In the essay All Apologies from Eula Biss, she talks about how our apologies are being said without sincerity and sometime how one generation will apologies in the place of another. As a result, after apologizing we have the tendency to think that at the end it was are fault. In her essay she uses her personal experiences to correlate to her main purpose- apologizing for slavery. One example that she uses was the time when she hit her sister in the stomach then quickly apologies for her action. As the occurrence of each insult, each scratch and each slap, her sister reminded her that “sorry doesn’t cut it.” Another examples that Biss uses were Reagan’s signing legislation apologizing for the Internment of Japanese Americans during World War II. It goes taking about how Reagan resisted the apology because he felt that during that struggle it was not our judgement to apologize but to see it as a mistake and to let it go.
Apologizing is, from what I have seen growing up, probably the most misunderstood. Tannen points out in her essay that women use the term “I’m sorry” as a way for both parties in a conversation to take part of the blame, and show “equal footing” or to show that it is okay. I have seen plenty of examples of this, especially with my grandma and my aunt. When my grandma would forget something, she would apologize, then my aunt would say that it’s okay, and then she would apologize to my grandma. Growing up, I did not understand why my aunt would apologize, as it was not her fault, but reading Tannen explain it in her essay, I understand that she was just saying it to tell my grandma that it is okay and not to worry about it. Another reason that I have personally seen women apologize more that Tannen did not elaborate on, is that when women are in conversations about something bad
Most people want an apology when they feel that someone has done them wrong or hurt them, but not everyone receives one. The reasons for this are innumerable, just as the people in want of an apology are innumerable. One important factor, though, is that apologising can be incredibly hard. Many people find it very difficult to admit that they were wrong or that they did something that hurt another person. Some people might even have experienced emotional abuse or trauma
I agree 100%, taking responsibility means acknowledging mistakes you made that hurt the other person. Owning up to a mistake will make the apology will make it more effective
In the video, Randy Pausch talks about saying sorry. Now, saying sorry is something that people, as a whole, do every day of their lives. But he sheds a new light on these two small words. He tells his audience how to say sorry. He talks about how you must first, “of course,” say sorry,” then you must say “what I did was wrong,” after that you have to say “I feel badly that I hurt you,” and then finally, the most important part, asking “how can I make this better?” By telling people how to say sorry, Randy Pausch shows his audience how to move forward in life, by properly saying two words that we use every
Making amends by using actions rather than words. My father always told me that words are insignificant but actions can go a long ways.
How would you feel if you had to apologize for something that wasn’t your fault? Cassie didn’t like it when she had to apologize to Lillian Jean when it wasn’t even her fault. This is evident when Cassie had to apologize to
All humans make mistakes. With this in mind, people should forgive and understand when mistakes are made. Before addressing the mistake of another, people should consider their own mistakes and humbly admit them. Then, the mistake at hand may be empathetically addressed.
As for me, actions are a great apology for the future. For example, changing your behavior would make up something from the past. Actions are stronger than words because you will show results rather than just say them.
This is shown in Hamlet. The main character, Hamlet, is seeking justice for his father’s death. Along the way, he is also received forgiveness from Laertes for trying to kill him. Although Hamlet has been shown forgiveness and justice, they coexist differently. The apology did not shift his thinking
Results of a 2 (offender remorse: no apology or apology) x 3 (transgression frequency: first-time, occasional or regular) between groups factorial ANOVA on forgiveness levels revealed a significant main effect of offender remorse, F(1, 54) = 70.93, p < .001, η2 = .35. This indicated that overall, offenders who apologised (M = 5.53, SD = 1.17) elicited significantly higher rates of forgiveness than offenders who did not apologise (M = 3.73, SD = 1.34).
Everyone always wonders how to cope with guilt. It may not be the simplest thing in the world, but it also is not the hardest thing. One of the first steps in coping with guilt is confessing, whether it is to a friend, family member, or someone in a church. After you admit what you did wrong, you are on your way to recovering from all of the guilt weighing on your mind. One of the next steps in coping with guilt is to "make amends or changes sooner rather than later," ("5 Tips for Dealing with Guilt.") because you still have a slight chance of restoring any relationship that was damaged in the process. You must also realize and "accept that you cannot change the past." What's done is done, but you can only go forward from that point on. It is better to take one small step forward than to take three steps
As mentioned before, timing is crucial, and knowing how to apologize is just as important as the timing. The highest ranking leader of VW should be the one apologizing. He will need to know how to apologize, decide who VW will be apologizing to, and draft an apology to fit that specific group of people. Different groups of people will require different types of apologies. One apology will not work for everyone (Perfect Apology, 2006-2015), and the wording must fit the specific group of people being addressed.
According to Enright and Fitzgibbons (2000), forgiveness is not the same as one individual pardoning another, excusing the transgression or simply denying or forgetting the offense. But rather, Scobie and Scobie (1998) defined forgiveness as one that involve recognizing the offense, acknowledging its hurtfulness, and then choosing to give up a rightful claim for retaliation or restitution. However, based on these definitions, interpersonal forgiveness involves both individuals that engaged in a series of relational activities. It is important to understand the intrapersonal definition or precursors of their business or transaction. For instance, as one person’s motives begin to shift away from revenge and avoidance, and towards conciliatory gesture, the other person must choose how to respond. There may be potential for discrepancies on how each forgives from both individual perspectives. For example, people in a close relationship in most cases have different perspectives on the same transgression and are likely to value forgiveness for different reasons. At times it may be difficult to obtain both parties perspectives, especially if their relationship no longer exist or is cut off.
The Imagine Restoration Theory is a foundation of a public apology. William Benoit based this theory on “the assumption that image and reputation is a valuable commodity for individuals and organizations, that image threats occur frequently, and that communication can help repair image” (Seeger, M. W., & Padgett, D. R., 2010, para #7)—his imagine restoration strategies are the most comprehensive and widely applied. To apply this theory, the attack must have two components: the accused is held for responsible for an action and that act is considered offensive. Benoit then proposes five image-restoration strategies to choose from: denial, evading responsibility, reducing offensiveness of the event, corrective action, and mortification. Each strategy offers a chance for companies to restore their image in the wake of a crisis (Steiner, Z., 2012).