Personal Narrative: My Miscarriage

An experience that really changed my life was when my grandfather was on the verge of death in the hospital. I remember seeing my family crying and my heart ached. I visited him every day and came home to study for my exams. I would sleep late every night to study and cry. In that moment, I realized how precious life was and how much of an impact we as individuals have other people. Ever since, I have tried to enjoy every single moment of life, whether a simple walk to school or spending time with my family.

When I was younger, I had a friend that would not usually do the right thing over the wrong thing. For example, if this person were to find a ring on the floor, she would not turn it into lost and found, she would keep it. There was one time where she got in trouble for having something that was not hers. When I realised what happened I made sure to never in my life do something like that. I then distant myself from that person, and went on with my own life. This taught me that I should always be honest and never take something that does not belong to me. I also learned how to choose my friends wisely, which I make sure to do when I meet new people. Events like this in my life is what helps me grow into the person I am

I wait at the door. I put on my solemn, grim face, I cannot let these children see me as a soft women. I am anything but that, well I guess I am, but we all need to hide our inner emotions some how. My useless husband, Hans, mumbles, “I see the car”. We step outside, most people think Hans and I are crazy for opening our home to these two children, but every little bit of money that we can earn helps. Plus, they can help with the laundry, I think and smile.

I have lost my grandpa and have not gotten over the idea of it. When I was in the sixth grade, my grandfather was very sick; he could barely walk. While my grandmother and some other family members went uptown for some household things, food, and medication, I was told to take care of him. Yet, I wanted to play with my friends outside. He told me to go ahead and play, but for some reason I just got mad and slammed the door and left. Around nighttime, I seen an ambulance pull up to my grandparents’ house.

While I was in the recovery room, my surgeon came in and told my boyfriend and I that the fetus had grown to the point where my tube ripped so they had to remove my left fallopian tube completely. My first thought was my baby and why this had to happen to me. Everything happened so fast that I didn’t know how to process all of it. It was hard to know that I was pregnant one moment and then the next having that amazing feeling getting ripped away from me. A couple hours later I was finally able to go home and rest. As days go on I think about all the things that happened to me in that short period of time. I didn’t know what an ectopic pregnancy was until that day.

Any one person can have a number of experiences, both good and bad, big and small. Not all of these will change or shape a person, but all of them have the opportunity to depending on how they are perceived by the person and when they occur. One large experience that has drastically impacted my life is coping with bipolar disorder.

The most powerful learning experience I had was in second grade when I was acting out in school over not having a family structure. My teacher kept talking to me about making better decisions and finally she submitted my name for the VIP of the month and I was able to eat lunch at a special table with her and the principal. I don't remember her name but from that moment on I knew I mattered enough for someone to notice; so I should make good decisions and from them on I was a model student.

It’s understood that the shock of not knowing who you could have raised and loved is devastating, a reason why certain hospitals will give the parents an option to spend time with the deceased child in an attempt at offering closure. Additionally, for some people it's not only the loss of the child they are grieving for, but the hopes and dreams they had for it. This type of loss has similar shocking effects to those who have had a miscarriage. Both miscarriages and fetal deaths can affect the

I learned to regard situations more objectively rather than overly emotionally. While the knowledge that I may have made the wrong decision when I allowed my brother to accept a plea deal in place of a trial, haunted me for years, until more than three years and hundreds of hours of therapy later my brother and I met again. I knew then I made the right choice. He was able to heal from the damage my father’s “discipline” caused; he was able to accomplish what I was scared we never could; we were able to overcome the abuse. That experience, facing my past and being able to let it go, showed me how much I have healed; it taught me to live, forgive and keep fighting.

Once everyone was seated, Dean Hollis came to the front of the room again. “I see you all made it back from your tours in one piece,” he laughed, even though what he said wasn’t particularly funny. He noticed that no one else was laughed so he cleared his throat and continued, “Next, we’re going to hear from Jennifer Wentworth, our resident librarian. Come on up Jen.”

My brother taught me how to react to life and what it throws at you is not always something worth reacting hugely about. He taught me this indirectly, by not telling me wise words but by his actions. How he reacted to things was something I watched, he did get upset a time or two, but he always tried his hardest not to. He may have gotten upset a time or two, but his words and actions made me who I

I'm trying to recall the people I met last night.  Please help to remember them.

According to the text book Parent-Child Relations: An Introduction to Parenting by Bigner and Gerhardt (2014), miscarriage is the word known for a pregnancy that ends unplanned during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy. The reasons why miscarriage happens varies but there is no exact cause and no exact way to tell when and how it can be prevented. Bigner and Gerhardt (2014) also mention that around 10 to15 percent of known pregnancies are miscarriages. This topic is important to discuss because even though 10 to 15 percent of pregnancies seem like a small amount of miscarriages, it is actually a vast majority. Miscarriage is a difficult challenge that both the mother and the father of the unborn fetus have to go through which is why more individuals need to know more about miscarriage. First I will discuss why miscarriage happens and how it can be preventable. Next, I will discuss the impacts of miscarriage on both the mother and the father. Lastly, I will discuss how parents can cope with the loss of their unborn fetus.

Pregnancy is meant to be an exciting happy time; not only for the mother, but for the whole family and friends. So, when a woman miscarries, the psychological impact/ trauma is unbearable and very devastating. The experience and feeling of loss, grief, guilt, and shame caused by a miscarriage can take a toll on everyone. These feelings can also turn into a major depression in some women and possible questions of what could have I done differently, or feeling like you had a hand it in can start to surface.

An accident last year changed my attitude towards life . That accident had a great impact on me , it taught me to treasure what i have and to treasure those people around me more . Although the accident was not life threatening , it was still the scariest thing i had ever been through in life . It was an accident that no one would have expected and wanted it to happen .