1. Discuss how differential parental treatment is described in this story. Compare and contrast how differential parental treatment affected each daughter's response when she found out she was not raised by her own biological mother? Who felt like she lost out on more? Who seemed to gain the most? (4 points)
The McDonald and Miller families couldn’t have been more different.The Millers were a larger family of seven and very strict and orderly people. They valued hobbies such as crafts and rock polishing, and less on athletics. Norbert Miller was a preacher so the family was exposed to many interesting people, but also didn’t live on much, meaning Martha and her four other sisters shared one bedroom. On the other hand with a different way of
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Just thinking about how she didn’t really look like the McDonalds or act like them but shared traits with the Millers such as being fanatical. Not only this but another response she had was insecurity, that her family would reject her because they didn't think very highly of the Millers and that the McDonalds would essentially kick her to the curb and embrace Martha. Martha, on the other hand, had a hint from a brother in law Rudy that she may not be a Miller, after all, she didn't follow through with getting the answers she searched for because she didn't really know how that would disrupt the family flow. after she found out Mrs.Miller wasn't her biological mother and Mrs.Miller was very clear that she was not her mother I believe Martha felt alone in this time, not only was her Mom very direct in saying that she wasn't her mother the McDonalds were simultaneously keeping her at a arms …show more content…
Siblings are our longest growing relationships, they consist of people with the same DNA makeup, for the girls it was difficult. Martha(I believe) grew up with Bob, but they didn't really click so meeting his biological sister caused worry within her that she’d be forgotten in a way. Sues sisters, on the other hand, had an interesting experience considering they kind of knew of the switch, I think all the siblings longed for a connection with their actual sister and when they got it took advantage of the opportunity.
4. Knowing about how intimate relationships change in later adulthood, why did the mother, who knew the babies had been switched, finally decide in her old age to let the daughters and the other mother know about this? (4
They model the true meaning of a family. Eliza welcomed Mattie into her home and blood related family. Mattie was treated with kindness and love, her acceptance into Eliza’s family meant a lot to Eliza. Although the complications, Anderson uses word choice to express different emotions, “ I couldn't have done it without your help.”(222) Even though Eliza worked for the Cook family, Mattie appreciates Eliza. Eliza helped Mattie learn to let people in, and open up to others and become family.
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Establish that your character had a poor relationship with his or her parents (provide text details!)
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Martha was the oldest daughter of John Dandirdge and his wife Frances Jones. Martha had 7 siblings. There was a rumor saying she had two illegitimate half-siblings. She was trained at home in music, sewing, and household management.
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People often think of family as positive, loving, and with no flaws. However, there is almost a stereotype that all families love each other and there aren’t problems or challenges in a family. Sometimes families put people through challenges and some families aren’t “perfect”. In the book Make Lemonade by Virginia Euwer Wolff, Jolly has two kids and goes through challenges with her family. Most careful readers can see how Jolly has these challenges with her kids and how she is far off from the “perfect” family. She goes through many of these challenges in life and finds a way to overcome them. Jollys family shapes her identity because the challenges she faces ends up making her stronger. Jeremy and Jilly challenging her, LaVaughn helping her out, and her past family all shape her identity.
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Case 5.1 involves the Miller family. Harold is a 4-year-old White and Jewish pre-school student. Harold’s father is an engineering professor and his mother is a stay-at-home. A recent evaluations show that Harold has Asperger’s Syndrome (Amatea, 2013).
The diction used in Martha’s speech has evidence of guilt. Martha says, “We’ve been close to each other, of course. I’ve loved you like a friend, the way thousands of women fell about other women” (Hellman 66). She shows guilt by allowing herself to try and justify her actions. If she was not guilty she would not be working around why she feels the way she does.
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Although sounding hateful, Martha shows that she loved him when they first got married, it just faded with the lies and false expectations that grew between them. Both Thelma and Martha allow the men in their lives to take charge. Allowing the male roles to dominate the expectations being set gives them the power to oversee a woman's future. These straining relationships are what caused the problems within themselves.
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Thesis/Central Idea: To understand that there are many parents raising their children alone with no help at all. Many single parents have different circumstances that cause them to raise their children by themselves. Being a single parent is not easy there are good days and bad days and most single parents must make it through no matter what. Many single parents do not realize that their children are looking at them for the rest of their lives.
There are several parenting styles which guide children throughout their life. These parenting styles can be either good or bad and this will have an effect on the child; either a positive or a negative one. This essay investigates the parenting styles from which emerge questions about the role of the mother and the father. It also focuses on the ways that either too much mothering or too much fathering might have an effect on the child’s identity later on in its life.