Negative Effects Of Rejection

* Our growing understanding of the belonging concept: The desire to be included is strong and the action of being excluded is humiliating:

Consider sitting in your high school with multiple different groups of people around. You hear numerous conversations coming from every direction and laughter filling the halls, but you are left standing in the hallway alone, feeling outcast, because you have no connection with those people. Having desolate feelings comes in response to this situation, and overall, it takes away from that sense of belonging. The unspoken rules present in these groups are responsible for the loss of belonging. People that do not fit the requirements within the rules often find themselves feeling as though they are outcasts in society. Individually, they will perceive themselves to be outsiders without a belonging in the social order because their traits do not match the desired ones in society. Additionally, the people in each specific group will begin to exclude the said outcasts because they do not belong in the clique. As a result, social events and conversations become more exclusive to those who fit the unspoken rules. This unfortunately can lead to bullying, for the exclusive people will make the outsiders feel unwelcomed and criticized. One who does not “fit in” with others will find themselves feeling insecure about their life and role in the community. Therefore, the unspoken rules of society affect each individual’s sense of belonging in both a positive and negative

Life is not always fair. Many times people have been turned down, had the door slammed in their faces or have been told, ‘No’. But it is this rejection that helps people get back on their feet. Sometimes it is this rejection that builds strength and character in the person. In the movie Edward Scissorhands, Tim Burton (the director) has shown that rejection affects everyone, but it can help to make some people stronger and brings out a side of the person that wasn’t there before.

It is very hard to be criticized instead of being supported and Junto Diaz was rejected and censured by his family and at school by some of his classmates for not being the typical “Dominican alpha male”. In addition, it is common thing today to witness the cases of rejection by the society you are living in. A fine example of a safe target of rejection and its affect is Oscar, the main character of the Junto Diaz’s “The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao”. However, do we know the main causes of which a person is rejected by society and the consequences that this rejection brings with it? Many of you will agree with me that racial or cultural bias, being introvert, appearance, and level of education, economy, and different social classes are the most common reason why people reject others. Also, rejection brings with it many negative consequences such as damaging impact on mental and physical health, produces surges of anger and aggression, destroys our self-esteem and temporarily lowers our IQ.

Another factor in interpersonal attraction is Reciprocity, this is the tendency to be attracted to people who like us and tend to be less attracted to those individuals that dislike us. In a study carried out by Dittes & Kelley (1956) the findings show that participants conformed more when told ‘other group members like you’ in comparison when told ‘other group members dislike you’. People who have the tendency to have low self-esteem or are highly insecure concerning interpersonal relationships have a greater need for positive feedback from others around them, in order to form close interpersonal relationships.

Rejection happens every day and is all around us. Becoming a professional athlete is a prime example

Jia Jiang introduced the audience his motion of 100 days of rejection, a “Rejection Therapy”, which was invested by the Canadian entrepreneur, Jason Comely. The basic idea of Rejection Therapy is for 100 days, you go out and look for rejection and every day get rejected by something, you desensitize yourself from the pain by the end. What’s more, he talked a lot about the reason makes the strangers reject his asking. For example, one day, Jia Jiang went to a stranger’s house with a flower in his hand and he asking for planting the flower in the stranger’s backyard. He was rejected but that’s because the stranger has a dog and he did not want Jia Jiang’s flower dug by this dog. Therefore, it was because what he offered does not fit what the stranger

The DSM-5 defines avoidant personality disorder as “A pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, and hypersensitivity to criticism… starting in early adulthood in many contexts” (Hyde 2017a). This is most evident in the passage where Zailckas explains her reasoning for avoiding her hall mates and roommate Wendi. She declares, “I don’t avoid you because I think I’m superior, I do it because I think I’m inferior. I do it because I think you don’t want me, and that lowliness is the reason that I drink, too” (p.

Rejection on that scale will influence that person to change their values and ideals because humans want to feel part of a community. If one doesn't feel like they can belong to a community they'll conform into one. Humans need to live in a community, we're social creatures,

Many things are important to us, one of these is being accepted by our society. We all hate to be the outsider or the new kid, because we feel alone and secluded . In “Who Am I This Time?';, Helene Shaw’s job kept her moving to a different town every eight weeks. She became very cold to her

The nature between the persons involved also has an effect on the emotional reactions to rejection. When there is mutual sexual interest the response to sexual rejection will be completely different than that of someone you just met. Whether sexual intercourse previously took place complicates how someone would react to sexual

An example is a person who attends a predominantly white school and they are African American. This person may feel out of place and feel like the others in the group session will not understand him because he is the only person of color in the group. He may feel like the group will discriminate against him. It is up to counselor and those in the group to make him feel comfortable to be himself. If there are people in the group that may be discriminating against him then the counselor needs to address the situation. If people cannot be accepting of others, then they do no need to be in the group. Which leads me to acceptance vs rejection. People are more critical of themselves more than others are to them. “Members of the group tend to reject themselves more others reject them” (Corey, 2014, p.277). The African American boy may not want to reveal to the group that he left his last school because he got into a fight with another student. He feels like the group members may reject him. As a group leader I would encourage him to talk more during the group session and listen to the responses he gets from the other members. This will allow him to build trust and

Cronin et al. (2007) explained a literature review as being a summary of research that has been carried out on the proposed research topic. The aim of the literature review is to provide a rationale for a new research topic to be undertaken. A good literature review will have a selection of information from varied sources. In this article the literature review is under the heading of background this may be a cause of confusion for some readers and could perhaps be more suited to its own heading. However, the literature review in this article clearly summarises the research that has been conducted into the topic of interest. The fact that the need to belong and accepted is a fundamental need is highlighted. Furthermore the effects of being depraved of this need are also brought to the forefront. In addition to this further studies have been conducted into the depravation of social relationships and its link with higher levels of somatic and psychosomatic illness.

The desire for positive social relationships is one of the most fundamental and universal human needs. This need has a deep root in evolutionary history in relation to mating and natural selection and this can exert a powerful impact on contemporary human psychological processes (Baumeister & Leary 1995). Failure to satisfy these needs can bear devastating consequences on the psychological well being of an individual. These needs might not be satisfied as rejection, isolation, and ostracism occurs on a daily basis to people. Although being ignored and excluded is a pervasive circumstance present throughout history across species, and humans of all ages and cultures i.e the use of Ostracism (the feeling of isolation and exclusion) has been

The need for acceptance always comes with the fear of rejection. The need for acceptance is a powerful motivator, but the fear of rejection can be even scarier. We can all think of a time where we were rejected, and when thinking on that memory, and I bet you can still feel the sting. “Fear of