My Journey Towards Motherhood At Graduate School Essay

I am in my mid-thirties and going back to school. I would have to say that my children are the primary reason behind this decision. I am their role model and teacher and I intend to be the best one possible. I want to show my children the endless possibilities of hard honest work. I want to send them to college and live comfortably. Throughout my personal experience, I have learned that anything is possible even while I am balancing a family, multi jobs and school.

We had just celebrated the new year, a sign of new beginnings. The past fall my mother and I had a fight and were only communicating on a need to know. I had a boyfriend at the time, we had been dating for almost two years. I loved him and he loved me and I felt like nothing could ever go wrong, boy was I wrong. It was a cold morning, I woke up feeling strange but I could not quite figure out why. Jacob, my boyfriend, was the one who put the idea in my head. A couple hours later my life had went from just a normal nineteen year old, to being a nineteen year old facing being a mother. I was pregnant and there was nothing I could do to change that. Telling my parents, especially my mother was nearly impossible, “[a]nd after seeing my mother’s disappointed face once again, something inside of me began to die” (Tan 321).

Most people assume that parenthood is pure joy, but research shows that it can also be pure misery. In the article “Bundle of Trouble”, Robin W. Simon discusses some of the advantages and disadvantages associated with parenthood. First, Simon notes that parenthood has several emotional benefits, like the prospect of being a grandparent and the satisfaction of watching a child grow up. However, Simon argues that the exorbitant cost of raising children is a major source of stress among parents. Lastly, Simon argues that there is a lack of social support (i.e. family, social institutions) to alleviate the social and economic issues associated with parenthood. One of the most significant ideas presented in the article is that raising a child

Motherhood is everything dreams are made of, and yet at the same time nothing that is anticipated.

A constructive critique of the research into women’s experiences of becoming a mother after prolonged labour.

Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life.

I can honestly say going through labor was the most painful thing I had ever experienced. Once Freddrick finally did arrived I knew that I would love him unconditionally for the rest of my life. He was just as precious as he could be and didn’t have a worry in this world. I didn’t know the type of mother I would be, but I was determined to be a different type of teenage mother. I wanted to show everyone I might be young with a son, but I made sure Freddrick was taken care of financially, Freddrick came first in my life at all times, Freddrick had disciplined in his life, and that he would know that mommy would always love him regardless of what happens through life.

Whatever the circumstance that initiates parenthood, there is one constant variable - there is a new person in this world needing care. The most qualified people for the job are the parents. True, there are no manuals, but each of us has the basic tools needed to become effective parents.

I chose to interview my mother for this project for several reasons. She became a first time mother at the age of fifteen with me. As a teenager, she had to make the life-changing decision of keeping the baby and finish high school at the same time. However, as it one baby wasn’t enough, she face the surprise of getting pregnant again three months after giving birth to her first child. Since her second child was a premature baby, she became a mother twice the same year. This meant that not only she had to deal with two newborn babies at once, but she also had to deal with the complications and concerns of a premature baby. My mother’s story is truly inspirational as she was able to finish high school, get a bachelor degree, work a full-time

Parenthood requires lots of efforts and sacrifices and sometimes, when couples are not well informed or prepared for the transition to parenthood, the end up encountering difficulties which can hinder the flow of communication in the relationship. Transiting into parenthood can affect couples relationship both negatively and positively. Relational turbulence model ties to this in the sense that since relational turbulence explains why we get the reactions we getting during change in a dynamic framework transitioning to parenthood has a lot of change When it comes to some issue that can arise during the transition to parenthood, the three most Prominent problems are, decrees in intimacy, role conflict and lack of time

Preventing maternal deaths demands challenging social biases that drastically limit women’s choices and deter husbands, fathers, health care providers and policymakers from investing in women. Transforming these attitudes and behaviours requires working not only with women, but also with men to demonstrate the benefits that gender equality brings to families and communities (UNFPA, 2012). In 2005, India, home to more than 50,000 maternal deaths annually, intervened through the Janani Suraksha Yojana (JSY), or the ‘motherhood protection scheme’, which focuses on incentivization of institutional deliveries as a panacea to curb maternal mortality. Yet, India has failed to reduce the disproportionate spread of maternal deaths among

Within the growing number of women in higher education, there is a growing population of students who are also mothers. Mothers attempting to obtain a degree contend with home and family demands that affect their degree completion rates (Carney-Crompton & Tan, 2002; Home, 1998). These postsecondary education students, unlike their traditional peers, are not developing into adult identities that are supported by a traditional college setting (Arnett, Ramos & Jensen, 2001; Arnett, 2000) but instead already have an adult identity as a mother (Wilsey, 2013) with a different set of needs and because of the familial responsibility motherhood brings with it these women are no longer “traditional” students (Cross, 1981; Bean & Metzer, 1985, 1987;

A few years back, I found out I was pregnant and going to have a baby. Now to most women this would have been one of the happiest moments in their life, but to me it was disastrous. I was only 17 years old and had my whole life ahead of me. I was about to finish high school and embark on a dream of a lifetime. My life ruined, my dreams shattered and all my images of traveling around Europe were gone forever. In June I was to leave with my friends to study art in Europe. We were to spend 6 months traveling around Europe to work with different local artists.

Many different aspects of life characterize motherhood. Traditions along with society influence the role of motherhood. Carol Stacks' "All our Kin," is an essay about the "structuring of kin groups" (1974, p.47). In the society, if the mother is not mature enough to raise the child, a close female relative takes on the role of the mother; whereas, the man has the option of choosing to claim the child and take on the responsibilities of fatherhood or he can imply that the father could be anyone, which is a socially acceptable reason. Ruth Horowitz' "The Expanded Family and Family Honor," portrays a Mexican Family as a "nuclear family unit" within an "expanded family" (1983, p.64). After marriage, motherhood is an expected

I have always envisioned myself being a bride, a wife and a mother. I was blessed with my son at the age of nineteen and I have been the luckiest woman in the world. I am eternally grateful to the universe because I was given the highest honor; the universe chose me to be his mother. My son was born with the innate nature of humanity; he is sweet spirited, fair, well mannered, intelligent, wise, and very handsome. Although his love for me is unwavering and unconditional, I have always felt guilty for not choosing the right man to be his father. His father and I met when I was sixteen years old and I thought I was in love. However, love it was not. I thought by being everything to him and doing everything he wanted I somehow would win the contest. When in actuality I was the prize. After our relationship ended, I had low self-esteem, heartache and a brand new baby. It took many years of self-reflection to regain my confidence and self-worth. I entertained many relationships after my son’s father and they each taught me a valuable lesson about life, love and myself.