Perks Of Being A Wallflower: Coming Of Age

Robert Lieberman describes Charlie as “the best youth care trained in America” (Appelstein Training Resources, 2017). He has spent over 25 years assisting children and youth who are struggling with emotional as well as behavioral challenges (Learn.org, 2017). He

Charlie’s friendship with Jasper Jones, his parents, and witnessing the intolerance of Corrigan are the three biggest factors in Charlie's development from innocence to experience. Jasper Jones exposed him to fear and forced him to be brave and face his fears, the rampant intolerance in Corrigan, both racial and otherwise, exposed him to the injustices of the real world, and his relationship with his parents taught him to be diplomatic and control his

Teenagers contain a lot of anxest and one thing their mind ponders on is finding love. For example, Romeo claims to falls in “love” several times before he meets Juliet. With that motive in mind when the two met they

Also Charlie is one of the most menial kids around he would never go with Jasper if he didn’t have courage. All of the choices Charlie makes impact his life in some way for example; if he didn’t go with Jasper his life would be normal, but because of one simple decision his life changed forever with the fact that he hid a body hovering over him at all times.

Suddenly, I was furious at myself and all those who were smirking at him" (14). Charlie's anger at those around him and at himself delves into the idea of the bully becoming a bully. The centre piece of this idea is that those who wish to harm others have a reason behind it, which does not validate their actions, but does explain their intentions. Victims of all sorts of trauma and pain constantly struggle to stop themselves from inflicting similar pain on others.

He needed to know that people existed who were there for him and cared about him without trying to fix it. More importantly, this “friend” could be considered an outlet that Charlie didn’t have to help, something that was truly a coping mechanism just for himself. However, responding this way could have led Charlie to feel no one else would have understood, making him recede more from society and worsening his wallflower personality. The method of internalizing emotions and feelings has been taught to Charlie, and due to his sexual abuse is worse off psychologically, which leads to his depression and the suicidal tendencies later portrayed in the book. This backwards way of thinking is one of the key factors in making Charlie a

Charlie depicts feelings of guilt and self-blame for his aunt’s death. It is perceived that he has repressed harsh memories of his aunt, although this resulted in negative flashbacks to occur which progressively began to affect his mental stability. It is understood that he suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a consequence of being molested by his aunt when he was young. This ultimately caused lasting mental trauma on him.

His mother had taught him to not look at girls, and after the operation when he started to develop more feelings, he had a hard time talking to Alice Kinnian because he had the thought that he liked her, and that he shouldn’t. Due to the hard nature of his mother, Charlie’s emotional life was not maturing with his new-found intelligence. Emotionally, he was still a little kid. “I knew she would give herself to me, and I wanted her, but what about Charlie?” Whenever he would get near Alice, he would start to panic because he felt that there was still a part of his old self within him, keeping him from taking his relationship further with

The second similar theme between the two books is coming of age. Coming of age is about growing up and finding out more about yourself and the world, and how its not always fair. In The Perks of Being a Wallflower, the book beings with Charlie staring high school, he is an outcast, a wallflower, he does not join in on conversations but choose to sit back and observe. He is grieving about many things, the friend he just lost due to suicide, his aunt who had a rough childhood and died in a car crash and Charlie thought it was his fault she died, and his sister who is in a bad relationship but he can’t help her. He doesn’t understand the world and is considered innocent because he does not know most things that everyone else knows such as relationships,

Charlie shows symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder and anxiety. He seems to also suffer from depression, which can root from PTSD. The symptoms that were correct of PTSD were having flashbacks of traumatic events. The symptoms of anxiety that were correct were worrying about feeling guilty, and not becoming happy. The symptoms of depression that were correct were blaming yourself for everything, and always putting yourself down. The things that were realistic about PTSD were having flashbacks, feeling guilty, not wanting to become happy, blaming yourself, putting yourself down, and worrying; for example, Charlie became mentally unstable as a result of being sexually abused as a child. He blocked (repressed) thoughts like that out, and they never come

Charlie’s childhood was filled with both mental and physical abuse due to his mother who wanted a “normal” son. Whenever he would get scared, he would not be able to control his urination, which resulted in a spanking from his mother, Rose Gordon. Moreover, when Charlie got an erection in public, his mother threatened to beat the filth out of his mind and lock him up like the animal that he is. Charlie was victim to mental abuse as well, including his mother allowing his sister, Norma, to tell her friends that he was adopted and that they weren't actually related. In his previous mental state, Charlie was unable to understand his family’s distance and constant anger towards him.

His meltdown in Alan's office one could have seen from a mile away, with it the ultimate heralding of displacement for Charlie's pain, and final straw to let Charlie live his life alone. (Displacement is but one of many defense mechanisms that involves shifting aggressive or hurtful emotions away from one’s self to a more “acceptable” or less threatening outlet.) Yet for most who watched the movie most likely, Charlie didn't get immediately better right away to their surprise. In honest words taken from an episode of House I once watched, he uttered a line that rings particularly true in this circumstance: "We tell ourselves it helps. To make [them] talk about it. To help... heal. When all you've done is make [someone] cry." After Charlie's reveal of his true past he seems to be by all standards progressing. That is until he sets out to kill himself, if not by his own gun then a police officer's. In all three main areas of his mental make-up Charlie has been both affected and ravaged, his entire being but a husk of what he accomplished four years prior. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is illustrated through Charlie as a life-changer, a psychological diagnosis that alters your entire core of being without proper therapy or treatment. (Diagnosis in

With hardly knowing anything about each other, the 12-year old children are sure that they are in love with each other. With only being 12 years old the audience knows that this feeling is something that the two characters cannot fully understand but through the characters actions it is shown that the feelings are very much real. While not everybody may not be able to relate to this aspect of the film because of their age, they most defiantly can relate to the feeling of falling in love for the first time and trying to understand all of the emotions. Anderson depicts the love of these two characters as something that comes very natural and unforced.

I think that almost all teens go through a certain time of depression, some more than others but Charlie 's is kind of exaggerated I think. I can relate to Charlie though when he cried about losing his beloved Aunt Helen, because of what I went through when my grandfather passed away. I admire how maturely Charlie explained the quote, "I would die for you. But I won 't live for you". His idea that " every person has to live for his/her own life and then make the choice to share it with other people. Maybe that is what makes people 'participate. '", is very strong and I think makes perfect sense and defines life a little bit. In my opinion also, I think that I and pretty much everyone else is alike Charlie, because we can be open and agree to other 's thoughts. We can all watch, and hear and talk about differing opinions and in the end not really judge the opinions. The fact that Stephen Chobsky chose to create a story about a boy growing up and being labeled different catagories, especially a "wallflower", is an interesting idea. Most authors wouldn 't be so daring to write about something so controversial. And Charlie 's story is controversial; most parents and teachers wouldn 't want their children to read something about the experiences that a boy has in high school, but at some point we have to realize what 's true and false. In the book, I really enjoyed reading the last 30 or so

Why are teenagers falling in love in their age? Is there a specific reason? Probably, there is not a definite reason. “The love of my life’’ is the one very knowledgeable article for early age relationship peers that represent a real social problem in modern society. Jeremy and china are main character that represent teenager’s role in this article. They have an immature love in each other because they have the physical relationship by looking movie and behavior from parents, however; they don’t attention on potential dangerous in the future of their life. In “The love of my life’’ Boyle explores the idea that decisions made during one’s teenage years affect one’s adulthood.