Olmstread, Blick And Mills's View On Forgiveness

Before the question of forgiveness can be answered something to consider is what does it mean to forgive. The act of forgiveness can be seen as many things, for example it can be seen as the pardoning of an action done by one person by another. It can also be seen as the letting go of feelings of resentment and vengeance against another person. According to Hans Habe in The Sunflower, “Forgiveness is the imitation of God” (163). This

The article "Self-forgiveness: The forgotten stepchild of forgiveness research" is a qualitative rather than a quantitative study of the phenomenon of self-forgiveness. The authors distinguish self-forgiveness versus forgiveness of an 'other' in an outwardly-directed fashion. They state that self-forgiveness has been under-studied in the existing literature. The beginning of the article is devoted to a literature review of existing writings upon the subject, with using a working definition of self forgiveness "as a set of motivational changes whereby one becomes decreasingly motivated to avoid stimuli associated with the offense, decreasingly motivated to retaliate against the self 地nd increasingly motivated to act benevolently toward the self" (Hall & Fincham 2005: 622).

Forgiveness is a voluntary process and only time can heal all wounds. Scratch that- time won’t heal all wounds and forgiving someone is totally and completely up to you. When stating that forgiveness is “voluntary,” it simply means that one is forgiving someone at their own free will. The question is “why? why must we forgive someone after doing something so awful?” The answer might be complex. In the book “Picking Cotton” by Jennifer Thompson-Cannino, Ronald Cotton and Erin Torneo, and in the book “Beauty for Ashes” written by Joyce Meyer, forgiveness is portrayed as a big role. Each person goes through their own struggles and eventually has to forgive someone or be forgiven by someone.

Forgiveness has a different context depending on where the person is from or what he believes. Religion places a great emphasis on the view of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is something that is not fully understood in todays culture. Forgiveness is an art. It is an art because many people look at art and say “ Oh thats just colors splattered together”. Many people look at forgiveness and say “ Oh well im sorry thats all I can do”. These are both incorrect outlooks. Each picture an artist creates has a hidden meaning that you will only see if you really look beyond the shapes that your brain see’s. Forgiveness is more than just accepting the fact that someone apologized. It is remembering the anguish and hurt that they caused you and willing to put it all in the past and move forward with your life. Anyone can lie and say that their over it, but only those whose heart are free of the anger really understand the art of forgiving someone.

The general topic of forgiveness has received a magnitude of attention and research on a conceptual level in recent years. Hall and Fincham consistently noted, however, that self-forgiveness had little to no empirical study or research documented and believe this is a critical piece to an individual’s overall emotional health. In an effort to stimulate additional research on the

By definition, to forgive is to accept and let go of the offences done against one, and by doing so, be able to remember them without rancor. In other words, the man thought to be forgiving is one who does not totally forgets the wrongs committed against him (because that is a quite impossible action). In reality, the forgiving man is one who is able to recall all those wrongs, and still be at peace with himself and with the offender in question. This activity is quite difficult to do, namely because in order to truly forgive, one must have strong convictions. This can be understood better if we consider how easier it is to hate a person for something he or she did to one, instead of absolving he or she of all fault and consequently accepting to love the person after the wrong committed. Therefore, the moral virtue of forgiveness becomes easier when the determination of giving second chances becomes a habit.

In Shiver’s article, A Bridge Across Abysses of Revenge, he claims that for forgiveness in politics to occur the past must not be forgotten. He states, “Citizens must cope with the injustices that have divided them before they contract for a justice that will unite them” (Helmick, & Petersen, 2001, p. 155). Shiver makes his point by discussing the different approaches to how nations have dealt with war crimes and massacres, and great injustices from the past, such as Americas denial of the “No Gun Ri Massacre” that occurred in South Korea in 1950. In his article, Shiver compares America’s tendency to deny and/or forget the past to Germany’s ability to embrace their mistakes and in return find true forgiveness and reconciliation. He encourages

Results showed that participants did not verbalize their forgiveness. This research found that making the decision to forgive someone depended on whether the situation was caused within a family relation. These results assist in the comprehension of imparting forgiveness in non-voluntary relations extends our viewpoint on the complex way of families. Further research should be investigated based on verbal and non-verbal acts of forgiveness. Research was done so that we could better understand the discourse in a relationship due to lack of forgiveness. The research is also applied so that a better understanding of how forgiveness can be negotiated between participants. The goal of the research was to understand the cause of family problems. The research applies relational dialectic theory to help family members create long lasting relationships by explicitly giving forgiveness in the relationship within the family. After the study was complete, the researchers found that the participants honor commitment to having a relationship in the family. The researchers also found that the ability to verbally forgive is a decisive action and an intentional

Forgiveness is not just practiced by saints and not only benefits its recipients but have strong connection with person’s physical, mental and spiritual health. It plays a great role in the health of families, communities and nations. Forgiveness provides common ground for love, acceptance, harmony and true happiness Most spiritual and religious leaders of the world will agree that forgiveness of oneself and others is one way to clear the mind, heart and soul and may result in a feeling of increased peace and happiness.

Forgiveness is like an absolution. It frees the person who did wrong from having to feel guilty and having their mistake forgiven without consequence. That is not always the case though, sometime, forgiveness can end in reprieve. It will only delay any punishment that could be given. Forgiveness is also an act of compassion. . . . Anopposite of forgiveness, almost a polar opposite, is blame. Blame is accusing someone of something they may or may not have

The encouragement of forgiveness in one way or another is a universal concept of the Christian religion. However, cultural dispositions of forgiveness are cultivated differently for blacks and whites in America. The message of forgiveness within the context of catastrophic violence and loss is emphatically expressed in Black churches all across America. An example of this message includes the Sunday school lesson called, “A Love That Forgives”, prepared for students at the 16th Street Baptist Church in Birmingham, Al on September 15, 1963. Ironically, that same day there was a racial bombing, killing four little girls. Reverend Martin Luther King, who conducted a speech before the burial of the four little girls said, "We must develop and

“Forgiveness in Families” The central theme of this article, “Forgiveness in Families,” focuses a great deal on forgiveness the scientific study. However, several people consider this task to be one of lesser importance considering the life’s experience of others. Yet, this view betrays a lack of understanding of what forgiveness is also how truly powerful a remedy it can be in healing hearts and relationships. Still, families need forgiveness considering it involve a softening in one’s behavior, feelings and thoughts toward an offender.

The biblical perspective of forgiveness in marriage correlates with forgiveness in all relations. The incorporation of spiritual angle of forgiveness allows married couples to have faith in marriage restoration. The Christian principles advocate for forgiveness because of its negative effects stated in Galatians 5:19 (acts of sinful nature). Galatians 5:22 lists the fruits of the Holy Spirit which are the positive results of forgiveness. They include: love, peace patience, faithfulness, humility, kindness, joy, gentleness, and self-control.

Forgiveness: Is the act of wiping away, pardoning or forgoing a debt. As a Christian, if we forgive it means we forgo the hurt we underwent caused by someone and start the relationship a fresh. Forgiveness isn't granted because the person deserves it, but it is an act of mercy and grace covered by love.