Nagging Guilt Chapter Summaries

A good leader shows others the proper way to act in everyday life. Good leaders help others with their challenges but they also acknowledge that they themselves have challenges in everyday life. A good leader is there to support and aid anyone at anytime. Even if that means getting up early to help before a long day or staying after a hard day and provide guidance those who need it a true leader will do it. Leaders put in the extra work to pick up the slack within the group if it is necessary. Leaders change groups into families. You can not be a leader over others if you first can not lead yourself in the proper way. The only thing different from leading yourself over leading others is that the actions you make while leading yourself only affect you, when you lead others, your actions affect you and others. The person has to be able to take responsibility over their own actions, respect themselves and show, do the work that is necessary and cooperate with

The thing that makes a person a true leader is his or her power to persuade people to do their bidding. The best leader is the natural leader who does not have to be an authority figure in order to get people to do his bidding. This person is one that has mastered the art of persuasion and knows how to apply it to everyday life. Now before we continues let me clean up the term "Power of Persuasion" for you. You don't have to be a con artist to persuade people. Nor do you have to be a fast talker or a manipulator. Unfortunately many people who have mastered the art of persuasion have internalized these traits also. We normally see some degree of each of these traits in a persuasive person, but this is not what I advocate here. As a leader I learned that the best way to get people to do what you want is to get them to buy into your program. You hear this term used by college and professional football coaches all of the time.

Guilt usually motivates people to make things right, to restore the relationship and change future behavior.

Influencing others, a great thing to do especially if it’s someone that looks up to you or that you care about. Making a change in people’s lives is a great thing to do. I have been called a “leader” by one of the kids at the Salvation Army. I have positively influenced someone by giving a speech on what to do and how to solve problems.

While lots of theories of leadership have been projected, characteristics of leaders have been endless over a period and around the world. Leaders are individuals with vision and he/her view the future different from the commonly accepted view. A leader can influence change and communicate his/her vision to other staff and gain the support, and acceptance in order to implementing the vision. Leaders have established values which offer a basis for vision and passion to attain individual and organizational goals. Influence is vital to attaining change and to be grounded based on knowledge through formal schooling and proficiency (Yphantides, Escoboza, & Macchione, 2015). The influential leader how is a pioneer in her field is Rebecca Onie who is instrumental in creating a company for communities in poverty and have become an advocate for these individuals to be heard and acknowledge by society (Michaels, 2011).

To inspire and influence others, a leader must possess many skills and abilities. As motivational speaker Peter Northouse, states, “a leader should be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant” (Northouse, 2013) Moving an entire group of individuals toward a singular goal is a considerable undertaking. Without effective communication skills and a clear vision of what needs to be accomplished, one will feel like they are trying to herd cats rather than leading.

All leaders share a common trait. The ability to influence other people to do what you want is essential

In the opening chapter of his book, Brueggemann looks at the alternative community of Moses as a model for the community built on the foundation of the prophet’s work and ministry. Overall, as Brueggemann suggests, “The task of prophetic ministry is to nurture, nourish, and evoke a consciousness and perception alternative to the consciousness and perception of the dominant culture around us.” (pg. 3) This community is supported by the work of Moses to criticize and energize communities by a promise toward which the community is encouraged to move. This community is very evident in the community of Israel.

This serves as a motivator to change. As guilt causes discomfort, it can be used as a need to change things in your life, and eliminate the guilt. For example, if someone bullied an individual, they would probably eventually realize they have wronged that person and feel guilty. The guilt would motivate the bully to change their attitude, which would lead to a better life.

Heather, I’m of the same opinion that unless you are able to influence you are not a good leader. In saying that some of us certainly can be leaders to a certain degree, but we would not only want to influence but influence in a positive connotation. It’s true, we have the ability to influence whether we are in a leadership capacity or just an ordinary person. At times we do not realize that we are influencing others by having an adverse effect on others. This is the reason we all need to be mindful of our actions around others, specifically the most vulnerable. Therefore, being fair, and making sure we include everyone in our decision making is necessary at all levels. When we work as a team, where we all feel equals, and important we are

Guilt is defined as an emotion of regret or accountability for some offense, which drives a person to make amends in some way. Shame is defined as a painful emotion arising from the consciousness of committing something immoral. The Reader, by Bernhard Schlink, is a novel that is filled with various examples of guilt and shame. Guilt is especially important because the symbolic meaning of the story contains illustrations of both collective and personal guilt. This emphasis on guilt begs the question: “How can the novel, The Reader, be seen as a study in collective and personal guilt?” The Reader can be seen as a study in collective and personal guilt because it shows how Hanna and Michael represent the guilt of Germans communally and individually.

Frequently, inferior choices lead to others, like a domino knock over. Whereas,a smidgen can repent and try to repair the chaos. Most construct excuses that aren’t valid to creep around and become the term ‘let off the hook.’ Specifically, only you can stop that domino effect of the events you’re causing. It is periodically acceptable to be immoral or unethical, for not the whole lot of you is black and white, and no person is perfect.

In order for a leader to be a leader he/she must begin with the assumption that you are the one who matters most. As a leader you have to possess that level of confidence in yourself that you are capable of leading yourself “before you can lead others”. And when you develop this belief then you are better able of affirmative influence “on others”.

     Guilt causes a lot of stress for people and it is best not to lie and to be honest. As people say honesty is the best policy. Guilt evolves around everyone and there is no way of stopping it unless the truth is out. Sometimes guilt can lead people to regret that they were born forcing them to leave the people they most love. For example, Sogun left because he felt as though he had killed Sokpae and to

must influence others effectively. Being an influence to others can come in many different forms, and these forms can be best utilized in certain situations. The best way to influence others would be through communication, making this an essential skill for those wanting to become effective leaders. As a leader, one must adapt and refine any skills that are inadequate in order to better themselves and become a more efficient leader.