Outline the Primary Skills Used in Counselling Relationships

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Outline the primary skills used in counselling relationships
This essay intends to introduce the reader to the most important skills involved within developing and maintaining a therapeutic relationship between a client and the therapist or counsellor. The onus will be on Humanistic counselling but many of these skills are central to all counselling types.
Humanistic counselling is a process whereby the eventual goal is to facilitate the client in developing a personal understanding of self, and form a realisation of their own psychological needs and desires. It is, in essence, a route to empowerment for the client. Carl Rogers, father of client-centred therapy, described the client as an ‘organism’ whose natural tendency is a need to
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Once these two are communicated to the client only then can the healing or growing begin.
The main focus of this essay has to be on the three ‘core conditions’, as utilised by the counsellor to promote a positive movement in their client’s psychology. They are intended for maintaining a focus on the client’s personal growth, and detract from the therapist’s own outside world. The three core conditions are the professional apparatus or tool-kit of the therapist, and the use of each is a skill in itself but the combined forces of all three in an effective manner requires an abundance of skill or experience. These are, as have already been mentioned, congruence, unconditional positive regard and empathy. They are separate skills but are intrinsically linked to each other. If used correctly, they can guide the client to a state of self-realisation, which could lead to the development of a healing process.
‘Congruence’ or genuineness is about breaking down the wall between the therapist and client. ‘Therapist’ and ‘client’ are both roles that the two people assume and can lead to artificial or socially-desirable behaviour. It is therefore, according to Rogers, in the therapist’s best interests to convey that they are a real person behind the role being played out. The client, in turn, needs to feel that they are speaking to a real person, who, like