Personal Narrative: Divorce

"Dad wants me to stay here and live with him. Is that okay?" my son asked. "He's promised me all kinds of "neat stuff" and I can get to know my step family better.

Christopher Lambesis (Father) and Erin Lambesis (Mother) were divorced in 2013. In the divorce decree, Father was ordered to pay Mother $100 per month for child support for the two minor children. In October 2014, Father filed a Petition to Modify Child Support. Based on his own calculations using the Parent’s Worksheet for Child Support, he requested Mother pay him $100 per month. Mother requested a hearing in response including her own calculations indicating that Father should be paying her $123 per month. An evidentiary hearing was held and the court ordered Father to pay mother child support amounting to $149.30 per month. Father filed a Motion for a New Trial stating that he was not provided with documentation regarding Mother’s financial status in a timely manner and that the family court’s child support obligation calculations were incorrect. Mother filed an Application for Attorneys’ Fees and Costs. The court denied Father’s request for a new trial and granted Mother’s request for attorney fees. Father filed a motion to reconsider the allocation of parenting time coordinator’s fees. This motion was also denied. Father appealed the court’s decision.

On May 22, 2015, the Lowell District Court rendered a restraining order against me without my presence and without my legal counsel which expires in May of this year (2016). This was the first and isolated incidence that my wife filed a complain against me and dispelled me from my home, severed the paternal bond with my two young children.

     With this ring I thee wed…. For better or worse, for richer or poorer…. Traditionally, two people speak these words on their wedding day, the day that two become one, the day that two people begin a life together and share an unbreakable union. This may be so in some cases but not all. Divorce among Americans is rampant. In society today divorces are as common as marriages themselves. Couples meet, date, fall in love, marry, and have children and then one day: Wham! Something is just not right with the relationship anymore, so they opt for the easy way out, the big "D". They get a divorce, is this really the easy way? The legalities and dissolution of the union may be easy and painless,

My client, John Smith was arrested on January 1st 2016 on charges of allegedly assaulting his wife, Sherry. John and Sherry have two kids, Robert and Alexa. Both kids have been living with their mother while their father was in jail. John posted bail on February 2nd 2016. However, the judge issued a temporary restraining order for the remainder of the case. The restraining order stated that John could not go within 6,000 feet of his wife's house. On March 7th 2016, Robert (John’s son) called his father to inform him that his mother (Sherry) was going on a business trip and would not return until late that night. John went to spend the day with his son at his wife's house, at around 9 o’clock Robert received a call from his mother, letting him know she was on her way home. John panicked and made Robert promise he wouldn't tell anyone, not even his sister. He did not want to risk passing his wife on the street so John called me to pick him up, after I questioned why he was there in the first place he responded “Whose side are you on?” because I did not want him questioning my loyalty I hurried over and picked him up. The case is still going on, and no one but John, Robert and myself know.

This week I had the pleasure of sitting in on five hearings. On Monday Magistrate Akel allowed me to observe a child support hearing where both parties were living in Iowa. The initial order was given while the couple lived in Florida. When the father moved to Iowa he was ordered to pay $509.00 dollars a month in child support. The mother sent the child to Iowa to visit his father for a week but the child never came back to Florida. While the child was in the father’s custody he continued to pay child support to the mother. During the hearing, the father wanted to ensure that his ex – wife placed the money that she owed him into a depository account. The attorney representing the father pointed out that she was behind in paying him back. The attorney as well as the father believed that the she was using the money to support her other children. The mother claimed that all of the money that she owed her ex-husband was already in the depository. Magistrate Akel made sure that the mother was aware that if the money was not there she would be held in contempt of court.

I had a court appointed attorney and spoke with him about the charge and told him I was not okay with accepting punishment for this charge when Elizabeth had been drinking and completely misconstrued the facts. The prosecuting attorney was very hardcore and was not willing to reduce the charge. I wanted to bring in witnesses that she had not lived with me and that none of that was true but my attorney stated that I would have to go to trial for this and it would take a few months. I also stated that I needed to get this whole situation out of my way because I was getting ready to be in nursing school and I would not have time to come to court Monday thru Friday. I would be busy with school and I was only allowed to miss five days of nursing school a semester. I was not willing to risk those days for this situation. My attorney then told me he thought my best bet would just be taking a diversion agreement which meant I would be on a probation time and the charge would not be put on my records if I successfully completed the terms of agreement. My next court date to be seen was late December. By this time I had thought about it and did not want to waste my time anymore on the situation that I would just take the agreement and do what I needed to put this behind me. So I took the diversion agreement. The agreement stated that I had to complete 20 hours of community service and an anger management class. I did

Taylor stated she did not have a testimony. She stated she reached out to the DHR over the years; sent all her personal information, affidavits, and certified paperwork; never heard back from DHR. She stated her communication was strictly with the state of Texas because the Morgan County DHR told her that she could not talk with a caseworker and they could not provide any information to her. She continued to reach out to Texas. Therefore, at this time, her son is 19 years old, going on 20, in college, and he is taking care of himself. They do not need the child support now. Ms. Taylor stated she feels that she was failed by both, Morgan County DHR and the state of Texas because they did not do what the law expect them to do to which is to pursue child support for a minor child. This has been going on for so many years. Ms. Taylor stated she never got any resolutions, she never got answers, and she never got documentation that she requested. She stated that at this time we can adjourn the administrative hearing, she can move on with her life, this process has been time wasted for

Personal Narrative: Divorce Mum had briefly informed me that we were going to a place that would

Keep all these documents together and in a safe place so that you can show them to your lawyer when it is time to discuss whether you should proceed to court.

Ms. Watson, I am letting you to know that, I am 100 percent certain that there is nothing in that transcripts that shield light on how the child support were calculated. Beware that Ms. Lacy the opposite attorney, is one of the political contributor in that court room, this how they play the dirty game. Could you imagine a judge to say to you that it is your funeral for taken this case? At the hearing I tried to ask questions, but she wouldn't let me say anything, I know what to ask and when to challenge an irrelevant testimony, but anytime I do that, she warned me of jail term. I understand, you a lawyer, but Ms. Lacy is a dirty lawyer, she can't win a case in real court room, but that is how that court room is run. I will assure you that his so call Temporary order child support payment I wouldn't comply with it, until this issue is resolved. I am not a coward, and I am not threatening by jail, but I will do my very best. I am in the middle of complaint to the states commissioner on judicial conduct. I have personally recorded everything including the one she said today. All they are trying to do, is buying time to execute this dirty game. Your best option if I may suggest, is an open court request to talk to Judge Alecia. I am aware that every order should be accompanied with factual finding before a Judge can signed, however, in that court room, no one look at those fact, they just sign a bare asserted order drafted by a lawyer. I am very appreciative of your effort to know the truth behind this temporary order.

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Contempt of court for Mark stealing the kid’s college funds that are clearly stated is to be left and my name added to them. I have all documents to show this has been ordered at every court hearing for the last 6 years and I have no proof this has happened. I want to turn this around so Mark is the one who is showing proof of what he says.. He lies, constant…

Divorce is something well known to many of my peers. I have had to deal with it not just once, but twice. In 2002, my Mom and Dad split. Almost two years later, my Mom remarried to the man who was my childhood father figure. Being that all three parents were military, my Dad and I did not live close to each other. My Dad was stationed at different bases, sometimes a base half way across the world. This caused a stronger bond to my stepfather, Jason. Over the course of 11 years, Jason and I grew a father-daughter relationship.

I am frustrated that we have not had this meeting. I don't know if it is too late to deal with these matters. I really hope it is not and we get together very soon. The fact that she filed in may has the other side refuses to even return a phone suggests they will do everything to drag this out.