My Experience In My Life

Divorce is not only difficult for parents, but even more difficult for the children. It can hit hard and fast but can also be built up from long term damage and stress on the marriage. Children can view their parent’s divorce in multiple ways. They can visually see it, or they can hear it. Children may also not view the divorce at all. Divorce can be sudden, confusing, and hidden. It can be a quick and relieving process, or it could be slow and painful. The relationship could be fought for night after night with little progress being made. The marriage could be fought verbally or even physically. Hurtful words are thrown to bring an end to the relationship and caring words are thrown to keep the marriage alive.

Divorce is typically a very painful and emotional experience for all parties involved. Two divorces have occurred in my life, only one of which was recent enough for me to remember. Steven Mintz, the author of “American Childhood As a Social and Cultural Construct,” mentions, “Children today grow up under different circumstances than their immediate predecessors. They are more likely to experience their parents’ divorce” (2009:53). My mother and father divorced when I was two years old. Due to my age at the time of the divorce, I do not know anything about the divorce from experience. I only know what I have been told about the divorce because I was too young to remember it happening. Over time, my mother became unhappy with my father’s “workaholic” attitude. He averaged

Six years ago, a summer afternoon, my dad hugged me and I said “I will be gone for three days, I have a job in Austin, but I promise that I will be back before your birthday. I promise.” Days, weeks, months almost two years passed by and I did not receive any phone call or text message from him. Throughout that time my dad was gone, my mom told me that she was getting the papers ready to divorce my dad. I was noticing that the last three-four years that I was living with both of my parents, their relationship was getting worse. It was not a healthy situation for anyone in the house. What I mean about not being healthy is that my mother and father were damaging one another, emotionally and verbally, which my brothers and I would watch everything. Every day was the same routine, we forgot how it was to have a peaceful home. Around that moment, I honestly never thought divorce was going to be their solution.

When I was 13 years-old, my parents would always get in big arguments. When they argued I didn’t even know what they were arguing about. Until one night my mom decided they wanted a divorce. That night all I could remember was yelling, crying, and depression. I personally have no Idea why my parents decided to get a divorce, I just hope it was for the right reasons. When this was happening I kept blaming it on myself. I thought it was my fault and I had to fix it, but it wasn’t my fault and there was no way I could fix it. The best thing I learned from this situation was to keep my head up and keep positive, those things helped me jump over the obstacle of divorce. This situation made me be more kind to people, because most of the time in life

Growing up with divorced parents is never easy; especially when you, as a five year old, blame yourself for your parents’ divorce. What makes it worse is walking in on the night that caused the divorce. Walking into the screaming, the yelling, and the tears. Walking in on your brother calling the cops. Walking in when your mother is on the verge of death. Walking in and immediately blaming yourself. Thinking to yourself ‘I could have prevented this.’ Never truly realising that this was not your fault.

The divorce made it difficult for me to cope with the other challenges of childhood, such as dealing with peer relationships,

Divorce is a topic that most commonly involves feelings of anger, conflict, anxiety, sadness or depression for all parties involved in the process of divorce (American Psychological Association, 2012). Research suggests that the divorce is not the direct cause of children’s problems, but rather miscommunication that can happen along side the divorce (Afifi, Granger, Joseph, Denes, & Aldeis, 2015; Stallman & Sanders, 2014). The risks of problems do increase when children are drawn into their parent’s conflict (Stallman & Sanders, 2014). Risks include the loss of contact with a parent, experience of significant environmental changes, or strain on parent-child relationship.

Divorce generally puts children at greater risk for many kinds of problems. However, most children of divorce do not experience those serious problems; most children are strong and resilient, and most have returned to a pretty normal life after 2–3 years. The problems children of divorce may experience are often present even before the divorce, perhaps the result of conflict between parents, less attention from parents, depression, or other factors. Children in a high-conflict marriage situation generally are better off if their parents decide to divorce compared to children whose parents stay married and continue to experience high levels of conflict. Children in low-conflict marriage situations,

I had to deal with the drama and pain that comes with a divorce. As an eleven-year-old girl that was just starting to find her way in life, it may have even been a bit harder to deal with than usual. I hated life for a while, as my parents would constantly fight and "fall-outs" would happen every other day. I was depressed for a little while and wallowed in that depression. Although I had every right to be sad and pitiful, it needed to stop. It was

In 2006 my parents had sat my younger brother and I down to talk to us. They looked so serious, my mother was crying and I was scared. They told us they were going to get a divorce. I didn’t understand why because they were happy together and they still loved each other, they even told us that while they were

Before we moved out, things between my parents weren’t the best. There were very heated arguments, that no child, nor teenager should have to hear. It hurt me a lot to see my parents at each other’s necks. It began to frustrate me. Hearing them constantly telling each other they hate one another, telling each other this should’ve happened years ago. Seeing my younger brother crying because my dad would yell at him for asking them to stop arguing. I hated it.

It all started with a disagreement. Then turned into a bigger disagreement and went on for a while I remember. Most times, I did not want to hear them talk mean to each other and it was sad. Now days it is different. Talking on occasions when necessary or calling to tell one another about an event coming up. Life has changed but I think for the better. Divorce is hard on children and I was just one of the many kids it can effect.

As an adult, we sometimes forget what it is like to be a child dealing with some of the childhood pressures. Many parents do not realize how something like divorce could possibly

I understood enough about divorce and seeing my mother cry as she talked about it made me so scared. I remember thinking that my brother and I had to be the cause of the divorce, and then wondering how I could try and fix the problem so they wouldn’t get divorced. When it came to which parent I would spend more time with, the court divided it up evenly. Going in and out of court was strange considering I was so young and had no idea what was going on, but when

Nothing felt right. If I was told to do something I would just do it in motion and go to my bed. I stayed In my bedroom most of the day, and came out to grab a bit after everyone went to bed. That summer my mom saw that there was something wrong with me, and decided that I should stay. My mom would talk to me sometimes, and ask me stuff that I didn’t want to hear like if I wanted to go shopping or go out and eat. I would just tell her that I wasn’t feeling well, and didn’t feel like going anywhere. My mom didn’t about me know about the divorce, but she knew that something was wrong so to the fact that dad wasn’t coming home like usual.