Personal Essay: Overcoming Abuse

Hello, my name is Dee and I am a survivor of domestic abuse. A good friend asked me if I would write a piece about domestic abuse. He said it would be therapeutic for me and beneficial for other women who have been abused or are being abused, and I think he is right. So here I sit wondering where to begin, after about an hour of emotional flashbacks. And when I do think about this I wonder how on earth could I have let it go on, and for as long as it did. And more-so, what did I ever do to deserve it. I was never abused as a child. Never beaten or abused emotionally or mentally, never called names, or cursed at, and I suppose I grew up thinking this was how it was for everyone. I was only 19 when I met my abuser. I already had a son, and had been out on my own for 2 years. Life was hard, bringing up a baby, surviving on living assistance, living in ghetto like neighborhoods. I had always aspired to be a journalist, but my dreams were broken when I became pregnant right out of high school and was forced out of the house to care for my son. I met my abuser one day when I was down town shopping with my son. He came into my life like a "wolf in sheep 's clothing", and was just about as nice as he could be. I suppose I was somewhat lonely since I never got to go out very often. He soon moved in with me and helped me with my son, helped in the house, and helped financially so things were definitely looking up. Or so I thought. He was from an abusive home himself, and years

The most significant challenge I have faced was when I was growing up was reading. Reading is one of the most important things it was hard for me to say some words that I thought I was never gonna learn to read ever even if they were just small words or big words I struggle so much while growing up. When I was

1.1 Analyse the differences between the concept of safeguarding and the concept of protection in relation to vulnerable adults

Just a few years ago, my mother and I found out that my dad was an alcoholic. We were devastated. That continued after 2 rehabs, and my mom kicking him out of the house to protect me. Sadly, I have been mentally abused for 14 years without knowing it until about 9 months ago. I was 10 years old when I made the prediction of my parents divorcing after a huge disagreement they had. Four years later, I found out that I was right. My parents were getting a divorce.

The first obstacle had to face are my parent divorce. When this obstacle happened I was depressed and not do that good in school. My aunt had to take to with her friend that was an therapist I only went for one day, when it finish the therapy I realized that my life is not over just for a dilema. I was more relief and more ambitious to do all my work and pass all of my classes. The second obstacle is that I would struggle at school is turning in my work late when it was due the next day. Then, I had to overcome it by, making an agenda to keep my work on track and test to study for the agenda really helped me alot. My last dilemma is that I would work during school because me and my family depend on my dad sending money when sometime he wouldn't send us money. Me and my bigger sister would always try to find a job to help my mom to pay bills etc. Another obstacle is trying my best to have good grade and study in a correct way. I try to keep up my grade but sometimes it's hard. I sometimes

Feiring, Simon, and Cleland (2009) concluded that stigmatization rather than abuse severity is a predictive of sexual dysfunction for this population. Stigmatization refers to “shame and a self-blaming attributional style” (p.128). Shame involves a wish to hide the damaged self certain others. Being exposed for survivors would be experienced as a social taboo. Self-blame refers to a perception that some parts of self were responsible for the abuse. Perpetuating of self-blame occurs through the secret survivors keep in a response to threats from their abuser and/or social and legal expectations. These challenging emotional experiences occur following the violation and last for years. Severity of abuse is associated with an increased stigmatization. Abuse specific stigmatization influences survivors’ perception and experience of non-abusive relationships and consensual sex. Stigmatization disrupts development of a healthy self-concept as a sexual being as well as intimate relationship with others (Feiring, Simon, & Cleland, 2009).

Each year more cases of Emotional abuse go unreported because the majority of people experiencing emotional abuse are not aware that it is happening. I was one of these people years ago; it took some caring friends to get me to see what was going on. In the following paragraphs I will touch on ways one can tell they are being emotionally abused, and ways to get help. While Undefined, Emotional abuse affects more people each day because they do not know that they are being abused.

This paper will investigate the abuse of children and some of the ways which young children are affected developmentally. I will try and present an overview of the major types of abuse but my big focus and most of my research has been to cover sexual abuse and its effect on development in young children and how it can affect brain development.

I was abused from the age of three till I was twelve and removed from the home. The reason that I am adding this in this story is to explain a few things. One, I had difficulties trusting in people. Throughout my life I realized that people will fail you in many ways. Secondly, most survivors of child abuse can go through life without realizing that they suffer from after effects such as PTSD, and sever depression. Also, I came from poverty, so I know what it feels like to be stereotyped, and not fit in with what society deems “normal”. It was this little bundle of fur that showed me how to smile and laugh without fear of consequences. I rediscovered the gift of happiness and love. The loss of my best friend inspired me to share his story, and similar stories. He was the poster child for the bully

In beginning my revision process, I started by staring at my submitted essay over and over. First thought, I should have changed the title to something along the lines of, “Domestic Violence, is there Treatment?” Second thought, Wow!! What a difference I am from the person who first began this course. I took a look back over my previous submitted writing assignments and could see my writing abilities has drastically improved, As I reviewed and reflected on the submitted essay “Domestic Violence and Treatment”, I believe, I did a complete and thorough job in delivering my subject. As I previously stated, I credit you, Mr. Perkins and this course for my improvements. I have always struggled to put my thoughts on paper in a manner that is coherent. I now feel that my ability to write and express my ideas, thoughts and knowledge have grown stronger.

I would shut my eyes because I knew what was coming. And before I shut my eyes, I held my breath, like a swimmer ready to dive into a deep ocean. I could never watch when his hands came toward me; I only patiently waited for the harsh sound of the strike. I would always remember his eyes right before I closed my own: pupils wide with rage, cold, and dark eyebrows clenched with hate. When it finally came, I never knew which fist hit me first, or which blow sent me to my knees because I could not bring myself to open my eyes. They were closed because I didn’t want to see what he had promised he would never do again. In the darkness of my mind, I could escape to a paradise where he would never reach me. I would find again the haven where I

You’re Ugly! Stupid! Can you do anything right? I wished you were never born! Does any of these words sound familiar or bring back memories. If they do then you are not alone, there are many people on a daily basis who suffer from verbal-emotional abuse. In today’s society too many of our children live in homes where they face verbal-emotional abuse on a regular basis. In this paper we will discuss what verbal emotional abuse is, why so many children face verbal-emotional abuse and how to tell what the signs of verbal emotional abuse are in order to assist a child in need.

Although all therapists are aware of the childhood emotional abuse issue, it is possible that only few therapists understand the scope of the issue. Emotional maltreatment is harder to detect than other forms of abuse because it is more subtle. When Child Protective Services (CPS) conduct family assessments, it is the hardest form of abuse to prove because parents are very open about the topic and emotional abuse does not leave any physical evidence behind. However, it certainly influences a child's self-esteem, promotes the feeling of guilt, insecurity, and creates the inability to form stable relationships during adulthood. Although some behavioral disorders are related to emotional abuse, it is not possible to predict it correctly

Do you alter what you say in front of your significant other because you know they will get angry?

“Every year in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of domestic violence. That means that every nine seconds a women is beaten by her domestic partner” (Findeley). There are many women that stay silent when being abuse by their partners. The consequences of staying quiet when obtaining abuse can be dangerous and can also lead to death. Many women do not recognize the importance of the fact that there is in speaking out if they are being abuse by their partner. No woman should take domestic abuse by their partners. Every woman deserves a healthy relationship; A healthy relationship involves trust, respect, and consideration for the other person. Domestic abuse has gotten worse during the past years and is still rising up. One can see that domestic abuse can occur everywhere. Domestic abuse is considered a crime and woman should not keep silent when being abuse.