Open vs. Closed Adoption

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For many people, adoption is the only choice when it comes to having children. Once someone chooses adoption, however, there is always more than one option available. It is important when choosing adoption that each person involved is educated on the topic. There are three main types of adoption: confidential, mediated, and fully disclosed. “In up to 90% of domestic infant adoptions, adoptive parents maintain some contact with birth parents. It's considered best practice because most women want to know what happens to the child and the child wants to know family history” (Koch, 2009). Even though the adoptive parents may not create a strong bond with the child, an open adoption is better than one that is closed because children respond…show more content…
Mary wasn't squeamish about Lynnie's vomit, or smell, or blood. She had the strength to be able to stand what was happening and to take it and to help. It turned out Lynn had a rare blood disease that had surfaced before in their family. When I finally understood how connected Mary and Lynn would always be to each other without taking anything away from our family, my feelings started untangling in a way that felt new. I started being able to relax around Mary. I found out I could trust her. I began to understand that her love for Lynn is like mine. Now we can't imagine not seeing her. We are able to share future dreams and even talk about the sadness of the past. I'm deeply grateful she's a part of our lives.
(Adoption Media, 1995-2010)
Minimizing the sense of loss, commemorating the child’s previous family, and eliminating the possibility of the child feeling betrayed are the goals of open adoption for the children.
A closed adoption may have a negative effect on the child as well as the birth parents. Many different emotions are felt through this experience. Identity confusion, not being able to compare physical traits to their birth family, limited access to information that others take for granted such as medical records, and the feeling of abandonment may be experienced by the adoptee. The birth parents may feel an unbearable amount of guilt in a closed adoption. The biological parents may have the urge to know if their child is safe and
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