When we hurt someone, whether intentionally or accidentally, a sincere well stated apology can usually fix it. In the well-stated apology, the offender takes responsibility for a specific offense, and makes expressions of regret sincere, timely and brief. Giving an appropriate apology is a skill that can be learned. Many think that if no harm was intended, no apology is required. Not so. I would not intentionally spill ink on my neighbor’s carpet, but I sincerely regret the spilling, and I am responsible for the damage that was done. Sincerity is of course the most important ingredient in an expression of regret. A sincere apology requires the person who has offended to take responsibility for the offence. For example, "I’m sorry I didn’t make …show more content…
A lengthy explanation for why the offense occurred tends to water down or diminish a perception of sincerity. Anthony had inadvertently betrayed a confidence John shared with him. Anthony says to John, "I’m sorry I told Steve what you said to me, but Steve kind of coaxed it out of me, and I wasn’t aware that it was such a secret. I didn’t know how important it was to you to keep that information confidential. Besides, I’d had a couple of beers and my mouth tends to run off when I’ve been drinking. If I’d have known you would be so upset, I wouldn’t have done it." This apology tends to minimize the offense and come off as insincere "I’m sorry I hurt you. I’ll try to keep what you tell me to myself in the future," would have been more appropriate. A defensive attitude tends to make matters worse rather than better. Don said, "I’m sorry I ate the last piece of cake. I didn’t know you were saving it for your mother. Leftovers in the refrigerator have never been off limits before. It wasn’t clearly labeled. If we’d had clear rules about what I can and can’t eat, and the cake had been labeled, I wouldn’t have eaten it." Cindy replied, "I don’t think you’re sorry for eating the
Would you be able to apologize to someone for something you didn’t mean to do? When Cassie walked out of Mr.Barnett’s Mercantile, she was still angry about what had just happened. She was so upset and distracted, she bumped into her rival, Lillian Jean Simms. Lillian Jean said, “Why don’t you look where you’re going?” Cassie didn’t know what to say. Then, Lillian Jean came back and said, “Well, apologize.” Once
This is because the act of “saying sorry” would
How would you feel if you had to apologize for something that wasn’t your fault? Cassie didn’t like it when she had to apologize to Lillian Jean when it wasn’t even her fault. This is evident when Cassie had to apologize to
Once the participant realizes that they could have really hurt someone, they become very remorseful.
Even if it is just apologizing for something you have done, it can make a big difference in the minds of most people. It takes a big person to apologize for something, even though deep down you do not necessarily want to. In the mistake that I made recently, which I do not really want to get into details about, I wrote a letter to apologize for what I had done. I wanted to write it but at the same time I didn’t. I knew as soon as it happened that it was wrong and I should not have done it, but at the same time I am not really sure if I wanted to apologize for it.
Results of a 2 (offender remorse: no apology or apology) x 3 (transgression frequency: first-time, occasional or regular) between groups factorial ANOVA on forgiveness levels revealed a significant main effect of offender remorse, F(1, 54) = 70.93, p < .001, η2 = .35. This indicated that overall, offenders who apologised (M = 5.53, SD = 1.17) elicited significantly higher rates of forgiveness than offenders who did not apologise (M = 3.73, SD = 1.34).
A key aspect of restorative justice lies in the offender apologizing for the crime and members
As mentioned before, timing is crucial, and knowing how to apologize is just as important as the timing. The highest ranking leader of VW should be the one apologizing. He will need to know how to apologize, decide who VW will be apologizing to, and draft an apology to fit that specific group of people. Different groups of people will require different types of apologies. One apology will not work for everyone (Perfect Apology, 2006-2015), and the wording must fit the specific group of people being addressed.
Kibra Member of parliament Ken Okoth has urged his constituents to maintain peace as the area is their only home.
Sorry is not hard to say to someone when you know you are wrong and you’re the person who causes it. Saying sorry does make the situation a lot better for you and the other person. Also, knowing when to stop and thinking before we speak would make the situation a lot better. Dr. Cullen had us do a breathing activity and explain to us that when you take a breath, it gives you time to think and stop you for saying something you’re going to regret
Tannen explains when talking about "apologies", when women apologize to much they make it look like they are at fault even though they may not be (328). This reminds me of my mother. Last week we went out to eat and she ordered some soup. When she took her first bite she noticed it wasn 't even hot. She called the waiter back to the table, apologized for bothering her, then politely ask her if she could bring her another bowl of soup because hers was cold. The waiter said she was sorry and that she would bring another bowl out right away. When the waiter returned with another bowl, my mom apologizes once again for any inconvenience she may have caused. I think my mom was just trying to be polite. Her apology as Tannen
In this situation you should think about what you have done instead of jumping to a conclusion or trying to get out of it.When you first say it you don’t realize how much you could have hurt that someone. For example: when you are talking to someone and they haven’t seen one of their parent’s since they were 9 months old and you say something like “well you haven’t even seen you dad in a million years” and you don’t realize it but they really took that to the heart and get their feelings hurt.While you are feeling guilty you can think about an apology and what you can do to make it better so you can avoid the same mistakes you made.After you have gone through the hard part, assuredly you can be sure that you are taking one step to making up and learning from your mistakes.
Great post, I would like to elaborate further on your point of the importance of taking responsibility in apology makes it more effective.
- Apology: Apology is a good strategy to make a situation better. When you are delivering bad news, the first thought should be apology. Apology can make a bad situation better but in some case it can also make bad situation even worse.
Then the 134 arrived. I got on, showed my pass to the bus driver and