Personal Narrative: A Pause

During my high school career I was able to make lots of friendships, but had few close friendships. I was unable to have a large amount of girlfriends, because I did not feel a good connection with them. Instead, I hung out with a group of guys and had two girlfriends who had similar life stories. When I was sixteen I started working and that was something I enjoyed doing to make money. Once high school was over I felt like I had so much to look forward to. When college came around I didn’t see the same people every day and had to make new friends here at Anderson. This was challenging for me, because the dorms are full of females which was something that I have not been used to.

We all have our group of friends that we meet up with after class, or on the weekends.

Over my years of school, one big influence on me has always been sports. Ever since a young age, I have always enjoyed playing and watching sports. In my four years in high school, I have fell in love with the sport of lacrosse.

I woke up and took one bite out of my pop tart but that one bite was all I could eat. My legs were shaking, and my heart was pounding. My dad told me, “It is a true honor to even make it this far so go out there and have some fun.” Once I heard this statement, I knew I was ready to go. I arrived at school and boarded the bus. The car ride was an hour and fifteen minutes of hearing the squeaking of the wheel on the bus. My teammates were getting their heads ready for the big game.

This was an issue that was consistent throughout the first semester, and carried over to the second semester without me even realizing it. Once I noticed that I was spending more time wasting time with friends, I decided that a change needed to be made. From the hours of three to five every day, I would sit in my room and work regardless of whatever anybody else was doing. This proved to be the most successful way of getting my work done and preparing for class. Although the beginning of the semester was a bit of a tough one, I was able to set up a plan that could help me succeed well into my college career.

Hi iam Edgardo Flores i was born in casa grande, az not that far away from our state capital,Phoenix, Az.theres nothing better to do in a hot summer than going out with the friends to a lake and have a blast riding jet skis boats and my favorite, swimming!My activites of the day are shooting,riding horses,and my favorite one is quad riding.Thats right! ive been doing these fun exciting hobbies since i was 9 years old.pretty young huh?

I seldom ask for help, and I don’t go out of my way to talk to people. From what I have learned in this course, I think that to some people this might make me look like a jerk. Or that I think I’m better than them. When In reality I’m just a little bit of a socially awkward person. It’s not that I don’t like other people, I just really enjoy spending time with myself. I know a lot of people, but I only have two or three that I consider my friends. I value the quality of my relationships more than the quantity. I would rather go out and do something with one or two friends, rather than a large group. I enjoy having the close relationships with my few friends, I have no desire to fill my life with a ton of superficial friendships that come and go.

Over the course of the year, I have opened up to so many new people. I decided to open up and invite a bunch of girls over to my house one night to have a girls night and watch movies. These girls and I now have been best friends ever since that night. This experience taught me that opening up and stepping out of my comfort zone was all I needed to enjoy my senior year. Of course I had a few friends before all of this, but now I believe I have found my true, forever friendships. Now I don’t have to worry about feeling alone in an emotional situation, because I will always have a group of people to go to during my hard

When I first entered school and had to start making friends, I tried very hard but always seemed to had issues socializing. Somehow, I ended up being the target of bullies all the time as a kid, with few friends who always stuck around. As I moved around the first few times between towns in Upstate New York, this kept happening. It seemed I just didn’t know how to make good friends, or at least not many. But, this all ended when I moved out to California halfway through Middle School. I made a few very good friends after I came to Larchmont, and they helped me open myself up to more people. I made more friends than I ever had in my life, and began to spend time outside of school socializing— something I’d never done before. Through all of this change, my closest friends were still the same type of people I’d always sought out my entire life; it had always been more creative type people. Whether they focused their creative efforts towards games, art, writing or music, that was always the main thing that connected my closest friends to me. Also, despite my more extroverted approach now, I still do prefer a quiet setting with less people (or even no one) to one that is busy at the end of the

Being away from home for the first time and having to start over and make all new friends can be both exciting and intimidating at the same time. When I first moved into my freshmen dorm at UNCW three years ago, I was certainly feeling this rush of emotions. I was excited to meet new people, but also scared I wouldn't make any friends who I connected as well with as my high school friends. I was especially nervous about having to live with a roommate who I hardly knew. I had always heard horror stories from my older friends and family members about having a crazy roommate who they just couldn't get along with. Fortunately, my roommmate Kelly and I became great friends and were not only able to survive freshmen year of college, but continued to live together all four years of college. This transformation in our relationship from virtual strangers, to the best of friends can be explained by Charles Berger's Uncertainty Reduction Theory. Uncertainty Reduction Theory is the assumption that when strangers meet, their primary concern is one of uncertainty reduction or increasing the predictability about the behavior of both themselves and others in the interaction. We are motivated to search for this information for one of more of three reasons - anticiptation of future interaction, incentive value, and deviance. With Kelly my motives were mostly based on anticipation of future interaction. Not only would I see her again, but I would have to interact with on a daily basis on a

Coming into college I was pretty calm overall, but once I arrived I started to think more in depth about what all is changing in my life. I had always heard how much harder classes are in college and how some people have to completely give up on their social lives just to keep a consistent GPA. I started to get nervous that once the ball started rolling, I wouldn't have time for any activities or relationships outside of class. I thought that even if I somehow was able to manage enough free time away from school that I wouldn't be able to find friends with the same personality or beliefs as me. The first few days coming in, all I could think about was how isolated and overwhelmed I would become. Even though it's only the second week of class, I have already been able to calm my nerves. I have realized that the classes can be difficult, but I can manage my time to keep my grades up and still have enough time to meet people. Once I realized that I do have and need time outside of classwork to relax, I noticed the wide variety of people I have been able to meet and how even though many of them are different from me that doesn't mean we can't become friends.

To my family, I too am known as the anti-social loner who just stays home and studies all day. That spurious label irritates me because it’s not completely accurate. Around my friends and teachers, I am always the gregarious one socializing and having a good time. If I’m not busy, I will take the opportunity to watch Netflix, sleep, or just have fun. Most people don't know that I love ping pong, tennis, baking, drawing, and doing origami in my leisure because they assume I'm just studying all the time. Just like everyone else, we have hobbies and activities we partake in because there's only so much school and studying we can handle before losing it. While I meticulously devote a significant portion of my time to studying because I value grades and education, I know how to appropriately balance my life with school and free

However, by focusing too much time on academics, I have never been a particularly open person. I usually pick up a few friends, but never really get to know a wide range of people, especially in large settings such as a college campus. I know that I will have to work on that skill to not only gain new friends and companions, but will also need

For some reason, I do not prefer to hang out with my office buddies after the office hour. It's been 18 months and I got no visits from anyone neither I got a chance to go anywhere. Then I changed my living room furniture so that I would be facing towards the door. After three days my friend and her boyfriend drove 6 hours to see and my new city. They stayed for few days. After that, I often get friends and family from other cities.

In fact, I been forced to miss out time with my friends and people who I want to share some quality time because either a meeting is happening or there is simply too much to do that prevents me from taking a break; from having fun. Remember future college students that college is about studying and working hard, but it is also the time to have fun.