My Father : The Father Of The Father

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Everyone has a father. No matter if the father is present in a child’s life or not, he still exists and takes that role. A father has a major impact on his child whether he knows it or not, and that impact and example shapes the child’s perspective on life, and on love. The authors, Robert Hayden and Lucille Clifton, share the impact of their fathers through poetry, each with their own take on how their fathers treated them. The poems “Forgiving My Father” and “Those Winter Sundays” have significant differences in the speaker’s childhood experiences, the tone of the works, and the imagery presented, which all relate to the different themes of each poem.

There are many times when a person comes into your life and changes it for the better. I was happened to be blessed to be born with that person that changed my life, my dad. He has always been there and guided me in the correct way. Just like in Sedaris “Me Talk Pretty One Day”, how something negative leads to a good outcome, my negative event resulted on how dads’ actions impacted my life in such a significant way. (635). My dad became a great example for me to look up to, by showing me how dependable, adaptive, and hardworking he truly is. My dad gave me the ambition, to continue my education, and become a dependable mother for my daughters and family.

Throughout literary history, authors have categorized mothers as nurturing, critical, and caring; works of literature characterize fathers, however, as providers who must examples for their children and embrace their protective, “fatherly” instincts. However, many works’ fathers fall short when it comes to acting the role of the ideal dad. Instead of being there for their children, they are away and play very miniscule roles in their children’s lives; instead of protecting he actually ends up hurting their kids. Thus, the paternal literary lens tries to determine whether or not the work’s father figure fits the “perfect father” archetype. This lens questions whether or not the father figure is his children’s active example, provider, and

Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.

An ideal father should be someone who nurtures and lovingly cares for his offspring, and some kids are blessed by this opportunity growing up to spend time with their father, even if their parents are divorced. As the years go by our fathers grow older and we too grow old. We start to reminisce about the nostalgic times we had when we were young. In the poems “My Papa’s Waltz” by Theodore Roethke, and “Tips From My Father” by Carol Ann Davis; the authors draw from different life events, in which each communicate a happy memory with their fathers to the audience, and conclude a common theme surrounding a bond with their fathers, which can be inferred through how the parents care about their kids and show affection to them by giving their

A father-child relationship can be a good thing for some people, and problematic for others. There are different types of fathers. There are fathers who are always around their children, who give unconditional love and guidance. Then there are hard-to-please fathers who drain their children with extremely high expectations, leading to a strained relationship. Moreover, there are fathers who cannot handle the responsibilities that come with fatherhood, this type of fathers walk out on the family when the situation gets tough. Many people see their fathers in one way as a child and grow to see them in a whole different light as adults. The richness and complexity of the child and father relationship are the reason many poets write about fatherhood and fathers.

A phenomenal, strong, and intelligent woman. I introduce myself in such ways because I am a daddyless daughter, however being a daddy-less daughter does not define who I am. It does not take away the hard work, and achievements I have encountered in my 20 years of living.

What is a fathers “responsibility”? Is it to nurture, or is it to provide, maybe even he could do both? In the novel Your Fathers, Where Are They, and the Prophets, Do They Live Forever? Dave Eggers, describes trivial emotional and mental repercussions that occur when there is an absence of a father figure. Sons and daughters alike, any disconnection with a meaningful individual, supposedly relatable in blood, would bring question and concern. A fathers’ relationship and support can be beneficial to any child’s growth. Giving children a solid basis of what kinds of responsibilities go along with being an adult and showing them compassion individualism and what it means to “be a man” is important.

A father can be a son’s highest goal or lowest point, and it is all about how the father treats the son. In Li-Young Lee’s “Mnemonic,” Lee acknowledges his shortcomings that his father would not have been approved of. In Langston Hughes’s “Mulatto,” the father neglects his son and ignores his abuse of the mother. In James Masao Mitsui’s poem “Because of My Father’s Job,” the father has influenced the author’s life and how he sees himself. In these principle poems, each father takes a different approach to being a father. One of them holds himself highly. Another one neglects his responsibilities. The final one impacts the son’s entire life. A father is a son’s first role model, and the template in which the son is built after, but sometimes that template is not to the son’s liking.

Being a father is a thankless job; it is a heavy responsibility for those who hold the title. There are some fathers who fail their children through abuse, neglect, and absence. Theodore Roethke’s “Papa’s Waltz” recounts a night the speaker’s father returns home late after drinking. What happens next can be interpreted as violence or merriment. Lucille Clifton’s “Forgiving my Father” is a visit to the grave where the child of two deceased parents “pays her dues”. The relationship between father and child in “Forgiving my Father” by Clinton is more positive than that in Roethke’s “My Papa’s Waltz” allowing for a more loving speaker.

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The influence a father can have on his son is very much significant and the impact can greatly shape the individual’s character. My father has been a tremendous figure in my life because of the valuable life lessons he has taught me and because of the push he gives me to strive for great success. My father grew up with limited opportunities and for that reason he works

In conclusion a father is a significant figure in a daughter’s life. In which he should influence, encourage, and empower their daughters. In the poem My Father in the Navy, Cofer shows her father positive relationship influences her life. In contrast the poem Daddy, Plath shows disastrous relationship negatively impact her life. Both of these poems examine the convoluting relationship between fathers and

Being a little girl all I ever really wanted was a father that is was there for me. Growing up I was one of those depressed girls who never got to experience the love of her father. Never got to feel the warmth of my father’s hug after a long day. Never experiencing the love and protection from him. Leaving me to question why he was my father for the rest of my life... This is my personal narrative and I will be telling you about the time my father stood me up.