Personal Narrative: Sibling Relationships

What causes sibling rivalry can be many different things. I know firsthand about sibling rivalry. I have a younger brother name Christian. He is seventeen and a junior in High school. We fight like cats and dogs. Even though he is six foot one, we still try to wrestle. When I come home from college on the weekends, my brother and I will go out and do something. Most of the times we go out to eat. Christian and I have a connection between the two of us that no matter where the other person is we will still fight with each other. Then we will be best friends the next day. No matter what we are doing, we both have our own opinions about things. However, coming from a divorced family puts a strain on my brothers and my relationship. Neither of us wants to hurt either of our parent’s feelings in anything we say or do. So instead of our fighting with our parents, my brother and I take it out of each other. There are three things that cause sibling rivalry. First off, fighting for the parent’s attention is something that happens with all siblings. Secondly, fighting with the other sibling. My brother and I fight all the time, but at the end of the day, we both love each other. The last thing that causes sibling rivalry is comparing one another.

I think I could say I have a pretty tight-knit family. Only immediate family though, like my mom and siblings. I grew up in Fairview Heights until I was five with a brother and two sisters. I was the youngest out of all of them and always got picked on, but as we all have grown up we get closer and closer.

Today in America, an estimated 80% of the population has at least one sibling. While it is true that no two families are identical, the relationship between siblings plays a central role in their development and growth. Younger siblings for example, might be prone to mimic the actions of their older siblings, viewing their older siblings as faultless and heroic figures. On the other hand, older siblings are often viewed as authority figures and are seldom questioned. They might develop as friends with an inseparable bond or as bitter rivals seeking supremacy over the others. Regardless of the nature of their relationship, siblings that share a household are forced to interact with each other more than any other friend or family member. Sibling

My family consists of my mom, dad, two sisters, and one brother. I am the youngest child of the family. With my siblings being a good deal older than me, I tended to feel left out when they got to do things that I didn’t. The age gap left me feeling like an outsider sometimes. As we grew older, the bond between us grew much, much stronger. I think of my siblings more like friends now. They are people that I can tell

To begin, ten years separated my brother and I in age, so there's a good chance he did not enjoy me the way I adored him. I am sure I annoyed him. Especially when I always nagged him to play with me and invaded his space when he invited friends over. I could not help myself.  Moreover, my mom once told me that at the hospital when I was born, Brandon stormed out of the room crying because he did not want a baby sister. He could sense from the cry that I was a handful, and he wanted nothing to do with me.

June 16, 2008, my little brother was born. At the age of four I was the most infuriated young child in existence. I didn't want a sibling, I wanted to be the only child my parents cared for, I wanted to be the best. I didn't understand why I wasn't good enough for my parents why they needed another child. It's typical that siblings don't like each other. And you may be thinking Xaine and I are some miraculous exception. No human is perfect, not even heroes. Heroes aren't people who make everything perfect, they're people who make life a little bit more enjoyable for someone or many. My Michigan hero Xaine is nine and has a easygoing happy attitude towards everything that I admire very much along with his kindness, trustworthiness, and acceptance.

Growing up with them, means that their lives are often guided by the same events that the other is. Therefore, siblings are an important part of an emotional support system and learning to work with peers (Brody 125). Danielle has two siblings, a twin named Julianne and her older sister, Katie, who just graduated from college. Older siblings teach by example, often whatever they do their younger siblings repeat. Danielle said, “Katie was the head honcho, both Julianne and I would want to hang out with her. She would pick her favorite twin of the day, which was completely unfair (White).” Sibling relationships help children learn how to solve conflicts between peers, however, this can depend on how close they are (Brody 124). Ages can affect how close siblings are. The more that children can relate to each other, the better the relationship. Both siblings are very close to Danielle, since they lived in the same house and shared many experiences with each other. Danielle described herself as an open-minded person, which could contribute to having siblings (White). Younger siblings become sensitive to other people’s feelings and beliefs. Siblings can also have negative effects on childhood growth. Parents will often change their parental strategies after seeing the behaviors of their older child. Sometimes these behaviors can also determine how younger siblings are seen by other adults, including teachers (Brody 125). Danielle told me about a teacher that she had in high school that didn’t like her because the teacher had not liked her older sister, Katie (White). Sibling relationships are an essential part of childhood, often determining how they interact with those around

As regards to sibling relationship, Kastenbaum (1993) described it as the relation of two or more individuals with the same biological parents. That relation also includes how these individuals act together concerning their awareness, insights, thoughts and feelings regarding each other.

Having siblings can be both a good thing and bad thing. In “Seven Ways Your Siblings May Have Shaped You” By Lindsay Lyon the article was about different situations that I or anyone of us may have experienced when having a sibling in life. “How Our Siblings Shape Us” by Naomi Schaefer Riley is about both the good and bad things about having a sibling and what I or you might or may have experienced. Whether you have an older sibling or a younger sibling, scientific facts, as well as personal experience, show that having a sibling can strongly affect you in the long run. Some of the things that can or may strongly affect me, you and your siblings are success, relationships, and rivalries.

They are your competition, yet they support you. They are your enemy, yet when it comes down to it you end up fighting side by side. They hate you, yet love you more than words could say. Sibling relationships are among the most complicated and confusing things to understand. Complex sibling relationships are seen everywhere, whether you are reading or watching televison.

Depending on close relationships, we quickly learned to confide in each other. We did chores as a team, participated in church youth, and made up our own games to keep us entertained in the back yard. We were constantly together, which we all hated then. Now, I look back and realize forming a close bond with my siblings is one of the greatest memories of my childhood. I never thought that my brothers would be some of the most important people in my life considering how much we would bicker, but now, I am beyond thankful for them.

When my parents show any type of favoritism towards me, my brothers will become jealous of me and try to get me in trouble. My siblings and I have sibling rivalry because we are competitive, favored, and jealous. There are many reasons that my brothers and I are competitive, but the main reason why is because of high school sports. All three of us play basketball, football, and baseball. Basketball is competitive because we would always compare are stats against each other.

Every siblings are different, but my parents knew as my brother got older that we had something very different from each other. Recently my brother was diagnosed to be being born with ADHD. School has always been a very big struggle for my brother. The way ADHD has affected my brother is that unlike the rest of us the part of his brain that is suppose to give him self control doesn't function properly like our brains do. The cutting of recess time has had a bigger effect on my brother than most kids in his grade.

I thought myself to respect all people even if i didn't like them but still had aspect them and saw everyone as equal to each other and not have one dominant the other. What i am saying  I know how it feels to have more limitation based on who you are. I know where they’re coming from. But overall having siblings had made more laughter, more learning opportunities and learning from their mistakes, and most all forever lasting friendship. I am very thankful to have family and friends to encourage me in my goals on what I want do and who I want to become.

An intense relationship includes love and hate, play and fight, and the teasing and mocking of each other. In addition, aggressive relationships where the oldest child can be the one who is always coming down on the younger ones because of their age can lead to many problems amongst the family. It has been reported that aggression is very frequent in sibling relationships. In one study, 29% of behavior observed between siblings was hostile. There are many siblings that take their aggression to the extremes and others who go through phases and then end in a close, loving relationship. All rivalry is