My Listening Journal about My Girlfriend

In the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication” reachers discuess how often times being close with someone, can have a negative impact on our communications skills with those we care for the most. According to the atricical often times we expect the person we are close to understand what we want or need without actually explaining it to them. The aritical supplied several examples in which I am personally guilty of. One example was when a wife made a statement about it getting hot in the room, she was impling that she wanted the air condiniter tempture adjusted, while her husband mistook the statement in a more sexual way.

Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, and support one other; organize our lives and make decisions. Communication allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, and how we respond with our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate but it takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. Too often the signals we send are not those we intend, when this happens, often both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.

Over the summer while in El Salvador, I had the unique experience of being able to engage in nonverbal communication which resulted in more than a few blunders. The reason I went to El Salvador was a week long mission trip. In which, I worked quite closely with a group of locals who understood absolutely no English at all; making verbal communication almost impossible. Although, most of the time our communication was just fine, and I would even go as far as calling many of the men we worked with my friends; however, we were not always able to communicate effectively. Early on in the work week I found myself alone with the El Salvadorian work crew. We were throwing buckets of dirt to one another up a steep hill to build a foundation for the

In the ‘’Break Up’’ scene, Gary and his girlfriend Brooke’s has been in a long-term relationship. However, things weren’t working out. There were many Conflict in Brooke and Gary’s relationship. A conflict ‘’is a conversation in which the two people disagree’’ (Inter-Act pg. 231). An example, Gary wasn’t physically or mentally connecting with his girlfriend Brooke. Gary was too stubborn and wouldn’t listen to Brooke for what she has to say to him. Gary is blind to see what Brooke wants from him. In Inter Act ‘’listening is the process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages’’ (Lesson 5). Gary was not the one not attending or understanding, remembering, critically evaluating, and responding to his girlfriend Brooke. He would pay more attending to his video games and less eye contact and attention to Brooke.

That is why body language and facial expressions can be very important when it comes to demonstrative communication. An example of body language that can be misunderstood would be when two people are talking and one person has their arms folded across their chest. This can be perceived as the person not listening or being considered overprotective of themselves and will not take criticism lightly. The person with the folded arms could just be cold or it is a learned gesture from their parents and that is how they listen. This is why many people would agree that demonstrative communication should not only have the nonverbal but also the verbal to go along with it so that people do not have any misunderstandings and the issue can be handled properly. According to Sutton, a person cannot fully deliver the anecdote of the day to anyone lacking words, except if the person can mime the entire tale (Sutton, 2011). Even if the person is able to mime they cannot express the entire issue perfectly. There has to be some degree of distance. This type of communication cannot always be expressed perfectly. An example of this would be that a person cannot convey the nonverbal communication over the phone and the person on the other end only has the verbal part of the communication and might take something the wrong way because they are not able to see the nonverbal part of the communication and that is where misunderstandings come in.

Looking back at the way I had communicated with Joe and realized that might have contributed to the way he reacted. According to Sheldon (2004) ‘communication in nursing is a sharing of health-related information between a patient and a nurse, with both participants as sources and receivers’. Sully and Dallas (2010) also points out that communication is not just one way, it is a two way process. I realised that my communication with Joe was just one way. He was saying something to me, instead of listening I was telling him something and vice versa. No one was receiving information we were both encoding words that were not being decoded by any one. Sully and Dallas (2010) highlight how communication has need for a sender, a messenger, a receiver and a channel.

Information is exchanged between two or more people every day. Talking face to face is the most common form of communication, although it can also be done through body language or electronics. Bad habits, interrupting for example, can irritate the other person and cause friction in a relationship. Deborah Tannen’s “Sex, Lies, and Communication” is effective because men and women converse differently and adapting to one another’s styles can be difficult.

Communication is one of the most important aspects in romantic relationships and different communication styles can affect relationships differently. Relationships can be both positively and negatively affected depending on the level of communication between the partners.

Lack of communication is the root cause for most relationships problems. Communication is the key foundation in a relationship. Without its presence or absence, it affects the physical health. When communication is deprived, we would have no sense of ourselves. Communication enables us to survive and it has a major impact on all relationships. Without communication, a relationship has no chance of surviving its prime. To make communication work, each partner must be willing to ignore distractions and really focus on the other person. Communicating problems with a spouse, friend or family member is the easiest and most efficient way to keep a long lasting and healthy relationship. In a

Communication is the number one key to a good relationship. When there is no communication between both parties involved in the relationship, that is when the relationship fails whether it is a man and a woman, or a child trying to divorce his/her parents or friends cutting their ties forever.

Lack of communication can have a domino effect of problems, starting off with partners being distant and

Communication is a crucial part of our daily lives which can be interpreted in various ways. Although, many couples think they have no problems communicating with each other; however, the issue among genders still exists. Learning to talk and listen can improve relationships in many ways. Therefore, Deborah Tannen, John Gray, Susan Page, and John Gottman focused on improving communication skills between genders.

Miscommunication has been a problem when dealing with these differences such as relationships. Romantic relationships often end due to miscommunication between the man and woman (Renwall.2010). It’s not because either of the two didn’t have good intentions, it’s because they didn’t communicate well enough to

In just one day the average person will speak approximately 16 000 thousands words - I know what you’re thinking, that’s a lot of words right? Yet, what if I told you that those words only make up a small part of our day-to-day communication? Good morning class. So much of our communication happens outside of just what we say, it happens through how we say it, when we say it, what our bodies are doing and in many more ways. Today we will be taking a look at the communication between a nurse and a patient and examining some of these verbal and nonverbal aspects of communication. Specifically we will be discussing the nurse’s tendency to avoid the patient’s concerns, as well as her poor speech delivery and how the two affect the nurse’s ability to assist her patient.

To address the verbal and nonverbal interaction among the members of a group the video titled “Annie” best illustrates this. In the video there is clearly both listening and miscommunication going on. The setting of this video is that the title character, Annie is a high school girl, who seems to be suffering from a possible eating disorder as well as depression (Understanding Relationship- Helping Annie, 2008). A nurse from a school has called upon a meeting with a psychiatrist and a social worker to seek out a possible treatment plan for Annie.