Parent 's Choices Affect Children

If someone were to ever tell my younger self that I would one day be one of five siblings, I would have never believed them. Unquestionably, my siblings are an enormous part of who I am; aspiring me to become an intelligent and an affectionate human being. Life doesn't always hurl obstacles in your way, but when it does, it can turn out to be completely disparate and even fascinating from the original thought. At the ripe old age of eleven years old, I was expected to step up to the plate and take care of my new adopted siblings, David and Alysa. Countless responsibilities, circumstances, and a world of authority and gratitude have shaped me along the way due to that one event. Indeed, I am grateful that my parents went through with the adoption because even though I had an impact on my adopted siblings, they have propelled me to become an exceptional brother, son, friend, and student.

They could feel pampered by their parents and even siblings. Because of this, the younger could “develop social skills that will get other people to do things for them, thus contributing to their image as charming and popular,” (Whitbourne ll 36,37). And lastly, an only child has their parents undivided attention, which could lead to feeling, “scrutinized and controlled,” (Whitbourne ll 42).

Growing up I was around a lot of boys. The reason because of that is because I was the only girl at the time or as they knew of. I have two siblings. A brother named Drendarrious he’s the oldest and also the only boy my mother have , I have a Younger sibling her name is Rayn and I would’ve had another sibling but my mother had a miscarriage when she was two months pregnant with it.

There’s evidence that the presence of a sibling can help a child’s adaptation in many stressful situations and that sibling relationships remain important sources of support through childhood and adulthood. (Rebecca, Children and Youth Services Review) Sonya Leathers, an associate professor from the University of Illinois is an expert in child welfare/behavior. In one of her studies she stated “Brothers and sisters provide emotional support, comfort, and a sense of stability, belonging, and continuity. They may serve as allies, confidants, companions, and sources of love.”

It is widely known that the physical activity (PA) levels for children are not being met world wide. There are a myriad of activities and movements that children can participate to receive the recommended 60 minutes a day of PA. However, how do parents have an influence on the physical activity their children are receiving? Gwendolyn Kay VanDerworp and Sarah-Jane Ryan’s 2014 article “Parents’ Perception of their Influence on their Child’s Physical Activity” studies how parents perceive their influence on there children’s PA. During this interpretative phenomenological analysis (IPA) study, three major themes arose in how they perceived their influence on PA. These themes; environment of opportunity, negative barriers, and their interactions with their children, served as the foundation of the article. In this paper I will discuss the findings of VanDerworp and Ryan’s research and how parental influences effect children’s PA.

As the eldest of three kids, I am who I am because of my younger sister and brother. Coming from an immigrant family, my parents worked full time at their restaurant. They had to care for the customers, the finances, kitchen supplies, and food; money was their priority because that money was for me and my siblings. From the first day I started kindergarten, I was extremely independent. Everyday after I got off the school bus at approximately 2:45 PM, I walk home and eat a bowl of cereal. I studied completed my homework, and on the occasional times my dad was home, I asked him to correct my answers. All that changed two years later when my younger sister started her kindergarten year.

This week in class we had a class discussion talking about the impact of the child’s surrounding family-wise. We read issue 8 in Taking Sides and chapter 8 in Devlopment of Children and Adolescants as well.

Growing up with a wonderful family to support me and have my back in everything I do, has made me become the person that I am today. I have two brothers; one of whom is my twin. Having someone to share your life with you while growing up is truly something unique and special. Going to a new school or trying to make new friends can be really tough, but when you have someone that is always by your side, it makes it easier. My brother and I have done everything together, which has shaped me to be the person that I am today.

This study by Decker, Dunkel, Kelts, Kesserlring, Mathes (2015) was done to measure life history and the influences of maternal and parental sensitivity in childhood, and parental authoritative parenting in late adolescence on developing life history strategies. The study suggests that the sensitive of the parents in early childhood and in late adolescence will affect their life history. Life history theory is explaining human individual differences, parenting influences in the early development. Promislow & Harvey, (1990, 1991). In this

The research showed that showing affection plus a just level of control is likely to yield positive child outcomes.

The development of my child’s cognitive, physical and socio-emotional has grown well. Daniel has grown to be a happy adolescent with a sense of direction in what she wants to do as a career. The way I raised giving her independence has given her feelings of happiness. I have raise her to use freedom wisely and given her trust in making decisions on her own. For example Daniel was asked out on a date by a classmate she was really happy about the date. I allowed her to go on her date alone and let make decisions on her own. To establish more of her independence she spent the day with her boyfriend without telling me where they were going. She spent the day doing community service work. I believe she will become more independent since she will be leaving to college on her own. I also been

If you have siblings you will have to share everything, so you get less; but you also get less of the bad things. Siblings can support and comfort each in times of trouble. The elder siblings learn to care for the younger ones and the younger ones learn to respect their elder siblings and have someone to look up to besides their parents. You are more balanced person than an only child.

Before a child has friends they have their family. Everything that they know and love about the world mostly comes from what they see around in their house. Children usually find role models in their family most of the time it is the child’s sibling. Yet only children don’t have that experience of living with another child and begin to develop their personality and traits from what they see in their parents. An only child’s role model is usually their mom or dad. Most of their time is anyway spent with them. Looking up to an adult rather than a younger being can really change a lot about the child’s personality. Only child are mostly known to be

Only children are selfish, spoiled, and bratty, or shy, lonely, and weird. These are all common stereotypes of only children from an outsider's perspective. I am an only child. I am mature, independent, and social, even though I may not want to share my last cookie with a friend all the time. Although I may be shy, as an insider of this subculture, I have found that being an only child is a gift and that not everyone follows these stereotypes. Only children are around adults for a significant amount of their life, especially their parents. Being around my parents has allowed me to mature quicker than other kids who have many siblings which has made me more independent. I’m extremely close with my parents because all of their focus is on me, which also puts a lot of pressure on me to do well in everything. I’m closer with my cousins and outside family because at family reunions or holidays, they are the only other kids there. My friends are like my sisters I never had and they make me more of a social person. I enjoy privacy because I’m used to it which makes me an introvert sometimes, and a lot of the time I have trouble making decisions because I don’t like conflict. Although being an only child has affected me some, when I think about all of these characteristics of myself, I don’t contribute them entirely to being an only child. Although I would be happy with siblings, I have learned to be content with being an only child.

I thought myself to respect all people even if i didn't like them but still had aspect them and saw everyone as equal to each other and not have one dominant the other. What i am saying  I know how it feels to have more limitation based on who you are. I know where they’re coming from. But overall having siblings had made more laughter, more learning opportunities and learning from their mistakes, and most all forever lasting friendship. I am very thankful to have family and friends to encourage me in my goals on what I want do and who I want to become.