Parenting In Amy Tan's Two Kinds

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Amy Tan’s short story “Two Kinds” really spoke to me on more than one level.
She goes through and talks about how her mother pushed her to do things she didn’t want to do. She, at one point, completely resented her mother for everything. It was not until later in life that she saw her mother just wanted the best for her. My grandmother always tried to push me; she took my small, little dreams and pushed them to the highest extent. My mother was much more relaxed and let me take the reins of my life. Parenting seems to be a hot topic no matter what decade or generation you live you in. Everyone has their own opinions on it and there is not one right way to parent. Obviously it can be hard to find a middle ground sometimes. Deciding when to be strict and when to be more lenient is tough. You want your kids to do the best they can but you also want them to be kids. Learning how to balance pros and cons of situations is part of growing up. There is research that suggests “being too controlling does not enable children to learn those decision-making skills on their own.” (leaf group) Children start to grow and discover who they will become nearing the end of elementary years. This time is considered a
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Aside from learning their alphabet and numbers there are many more things going on inside of the brain. They start to make correlations between cause and effect. They learn to make decisions with the help of their parents. If they tease a sibling and the parent doesn’t rectify the situation the child may go on thinking it is okay to tease and bully other children. On the other hand, if they give too strong of a punishment is this counterproductive? Is the child being taught or just screamed at? Some people will argue that this not productive in teaching the child what they did wrong. In fact, in this situation, the child could see this as being bullied by the parent and the behavior may not
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