Neglectful Parenting Styles

(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.

According to psychologist Diana Baumrind, there are four different parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved, and authoritative. (p. 339) Authoritarian parenting is a strict form of parenting that demands obedience and respect, but offers little support. Children of authoritarian parents often do not have a healthy relationship with their parents due to the lack of communication. Permissive parents are known as the “cool” parents among adolescents. This parenting style is relaxed and comes with hardly any rules. Permissive parents have a very warm relationship with their child; however, this style is counterproductive in child rearing because they act as a friend instead of a parent who sets boundaries. Uninvolved parenting is the most detrimental to a child’s psychological health. Uninvolved parents are indifferent to their child’s activities, emotional state, and overall well-being. They are neglectful and even reject their children from being a part

The four primary parenting styles are Authoritarian, Permissive, Authoritative, and Uninvolved parenting styles. Authoritarian parents are very controlling and strict with their children. They expect obedience form their children and don’t tolerate expressions of disagreement. In contrast, Permissive parents are more relaxed and provide inconsistent feedback. They require little of their children and don’t see themselves as responsible for their children’s behavior. They also don’t set limits or control over their children. Authoritative parents are firm and set clear and consistent limits for their children. While they tend to be strict they show love and emotional support for them as well. These parents tend to reason with their child as to why they should behave a certain way. These parenting styles also encourage the child to be independent. The fourth parenting style is uninvolved parenting style. These parents show interest in their children and display indifferent or rejecting behavior towards them. They detach emotionally and only see themselves as providers of materials goods such as shelter, food, and clothing.

The permissive parenting style is one in which the parents care for their child, yet they don’t set rules or discipline their child. This parenting style is high in nurturance and low in maturity demands, control, and communication. According to Joseph Sclafani, a child psychologist,:

This type of parenting gives the child more control over their activities. It shows them the importance of kinship and community. However, within the school system, they are more likely to just take whatever is given to them. They never learned the skill to demand what they need and in turn, they can be shorted by teachers and administrators. As a child, I was never allowed to skip a piano lesson or tutoring session without consequences, but it did not matter if I dropped softball for a whole season.

As I was reading through our course textbook, “Psychology: An Exploration,” by Saundra K. Ciccarelli and J. Noland White and listening through class lectures over the course of the semester, I found the topic on parenting styles in chapter 8 to be very interesting. I found it to be interesting because I can think on many life situations as a child that applies to this concept very easily, which I never realized before. There are three different types of parenting styles. The first style is called authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parenting is a style when the parent constantly demands rules on their children and nothing other than rules. In our textbook it is stated that, “this type of parent is stern, rigid, demanding perfection, controlling, uncompromising” (Ciccarelli, White, 2013). An authoritarian parent is one that expects their child to obey their rules or else they would get punished; as I would say this style of parenting is when the parent believes, “is either their way or the highway.” The second style of parenting is called permissive parenting. Permissive parenting is the complete opposite style of authoritarian parenting. They are parents that have absolutely no rules in their household. Permissive parents are normally portrayed as parents that could careless about the concept of parenting. Permissive parents believe that without given rules and demands to their children, their children will be the happiest. This style can also, indicate neglectfulness

Dismissive Parenting. As one may presume, the normative social ranking within families was found to be important, but it established based on the way parents and their children form attachments (Sloman et al., 2002). Moreover, it is ideal for parents to respond to the emotions of their children in order to reassure and support them. However, when a parent’s response does not a line with the needs of the child, the child does not desire attach to him or her, because the parent is not meeting the child’s needs.

The permissive style of parenting is rather fascinating. The typical permissive parent tends to be relaxed, and does not require much of the child. A permissive parent is pretty non-confrontational as they attempt to avoid arguments, or any other sort of confrontation. However, there are some pros to this style of parenting. For example, a typical permissive parent can tend to be quite loving towards their child. However, the fact that there are not many rules set in place for the child and the child is free to do as they please. There is a major lack of structure, and the child does not learn concepts of discipline very efficiently. Children require a sense of structure in their environment. Unfortunately, one of the long-term effects of permissive parents can be that children who grew up with permissive parents tend to be more likely to engage in detrimental activities such as underage drinking.

The Authoritative Style of Parenting, children are expected to follow the rules and guidelines that a parent with this style of parenting has put into place. This type of parents are responsive to their children and willing (eager) to listen to questions. Authoritative parents gives reasonable demands, consistent limits, expresses warmth and affection which every child, I think, yearns for. Rules are set and reasons behind the rules are explain to ensure that the child (ren) understands. They’re also willing to listen to the child’s feelings when setting these limits. Parents with this style of parenting are flexible and willing to bend the rules in certain cases- for example, allowing the child to stay up an hour pass the normal bedtime, so that the child can finish watching television. When a child (ren) fail to meet the expectations that an Authoritative Parent is more of a nurturing and forgiving parent rather than punishing. These types of parents uses rewards, praises, and positive consequences for good behaviors. Baurmind (1971, 1991) suggests that these parents, “monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They

Indulgent parenting is another harmful type of parenting. While these parents are involved in their child’s life, they are very lenient. This style has parents being loving and nurturing for their child. They often give their children big gifts as they don’t want to conflict with them or make them angry. They will often act more as a friend than a parent. This is an unhealthy relationship between a child and parent as it can make a child think they could do anything without worrying about any

Parents adapt their parenting styles according to their environments. One cannot claim a style of parenting to be morally "right" or "wrong" however the Authoritative Style of parenting that includes both high nurturing and discipline proves to be the most effective. Two examples of parenting styles that I have witnessed are Permissive and Rejecting-Neglecting Styles. With teen pregnancy being a being broad topic of our generation, their permissive parenting styles are displayed both locally and publicly with shows like 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom that air on MTV. Younger parents tend to provide total freedom and unconditional love, providing a environment that is highly nurtured but low in discipline. The child's wishes and desires take precedent over that of the parents, its almost as if all decisions are centered solely around the happiness of the child. Extreme cases in which the younger parents are not mentally and physically committed to being parents may lead to Rejecting-Neglecting styles of parenting. These parents want little to no involvement with their child and display low nurturing and low discipline int their child's lives. Often the children are left to raise themselves and are neglected, ignored, and emotionally

Permissive parenting style: in this style the child is given low level of demands and expectation in their behavior .in this style the parents tend to be loving yet provides few guideline and rules. In these parents often seems like friend than a parent figure, he do not expect mature level of behavior from their children.

The parenting styles uninvolved and authoritative are very distinct styles, parents that are univolved are emotionally detached from their children. These parents don 't respond to the needs of their children, nor do they place any demands on them. In extreme cases, neglect is involved to the point of developmental disruption creating emotional and behavior problems in the children. uninvolved parents are often depressed, their feelings of sadness and withdrawn can be mild to severe, lasting a brief period of time or go on for many months or even years. This type of parenting is detrimental to the child 's developmental that will be evident in many , if not all aspects of his or her life.

“Focus more about who your child is than on what your child does. Remember, you’re growing a person, not fixing a problem” L.R. Knost. To see the importance of different parenting techniques, one must look at the Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive, and Lenient parenting techniques. Over the years parenting styles have changed drastically. In the mid twentieth century, parents weren’t as concerned about their children but as the years progressed on, parents became more aware of what was going on with their children and what their children were up to. According to AHA parenting, there are four types of parenting styles: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and uninvolved otherwise known as lenient (AHA Parenting). A study

Deciding how to raise a child is a very difficult choice. The pressure to not mess up your kid for life and try to make them the best person they can be is intense. Parents help to shape children into the person they grow up to be. There are three methods of parenting: permissive, democratic, and authoritarian. Permissive parenting is letting one’s child do whatever they feel like and enforcing little rules if any. Democratic parenting is trying to be open with their children and being flexible, while still maintaining consistency with rules, etc. Authoritarian is being very strict and rigid with rules and demanding full obedience with severe punishments. Examples of permissive and democratic parenting are Helen and Gill from the 1980s movie Parenthood. Helen is permissive and lets her son, Gary, and teenage daughter, Julie, do almost whatever they want. If she does decide to yell at them for something, she is not consistent with what she allows or doesn’t allow them to do; and she does not follow through with consequences. Gill is a democratic parent and he is consistent yet flexible with enforcing rules with his sons, Justin and Kevin, and daughter, Taylor. Him and his wife, Karen, are very loving and supportive of their children and are not very strict. I believe democratic parenting is the most effective parenting style because it keeps children behaved without being suppressive or totally giving up control. It also allows your children to feel loved and