My Perfect Family

What is a perfect family? What is a perfect relationship? What is a perfect life? My life was perfect before I grew up to an age where I understood everything, where I heard everything and where I was aware of everything.

What is a fathers “responsibility”? Is it to nurture, or is it to provide, maybe even he could do both? In the novel Your Fathers, Where Are They, and the Prophets, Do They Live Forever? Dave Eggers, describes trivial emotional and mental repercussions that occur when there is an absence of a father figure. Sons and daughters alike, any disconnection with a meaningful individual, supposedly relatable in blood, would bring question and concern. A fathers’ relationship and support can be beneficial to any child’s growth. Giving children a solid basis of what kinds of responsibilities go along with being an adult and showing them compassion individualism and what it means to “be a man” is important.

As children we look up to our parents as role models, it is universal that we have the need to have them in our lives, to feel loved by them. They are the people who should be responsible for our upbringing and in molding the way we are to be as adults. The role of a parent is not just providing food and shelter but also providing a good example. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. There are parents who for one reason or another are not there for their children, parents who do not set the right example to their kids. In the story "Reunion" by John Cheever we see a perfect example of how a father does not step up to his role as a parent and the effect it has on his son. We see the need of

First of all, it is vital that a father is active in his child or children’s lives because fathers provide a sense of safety. The father is supposed to be the head of his home and the protector of his family, while his wife is his submissive and the family’s nurturer. According to God, that’s the way it is supposed to be! If someone should ever try to harm his family, he should protect them. A mother will attempt to do the same thing, however, a woman’s strength does not match a man’s strength. Therefore, a mother should not be forced to perform the father’s job as the provider and protector, while performing her own duties as the comforter and nurturer.

Since the time of Adam and Eve, parents have played a major role in upbringing children and reproducing more generations. In most societies, the father has been the backbone of the family and played a major role in providing support and stability to the family. Yet, the role of the father differs from a family to another. While some fathers focus only on feeding and educating their children, others focus on every aspect of their children’s lives. The father’s leadership often drives the children to have a close relationship with the father. Sons often see the father as their role model and build a father-son relationship. Yet, the father-son relationship can be either weak or strong depends on the father’s concept of parenthood. The

When a child loses a parent their world is turned upside down. Childhood grief is such a painful experience, yet it often goes underestimated because as children grow most physicians, educators or clergy are unable to recognize the signs of depression, loneliness or isolation in grieving children. Statistics show that one in nine Americans lose a parent before the age of 20 (Zaslow, 2012). Death of either parent is devastating, but the death of a father leaves children wondering who will take care of them. Fathers are seen as the protectors in our society, they are the ones who provide the money and stability for a family. Not only that, but fathers are the spiritual head of the family and when that disappears the dynamics change.

While a father’s role plays a huge part, there is a great opportunity for a mother’s influence. And I didn’t realize this until…

Every child looks up to their father. A father is supposed to be the first man his daughter ever loves. The first hero his son ever has. A man the kids can look up to and always have for support. When kids are young they don't know right from wrong, they learn that based on the actions of others. They base how they act on those they look up to. Inconstancy can cause for major heartbreak, that cant always be fixed.

I was 4 years old when I got a phone call home only to find out that my dad was never coming home again. It was this moment that changed everything, from that point on my mother would be on her own raising her two children. I remember my mom telling us we were going to have to move from the house I grew up in because we could no longer afford it, I couldn't stop crying, I insisted on staying but my mother kept saying no. We moved about 3 times until we finally moved into a stable home but because of our economic situation we were forced to rent with others.

After a day of working from two in the morning to six in the evening, days where he’s been spat on, cursed, and shot at, he always found time to play catch with me as I was growing up. He was my role model growing up and still remains as the man I look up to. In many social arena’s, my dad is considered a senselessly violent, racist, murderous pig. Because of his job, he’s a bad person. The same person that taught me how to play baseball, the man that saved my mom from an abusive relationship when they had only first met, the father that held my sobbing sister after her puppy had died, is labeled an abuser of power because of the uniform he puts on every

In the United States fatherless homes have become more prevalent and some may even refer to it as a growing trend. The National Center for Fathering mentions that over twenty million children live in a home without the physical presence of a father, and millions more live have a father who is physically present but not emotionally (“National Center for Fathering” n.d.). The importance of a father figure in a child’s life is critical for healthy child development and subsequently leads to a better adult life. Children’s early experiences and the connections they create with their parents are impactful and ultimately shape who they become as an adult.

The information I learned from this website helps with my professional development goals ,so I have a better understanding of why fathers are important roles in their family. Fathers are an essential part in a child's life they are like the glue ,and helps the mother out in the daily living schedule. According to the U.S. Census Bureau 24 Million children in America lives without their birth father. By the father not being there helping support his family. It will lead to an increase in poverty, teen pregnancy, juvenile delinquency , physical abuse, suicide ,and substance and alcohol abuse. These situations not only have a negative outcome on the family that was abandoned. It also had an impact on the father because he had a higher rate ,for

Our relationship with our loved ones can be sometimes complicated, and one of the reasons is because of the way our parents are raising us; and also the way their parents raised them too. In this decade fathers are less aware of their children’s need of love. The idea of fatherhood changed dramatically after the Industrial Revolution. The economy abruptly dictated that somebody had to go out to work in order to bring food to the table. Men were usually chosen, because of the idea that woman are the ones who take care of the household. In addition, for almost 200 years, each generation of fathers has had less authority than the last, when talking about their children. I am not making generalization about all men, but there is an enormous amount

Every family wants the American Dream - a mother to teach her daughter to be a respectable lady, a dad to teach his son to protect and honor his family. Some children, such as myself, do not get this opportunity. There are some unpleasant predicaments in my life, that were uncontrollable. A girl should have her dad beside her in all aspects of her life to shield her from heartbreak and any pains, not cause them.

What is a perfect life or perfect family? From an outsider looking in, what does that life look like for you? Is the pressure of comparing your family with others and realizing that you do not measure up to what you see? We all have dreams of what our ideal life would be. Sometimes these are prompted by the “model” families that we have seen, or perhaps they are the dreams we had of what our own family should be like. Is there such a thing as perfect families or the perfect life? In the movie Juno and American Beauty some of these families try so hard to look picture perfect, however they are far from it. Remember that looks can be deceiving and comparison unfair.