Parenting; It’s Harder Than We Thought
ENG/147
5/19/2016
Parenting; It’s Harder Than We Thought
Parents are often lost when it comes to raising their children to inevitably {hopefully} produce respectable adults. Often parents will emulate the style of discipline they experienced growing up. It is important to know the effects discipline may have emotionally on children. A few techniques that can be utilized in positive parenting are discipline, a child’s growth mentally and physically, and how to be consistent.
Discipline is often a touchy subject when it involves a legal situation. Parents are often confused about where to draw the line between utterly innocent disciplining or perhaps overdoing
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One other area is regarding family rules - it is important to simplify rules for children as they often become confused with too many rules. Take stock of the situation - for instance, if it seems you have fifty or so family rules, try to whittle down the list and concentrate on the most important. Determine the consequences of each rule breach, and make it clear and concise ahead of time to avoid confusion. Avoid the child engaging you in negotiations around the rules. Last but not least don’t worry, and be happy, so your child can see you happy and have fun - this will encourage them to let loose sometimes and have fun with is good for both the mental and physical development of the child.
In conclusion, parenting is a learning experience for all experienced and inexperienced parents. The best way to parent is to understand and consider in using different techniques that will help your child grow strong mentally and physically. From my experience, being a parent is not easy, but as I learn through mistakes and educate myself to understand how I can discipline with patience, my children will have a happier outcome. A parent knows their child more than anyone else and how to react in certain situations, but there is no harm in knowing better ways to handle tough situations and or behaviors a child might throw at you.
References
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