my interpersonal communication was helpful in helping me see that my defensiveness I display when I feel the “thud” emotions is not only making the situation worse, but it also makes me not hear the other person nor allows them to hear me (p

During my typical teenage years up until only just a few years ago, I engaged in the usual defense mechanisms of artificial confidence, hiding my insecurities and holding in my emotions both to protect my self-image and eliminate judgments from others. I wasn’t ready to reveal my true self on the basis that people might use that information to hurt or better yet, to destroy me.