1. What are your expectations about engaging in casual sex relationships (e.g., hooking up, friends with benefits, etc.)? Do you expect to be in a long term relationship/marriage with someone who has engaged in casual sex relationships? Is there a limit to the number of casual sexual partners you are okay with your future long term partner/spouse having had in the past? For yourself? a. I have not had any casual sex relationships, so I cannot personally answer this question for myself. I don’t think I would be a proponent of causal sex because I think sex is something very intimate shared between two people. Furthermore, I think it is way too risky. One never knows what people might have in terms of STI’s and one also cannot trust that they will disclose those things to you. It may be a different situation with a friends with benefits situation though considering you would be more familiar with them. However, I do not think I could be in a friends with benefits relationship because it would just get too complicated. If I was in a engaged in casual sex though, I would not want it to turn into a long-term relationship because there would have to be a reason why we were only just hooking-up in the first place and not in a relationship. No, there is not a limit to the number of casual sexual partners my spouse had in the past. However, it would make me feel uncomfortable if they did so without protecting themselves at any point because they would then be putting me at risk of
Although Hooking Up was looked at negatively in the generations prior, in today’s day and age views on sex have opened and predominantly sex is just like a “friendly game of tennis” as said by my professor. What my professor is trying to say is that sex isn’t really a huge deal in this day and age in a sense of meaning between the two who are participating. The steps towards sex are similar to the generations prior but are cut short in certain areas. While both often happen from a man approaching a woman, the steps start to change as they get to know each other. Usually the conversations are more friendly and trying to get comfortable with each other as intentions are being either built or enhanced. After that which is a relatively short stage, someone within the group of two might confess their sexual attraction to the other and that may lead to a friends with benefits relationship. Making sex nothing but a physical exchange between the two. While it does require some effort, it is not a serious bout as it was in previous generations.
Kalish interviewed 19 young men of various backgrounds and experiences to ensure random selection as well as statistical variability. The results of the interviews show a trend of young men making the choice towards the causal sex aspect of hookup culture and set the standard based on peer approval. Kalish concludes that peer groups can stimulate sexual pressure and can overcome individual desire. This source is a great reference to use when describing the male attitudes towards casual sex and also contains a great counterargument of some young men who do not wish to have casual
The problem today is we as humans choose what we believe a person should do rather than allowing them to what they desire. No one wants to be tied to what think they should do, only what they the see fitting for theirself. Many believe women should do the cooking because it’s feminine. While men should work because it’s viewed as masculine. However, isn’t it ridiculous to impose gender roles on couples? Today many gay couples are victims of people imposing gender roles upon them, and if you answered yes to the above question. Isn’t it still ridiculous to do this within a same-sex relationship? In this point in time, we as humans are struggling with redefining positions in history, such as; gender roles upon gay couples, and author Stephen
In Western society, sexuality is defined, what is considered normal is established. Although, the borders of normalcy are being stretched with gay rights, a straight monogamous relationship is still what is expected. A relationship is built by spending time with
Both authors offer valid points when supporting their stance on the topic of whether or not sex has become too casual. Rebecca Hagelin is of the belief that sex has become too casual and makes a strong argument for parents and educators to take the lead role in teaching young adults the importance of being responsible and practicing self-control. As an example, she describes how she counters the sexual temptations of spring break with her own sons who are attending college by providing supervised beach trips for spring break. As a result her sons spend their Spring Break with family and friends of the family and avoid “some distant beach where mayhem, alcohol, and Girls Gone Wild” (Taverner, 2013, p. 163). Additionally she stresses her
As per Monroe, hooking up involves little communications with potential partners (personal communication, February 26, 2016). Most sexual encounters are practiced after meeting an acquaintance or stranger in a social gathering (M. Monroe, personal communication, February 26, 2016). Most of the participants can be under the influence of alcohol when hooking up; therefore, a lot of sexual encounters can be unprotected and not consented (M. Monroe, personal communication, February 26, 2016). In other words, sexual gratification can be criminal if the parties are not responsible.
Imagine yourself as a 19-year-old college student; fast asleep as it is midnight on a Tuesday night, and all of a sudden you hear a buzzing sound coming from your phone, which is placed, on your night stand. You are groggy but reach for your phone to see whom it could possibly be, upon opening the message you see it is from that cute guy Connor from the party Saturday. The message reads: “What’s up.” Now in earlier decades this message would cause quite the confusion, however you are from the hook-up culture. This type of interaction is far too common and you receive way too many of these “booty call” texts to think anything of it.
In S. Mays article, what about gender roles in same-sex relationships, published by Norton, Mays discusses same-sex relationships, and why no one is considered the girl in the relationship. More male gay couples are stereotyped about their identity then same-sex female relationships. This is simply because the roles a man does makes him look feminine. The life of typical same-sex relationships is characterized by appearance, masculinity and femininity.
In Western society, sexuality is very defined and what is normal is set. Although, the borders of normalcy are being stretched with gay rights, a straight monogamous relationship is still what is expected. A relationship is built by spending time with your partner and sex is a form of shared intimacy. Sex is not something to be done with someone you do not know. Luci, one of the main characters in the Wicked + the
Researchers have found that, in general, males tend to be more critical toward females who partake in casual sexual relationships; men tend to inflate the number, and experiences, in regards to their sexual relations to enhance their status amongst peers while women reduce the number of sexual experiences as their statuses are diminished amongst their peers with higher numbers (England & Bearak, 2014). This type of sexual double standard can contribute towards sexual assault perpetrations due to perpetrators exploiting intimidating strategies to obtain sexual experience to increase their status quo (Littleton, 2014).
The majority of the time the person who is left longing for more than just a casual hookup is the female. Women, by nature, are more likely to become more emotionally attached, especially when it comes to sexual activities. However, most of the time, girls will be willing to play along with the game of hooking up. Perhaps, in hopes, that it will someday lead to something more. But, if and when it doesn’t, they can be left emotionally distraught. Girls will become attached to the person they are with and grow to have a sincere care for them. However, when it comes to picking a mate, boys are not as particular about the girl. A study, Age and gender differences in mate selection criteria for various involvement levels found that “men should be equally as selective as women with respect to long-term mates, but less selective than woman with respect to short-term mates criteria (Kenrick).” Boys are less likely to think about all aspects of girl when planning on hooking up with her, unlike girls. They are not as particular because they are just looking for
When stating that there is a sexual double standard regarding casual sex, one would most likely assume that tolerance is geared more in the male gender favor… if that is the case, you are correct. Society has built this notion that allows men greater freedom of sexual expression than for women. Why is it that when women express their sexuality with men they are deemed ‘sluts’, but the men who do the same with women are granted increasing power? This sexual double standard is mercilessly oppressing women of their sexuality.
A spousal relationship is defined by other words like union, marriage, wedlock, matrimony, or others depending on factors like the country of origin and religion. Essentially, it is the commitment of two people to one another until death, or in today's world, with divorce. Many people forget that when you commit to another person as you do in a marriage recognized by the government or a spiritual leader, you are also accepting certain responsibilities. Depending on the country and the religion, a spousal relationship can vary when it comes down to details. Generally speaking, this type of union is voluntary, although sometimes it is set up by the family members.
be seen as “natural,” a default identity; it goes unnoticed, hidden, and taken for granted as “normal” (Dottolo & Stewart, 2013). Being White in America has no set definition other than an individual with a linage to the United kingdom, Europe, Germany, or Scandinavian. Being White in America is a skin pigment, rather than a community or collaboration of traditions as displayed in minorities. Because there is no regulated definition or standard as to what Whiteness is or should be, Through personal and informal questioning of my fellow students on campus, a notable and interesting trend emerged: only one of the Caucasian people that was questioned could answer what it meant to be White in America. She defined it less about race and more about what White people stereotypically do. These include things such as being in the upper middle class with a steady retirement fund in a two parent household. This idea of a typical White family or life does hold some merit. The 2010 United States census has found that the average White person will live in a community that is seventy-seven percent white. Among White Americans, ninety-one percent of the people that they communicate with through their social media networks are also White. Three-quarters of White Americans report only have contact on social media with people exclusively of their own race (2015, August 28). This practice of predominantly associating with people of one’s own skin tone is known as racial homogeneity. Caucasians
I feel that having multiple consensual partners could lead to higher satisfaction because your needs would usually be met. If one person wasn’t feeling it chances are a different one could be and thus your needs would be met. It lessens the amount of pressure felt when the relationship is just between two people and one partner is not in the mood. For example, in the show Sister Wives the women were never jealous when he was spending time with a different wife. They wanted Kody to be happy. If they couldn’t meet his needs, they wanted someone else to be able to meet them. They may not always be in the mood so having a break and not feeling that pressure put on then by the partner is good for the wives and for Kody.