Parenting Perfectionism

Research has shown that out of the other parenting styles, authoritative is the most beneficial (Williams). When parent's use that parenting style, they have high expectations for their children. Other research has shown that when parents are authoritative and have high standards for their kids, their children will have a bond with their parents and they will learn how valuable it can be. People need to know how important creating good relationships with their children are because it will create trust between the parents and their family. It is always good for parents to communicate clearly to their children and set expectations that will have positive outcomes for the days to

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well

Parenting styles were developed by Diana Baumrind in 1966 at the University of California at Berkeley (Diana Divecha Ph.D, 2015). Baumrind used a model of demands and responsiveness to determine three types of parenting styles. These styles were authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive parenting. Because permissive parenting lacks in demand and discipline, it will not be discussed in this essay. In Baumrind’s model, demands refers to the amount of control parents exert onto and expect from their children. Responsiveness refers to how a parent nurtures and empathizes with their child. Parents with high demands and high responsiveness follow the authoritative parenting style. On

Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the

There are many different parenting styles that help children develop healthy lifestyles. Dr. Levine focuses this chapter on the authoritarian, permissive and authoritative parents. The authoritarian parent, or the “do as your told” parent as stated in the book, focuses on strict rules for their children. These parents carry a strong “because I said so” ideology and end up hurting their kids more than they help. These kids end up with low self-esteem and high rates of depression. The permissive parent, or the “do your own thing” parent, focus more on a friendship with their child other than a respectful parent-child relationship. These parents have trouble disciplining their child and don’t teach their children correct skills to take responsibility for their actions. The last parenting style, the authoritative parent, are accepting of their child, but also have clear rules and expectations. These parents have appropriate discipline while also focusing on how to better their child. The children of these types of parents have better grades, better social skills and are all around happier. In this chapter, Dr. Levine also focuses on correct ways to be accepting and invested in your child and how important it is to praise effort instead of

All parenting styles associate with the area of a child’s social skills, educational capability, psychosocial growth, and also the negative actions of a child. Parenting is extremely important in a child’s life in order to have a happy and successful life without dealing with unnecessary negative issues that can arise. This portion of the proposal describes literature relevant to the proposed study of this topic. It is organized into four sections: (1) the two aspects on how the parenting styles were based, (2) the four main types of parenting styles, (3) the effects that can result from the parenting styles, and (4) evaluation for results of previous research. The detail of effects on a child’s behavior will be further discussed in the methods section of the proposed study.

Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s

Which in turn leads to failure, which will lead to disappointment and negative feelings of worthlessness or not being good enough, which in time could lead to depression, anxiety, etc… “Perfectionism – the maladaptive practice of holding oneself or others to an unrealistic, unattainable or unsustainable standard of organization, order, or accomplishment in one particular area of living, while sometimes neglecting common standards of organization, order or accomplishment in other areas of living.” (Out of the fog 2007-2015, retrieved from: http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/perfectionism). A full description of “perfectionism” as by article reads: “Perfectionism in its Adaptive form is often seen as a compliment in reference to diligence and the pursuit of excellence. But the Maladaptive (or neurotic) form is a destructive, dysfunctional type of persistent perfectionism, which is ultimately damaging both to the perfectionist and to those closest to them.” (Out of the fog 2007-2015, retrieved from: http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/perfectionism). This is a personality disorder that the participant has struggled with for as long as he can remember; the origin is unsure but is believed that it may have come from his parents who are also “perfectionist.” While there is no concrete evidence that “perfectionism” is hereditary,

There are three parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative and permissive. Authoritarian parents usually construct specific regulation and expectations for their children but do not explain the reasoning behind their rules. They also make their children understand the consequences in the form of punishment upon violation of the regulation, hence leaving limited space for discussion and negotiation of the constructed rules (Kim 8). Authoritative parents set up clear standards for their children as well; however, they allow their children to develop a sense of autonomy and participate in discussion towards discipline (Kim 8). These methods are correlated with increased depressive symptoms and lower self-esteem. Unlike the above two types, permissive parents usually offer fewer rules and guidance towards the children's behavior. They respect their children’s desires and needs and require less in return (Kim 8). As a result, Kim finds that only authoritative parenting significantly associates with positive child outcomes, including academic success and instrumental competence (Kim 8).

The second parenting style is Authoritative, Like the authoritarian parent, the authoritative parent sets high expectations. Unlike the authoritarian parent, the authoritative parent is responsive to her child’s needs. These parents are flexible. They listen and give advice. Nevid notes that Baumrind stated that children of authoritative parenting are the most likely of the three styles to have positive outcomes. These children are self-reliant, have high self-esteem and are popular with their peers. Authoritative parents encourage their children to be independent and assertive, while also being respectful of others.

In the early 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrid conducted a research, analyzing child-parent behavior, seeking to identify parenting styles. The Baumrid study and other further studies identified four main styles of parenting (Miller, 2010): the authoritative parenting style was characterized by fair rules and consequences; The Authoritarian parenting style was characterized by strict rules and harsh punishment; the permissive parenting style was characterized by minimal rules with little or no consequences; the uninvolved parenting style was characterized by no rules, and parent presence was almost non-existent. In this paper, I’m going to look at the authoritarian style of parenting in an attempt to draw out its characteristics and its immediate and later impacts on children impact.

The authoritative parenting style is the “In between,” of both the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles, and has a “Give and take approach.” Authoritative parents are very involved in their children’s lives: children help around the home and in decision-making processes, and homework is supervised. This approach to parenting raises children who are responsible, well behaved in school, have a high self-esteem, and good problem solving skills along with decision making skills. The authoritative approach to parenting has very positive effects on children’s lives presently, and in the future. (Marsiglia, C.,Walczyk, J., Buboltz, W., Ross, D. 2007).

“All decent parents want to do what’s best for their children. [They] just have a totally different idea of how to do that” (Amy Chua). All around the world parents strive to be the “perfect” parent, but ultimately they desire to determine a style of parenting that will help their child be successful. For many years, there have been arguments about whether the Eastern or Western style of parenting is the most effective type of parenting. Western parents are very encouraging and they provide positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. On the other hand, Eastern parents are strict and they demand perfection from their child because they know that they are capable of it. However, the most effective style of parenting is a balance between both Eastern and Western styles by encouraging independence, not letting them give up on their dreams and passions, and by enforcing their child to do their best.

“Baumrind (1967, 1971) identified three main styles of parenting”, explains Swartz, de la Rey, Duncan and Townsend (2011:65). The three main styles of parenting are authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting and permissive parenting. Furthermore, each one of these parenting styles is associated with certain outcomes based on the behaviour of the child, the type of relationship that the child has with the parent and even the child’s self-esteem. However, according to a psychological expert Cherry (2015) “developmental psychologists have long been interested in how parents impact child development”. In brief, this might mean that, parents’ actions and behaviour have a huge impact on their child, which may cause the child to adopt the behaviour and make it a habit as they grow to be parents. So, as a parent you should always keep in mind that “your kids watch you for a living. It’s their job, it’s what they do. That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model”, declares Lehman (n.d.). I will now discuss the authoritarian