Parenting Adult Children

Secondly, kids tend to have a closer relationship with their parents because their parents have now become more of a friend to them instead of an authority. Carroll speaks of Mark Gamsjager, saying “He skateboards and snowboards with his two boys, Austin, 13, and Thomas, 9” (Carroll 32). This type of relationship will be beneficial when Mark’s children grow older because they will have something in common with him and it will continue to keep the relationship close. I have a similar relationship with my parents and it has been nothing but beneficial to me. Eighteen years compared to a lifetime is not very long so it is important that kids develop close relationships with their parents before it is time to move off to college. I am grateful that my father is a helicopter parents because I was able to spend a great amount of time with him before I moved out.

Parents that are going through a marriage breakdown, divorce and separation can be stressful for all involved particularly the children/young person. They can become emotionally withdrawn and suffer a lack of confidence which can create low self esteem. Due to family upheaval, they may lose focus in their own abilities and suffer mentally. Similarly, children

Some parents have huge expectations of their children and can put a lot of strain and worry on their children's shoulders thus causing emotional stress

When children are going through changes is their lives, it is essential that they receive support from the adults around them so that they are able to deal with the circumstances. Even if the children show resistance, the adults should remain positive and try and assist them.

The changes can affect adolescents when a parent moves out of the home. The adolescent is moving with the parent, or the children have to go to a new school. Parents should tell the adolescents if they are sharing custody, and visitation and what the schedule will be. Parents should talk to their children together, agree on what will be said, and be as civil as possible not to cause the children stress and discomfort.

My teen handled all of this stress very well due to her secure attachment, and support from my partner and me. She went through the process of applying to colleges and universities, and was able to get into several of them. She decided to go to one in state and set off on the net chapter of her life financially responsible, healthy and thoroughly happy with her life (My Virtual Teen). This positive transition through adolescence can be partly related to the authoritative parenting style I was tasked with portraying in this experiment. An Authoritative parent is highly responsive, or warm, and highly demanding (McMahan et. Al. 2015). This is the best parenting style for adolescence (Thompson, 2016) because these parents can adapt to the constantly changing world of needs that is adolescence. My teen’s behavior is reflective of my parenting style because as she began to test boundaries, I did not let up on either my warmth or my demands. She continued to do well in school, and socially, all while continuing to love her

While children are growing and maturing they tend to rely on the fact that the adults in their lives are always going to be positive impacts. However, even adults can mislead you into doing the wrong thing. For example take a look at Romeo and Juliet. Juliet wasn’t the only one responsible for her death. The tragic death of Juliet was the fault of Friar Lawrence due to thoughtlessness, and interference with matters relevant to the families.

When it comes to raising a kid every parent wants to be the best parent. Many of them wonder if they are giving the right environment for the physical and behavioral growth of their kids. The reality is; most parents do not remain the best parents or at least good parents.

Parents are the ones we love unconditionally. They raise us to be better than themselves, teach us morals, and let us venture out into the world with all the right tools to be successful. However, many children are less fortunate to experience what a parent is because most are being raised by their grandparents. According to an article written by Deborah Langosch, “2.4 million grandparents and extended family members are raising six million relative children in the United States resulting in a fifty percent increase in the past decade” (Langosch).This increase is caused by many parents who have difficulties with substance abuse, deportation, or economic hardships.

Children tend to have a strong physiological or physical bond with their parents, and often, that bond either strengthens or weakens with age. There may be many consequential events that occur within a child's life, that either severs or weakens that connection, and I feel as if in most cases, it is the transition into adulthood. Adolescence is quite a tough part of life for not only children, but also their parents. While the parents did live through it all and experience most of the things that we do, once they witness the birth of their children, their automatically brains go on an overprotective mode, and all they want to do is ensure that their child has the best future possible for them. I feel as if adolescence has gotten in the way

If I was in charge of guiding children through this process I would teach them that if they are parents do end up divorcing, everything will be ok! Like all children who have been or gone through the process of a divorce yes they experience all types of obstacles, behaviors, and problems that have affected them physically, cognitively and psychosocial development. In my case getting a divorce is a tough thing to go through I would never want to experience or place my kids in this situation because after all the research I did on this essay it does change them or for some it improves them. However, regardless the children get hurt no one wants their children to be hurt or be sad. Especially when parents start fighting over the custody of the

Being 15 years of age, I am in a stage of my life where I started to develop myself and future. I often find myself making decisions that shape myself, such as what people to associate with and whether to spend my free time out with friends or staying home. I personally try my hardest to make decisions that are going to reflect positively on my future, myself, and the people around me. When it comes to the views I share with elders, they are somewhat very similar. My beliefs in life have been created by my family, friends, and the media, and I think that this has had a large impact on my views of certain beliefs.

My mother doesn’t let my sister disrespect her or appear to not have control of the house. My sister doesn’t feel that she can do whatever she wants just because my dad isn’t around. It’s really important for parents to talk with their children too keep them from failing in life and keep the in control too. What the parents can also do to resolve the conflict is talk to their children and emphasize the fact that even though the family is changing they must continue to respect them, follow house rules, and do their best in school. The parents should also monitor their children constantly and give them consistent discipline.

Mark Guralnick, a family attorney who has worked on many gray divorces, agrees when he states “Adult children of a gray divorce are definitely affected because now they are affected by the possibility of having to take in their senior parents as if they were the children” (Saggio 2). In other words, the stress of having to take care of their parents in addition dealing with the crushing weight of the divorce, the millennials have begun to push off the possibility of marriage altogether. With the increasing divorce rate for “grey-haired” couple tripling over the past two centuries, there has been a decrease in in divorces from the younger generation due to the lack of marriages from those under thirty. Another issue the grown children of divorcing couple have to deal with is the stress of their parents giving information about the divorce which causes boundary issues. The parents also tend to lean on their child/children for emotional, and in some cases, financial support. Terry Gaspard, an author and therapist, himself states “Adult children may be called on to help, but they shouldn’t let it break them, clear boundaries are important” (Saggio 2). Gaspard’s point is millennials should not be depended on to take care of their parents, or have the stress due to much information from the divorce. Even children who grew up in a split home still carry the stress from their parents divorce. Research has shown fourteen percent of children have felt like an outsider in their own home at times along with having to take sides in their parents conflict’s.Thirty-two percent felt like an adult even though they were still a kid, and thirty-four felt it was stressful in their family (Lewin 5). Basically

Intro-I am working on becoming a more competent communicator and disciplinarian, without escalating conflict, specifically with my five teenage children, ages 17, 15, 14, 14 and 14. After my divorce, my children were exhibiting at risk behaviors, such as sneaking out of the home, disregarding family rules and expectations with regard to homework, chores and their overall safety. Eventually, a friend referred me to Youth Services. This resulted in attending Strengthening Families, a weekly class taught over ten weeks aimed at reducing conflict and finding new ways to communicate with my children. The class provides an atmosphere for me to work with youth counselors who actively assist me in changing my parenting style to successfully implement a more collaborative approach. I have been a parent for 22 years, thus, I found changing the ways in which I respond to conflict to be difficult. However, I also realize that now I’m parenting alone. Through my coursework in this class, my research and my hands on practice with Strengthening Families I have been able to adopt a more collaborative approach to managing conflict.