Personal Narrative: Closet Gays

After we started school together, he got the nerve to ask if he wanted to be friends with me. I wasn’t so sure, but when I found out that he was friends with everyone, I said to myself “If I become friends with this person, then I am going to be even more popular than I already am.” Basically I was going to use this kid to be cooler and better. However, after I hung out with this kid for a couple of days, I noticed there was something special about him. We had so much in common and we did all of the same things. He was truly my best friend.

Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights, a book by a Professor of Constitutional Law at the NYU School of Law, Kenji Yoshino details a specific version of assimilation called covering. Yoshino defines covering as “[toning] down a disfavored identity to fit into the main stream” (Yoshino ix). As a gay man of Japanese descent living in the United States, Yoshino feels both internal and societal pressure to assimilate into “typical” American culture by covering himself along four primary axes: appearance, affiliation, activism and association. This societal expectation to cover one’s homosexuality

Nussbaum also believes that the stereotypical portrayal of homosexuals and the homophobia towards homosexuals is created by a disgust and that disgust is is what makes minority groups look inferior to majority groups. Nussbaum believes that “projective disgust plays no proper role in arguing for legal regulation, because of the emotion’s irrationality and its connection to stigma and hierarchy…Disgust, however, often prevents us from looking for those good reasons, creating the misleading impression that the policy has already been well defended. Turning it to legitimize polices” (Nussbaum, 20). Due to the “politics of disgust,” Nussbaum believes that homosexual couples should be given suspect classification unlike the Lawrence v. Texas

Typically sex arrangements were tested by ladies who felt they denied of equivalent lawful treatment, yet they were additionally tested by men who felt ladies were given uncalled for lawful insurance (Conley , 2013). Initially, the greater part of the sexual orientation particular enactment in the United States was passed on the grounds that generalizations in regards to ladies invaded the attitudes of a considerable lot of our country's officials. Gradually the legislature understood that ladies had been fixed into the local circle and endeavored to switch this segregation by giving ladies extraordinary pay. In a few occasions the treatment ladies got was remaining from old thoughts of part writing, while in others, laws specifically attempted

October 8, 2015, was the first band concert of the year. I always enjoy band concerts. A group including Justin Hansen, who was dating Tori at the time, Brette Bryant, Tori and me all decided to go to Cook-Out really quickly. As we pulled in Tori pointed to Henry’s car and explained how it broke down earlier and how he was upset. I thought it would be nice if we left him an encouraging note on the windshield of the car, so he would see when we went to retrieve the car later that night. They all agreed that was a good idea, so we all wrote personalized notes on a sheet of notebook paper and left it. That night after the concert, Henry sent me a text thanking me for the note. He told me how he really needed the encouragement. At that moment, I figured it would be a great time to tell Henry I liked him. I wasn 't completely sure that I liked him, but I knew I enjoyed him slightly more than just a friend. Much to my surprise, he told me he felt the same way about me. He was actually jealous when he saw how much I liked Wallace, and wished it was him. That made me feel great, because I never knew the boy in my Latin 2 class, felt the same way. As a result, we had a mutual agreement that we would attempt a relationship. I never truly saw a future for us the way he saw and by the third week, I cut off whatever we were. I tried to explain to him how I felt,

Imagine four teenagers: Craig, Lucy, David, and Gina. Really think about their appearances and personalities. I’m going to say that you imagined all of them as heterosexual, cisgender, white, average-sized boys and girls. If you did, it’s okay. It’s our brain's default. It’s what is “normal”. What if I said that Craig was gay? What if I said Gina was African-American? Or that David used to be Diana? And Lucy was Buddhist? Most minds of our generation wouldn’t care. It wouldn’t harbor negative feelings now that these people have “breached” if you will, the societies perception of normal. America’s gift to our generation is acceptance.

The development of gay identity emerged from men and women not being comfortable with the lives they were living. Traditional heterosexual roles caused both men and women to become unsatisfied with the way they were supposed to act. In a sense, they expressed heterosexual roles so that they won’t receive any backlash from the community they were a part of. The sexuality of someone was socially constructed, and that caused many people to have a difficult time coming out about which sex they prefer over the other. In Jeffrey Week’s “Sexuality in History”, Week discussed how sexuality is socially constructed as it gives aid in the development of one’s identity. Sexuality is something that people are able to express by the people they have something in common with. However, it is socially constructed since people labeled everything. “Indeed, I would go so far to say that sexuality only exists through its social forms and social organization” (Weeks 6). Sexuality was not based on the person, but how people will view their nonconformity in society.

Did you know that homosexuality is not a mental or emotional disorder? Homosexuality has become quite a controversial topics amongst our society. Most people who realize they are homosexual are too scared to admit to the public who they really are. Then you have others who are openly confident about their sexuality as gay or lesbian. This issue has become more and more talked about and has developed multiple media acknowledgements. Homosexuality can be broken down into several different views. For those who do not understand or are unfamiliar with why a person is homosexual tend to ask an array of questions. What makes you a homosexual? Can you change your sexuality? What does the Bible or other religions say about homosexuals? All of

     Growing up in a heterosexual world as a Lesbian who remained in many closets, has shape my identity and the way I will transact with people for the rest of my life. Upon coming out of closet, or being pushed out (by suspension from parents and friends) at the age of eighteen or nineteen I quickly assumed the bi-sexual title because it meant at least there was hope for me in the future. This proved to be worse for my self-esteem, and may have caused the most damage because even though I was free to come out, I was still afraid (somewhat) of taking the big leap and being totally ostracized by my friends and people I know. So I felt one million times worst trying to be

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to clarify my previous statement 'individuals will ultimately choose to adhere to the same sex orientation" It is my position that anytime there's two or more possibilities we as human beings have the free will to choose. Thus,making homosexuality a choice because you can either homosexual or heterosexual.

He was one of three very attractive guys that showed an interest in me, at the clubs I go out to in Portland. I had to pick just one (if any) to concentrate on, as far as developing a friendship with, so I picked John, believing him to be the best of the three. That was my first mistake. We started dating, going to dinner , out to the clubs; to play pool and darts, hang out at each other's apartment. Most of the time he would leave me after a short while and start trying to pick up on other guys. He said it was only because he acts that way when he gets drunk. I had learned long ago to rid myself of all feelings of jealousy, to allow people to pursue whatever pleases them at the moment, without feeling possessive (for none of us can own another person, regardless of any vows we make to each other), or that his actions in any way reflected feelings against me. Still, it did hurt my feelings, since he would do it whether he was drunk or not, and seemed to make a point of doing it in such a way as to maximize the pain and embarrassment to me. I did question him on his reasons for doing so, but he'd always chalked it up to, it being because of his low self-esteem, and his need to prove to himself that he was desirable. He would always say that he cared about me more than anyone else, that he didn't want to hurt me, and that he didn't want to lose me. So I would forgive his actions and try to grow into a place where these things would not

He was lost. He was nervous. He was scared. It was the first day of Highschool. His best friend went to south and he was alone. He tried to make friends with kids in his classes but was rejected. It was like He was a ghost. Then he saw them. In 5th period lunch. The “cool” kids. He decided to attempt to sit by them, thinking, who cares if I get denied, I'm used to it. And guess what happened. He sat down, and as he sat down, he did not realize that he would spend my next 3 years, expending energy, resources, and precious time in trying to please a group of people that at the end of the day, he knew would never be my friends.

I had always assumed that all girls felt this way, that the sight of another woman gave them the butterflies; that long talks with your best friend always felt so meaningful and exciting in a way that you never really could explain. When it dawned on me what this truly was, that it was not just simply the joys of platonic female friendship, that my love of girls was not just an expression of my budding feminist worldview, I felt only disgust.

I am a 15 year old gay male. When I was around 13 or 14 years old, one night, my father and I were lying on the same mattress in our living room. He was asleep, but I was still awake. All of a sudden, I got really horny. I turned to my father and he was lying on his stomach. I saw his butt (fully clothed) and decided to quickly tap the tip of my tongue on right where his anus would be. I did nothing after that and fell asleep. It was an urge to speedily relieve my spontaneous excitement without masturbation. Also, as a gay person I was curiosity of how "eating" ass would be like (a common sexual fetish in the gay community). At the time of the action and after, I didn't feel guilt, regret, or any emotion for that matter. I never even thought about

With her head nervously collapsed into her normally steady, but now fumbling hands, I watched as the confidence and maturity that had made a home on the face of my best friend melted into the anxious, frightened expression of a lost preschooler. Awaiting my reaction, she was suddenly so innocent, so pure, that I wondered how anyone’s response could vary much from my own, “I love and support you.” Sara confessing her attraction to women to me did not make her less of a person or friend in my eyes. In fact, the entirety of my being felt a rush of pure joy; I’d been waiting for months for her to finally come out to me! I still wonder why she had felt the need to keep her sexuality from me for so long, despite her knowing my stance on homosexuality