Personal Note On Pay Attention

Looking on the "brighter side" of things encourages positive attitudes as well as positive behavior. Shay Carl is a YouTube personality whom I've watched constantly for self motivation, he turned his life around through making the personal choice to wake up everyday and smile, and to look at himself in the mirror and flaunt his features instead of being ashamed to take his shirt off at the beach. At age 25 he weighed 350 pounds. Everyday he looked at himself with shame and disgust, he refused to allow positivity into his life because he believed there was nothing positive about himself that needed praise. One day he decided to stop the pity and to be happy even when he didn't want to, even when life would through massive curve balls at him, he was optimistic at all costs. He lost 200 pounds and had 5 kids. Carl posted daily videos of his progress in hopes to inspire other to follow in his footsteps. With over 4 million subscribes, he managed to create a unity of positive people with the same hopes as he did; to change their lives simply by choosing happiness. A positive attitude leads to a positive life. There are numerous aspects to being an optimist, and making the personal choice to be happy is only the first step to

“How many things have to happen to you,” Robert Frost Writes, “before something occurs to you?” A person wakes up every morning to the same gray walls and eats the same flavorless slop. Seeing no changes they seem to ask themselves if life is worth living. They are unhappy but are afraid of new environments and unknown areas. Wishing things can go back to when their worries were as simple as trying to memorize the multiplication tables. Although it is written that change is in every person’s destiny, there are several reasons a person might or might not seek out change. For instance, a person’s environment or way of living can be one of the hardest things to change. Living in the projects, bills to pay and people to obey are a few reasons many steer away from change. Secondly unexpected life events like suddenly having to become a parent and learning how to raise a baby while trying to balance sudden deaths that may occur. Thirdly, discovering a person’s true emotions for another human being can create what I like to call a domino effect. Whether you consider the environment to be the atmosphere around you or the place to which a person calls home, one thing is certain that in any environment a person must adjust in order to survive, and through any adjustments comes change.

Changes in life can be tough to go through and sometimes they can be easy. Some of these things are harder than others and some can be a better choice. Like moving is one thing that changed my way i looked at people. Then there is growing up, growing up can be hard. Last but not least there is education. These things that you experience can change your perspective on how you look at life.

The only real change comes from inside. There is nothing in life that will ever change you drastically unless you let it. Life will only change you if you let it, that's why people walk around like they are protecting themselves with an imperceptible forcefield of false sangfroid attempting to act like they have their entire life together. The only way to perceive change is to go through a slow process of self development. In the movie Cast Away, Tom Hanks does a marvelous job of portraying how isolation and desperation can have a negative toll on a fragile mind.

Take the time to focus on you while you are focusing on the world around you. If you cannot be content with the way your life is shaped, you are going to have a harder time helping others. Take a couple of breathes. Realize that you must accept things the way they are and in return, you will understand there worth. One must live in every moment. Accept any imperfections you may have. Analyze any mistakes you may make and work to correct them. Finally, take a walk and seek out new adventures. New adventures can help us be present, awaken our senses, and learn how to let go and hold on. Finding a balance in your life by being mindful to yourself, will help you to be mindful in the outside

Since I was young, I have always had an affinity of people watching, and trying to figure out what type of life they lived. Especially, what type of events would cause people to adopt a positive (happy) outlook in comparison to people that dwell on the negatives attributes? Growing up, my mother had a peculiar thought process that would always managed to lead to negative (not happy) thoughts. In the beginning, I too would follow similar thought process, but I quickly realized how exhausting it was to maintain. Before reading Shawn Achor’s book, I wanted to clear my mental database and allow for this new information to be absorbed into my life.

Life is an ever-changing reaction to the different situations that we are exposed to. Sometimes these opportunities for change are forced upon you, such as requirements at work, at home, or at school. Other times these changes are brought on by your reflection of things that have happened in the past.

Thinking positively can be a difficult task, no matter the circumstance. When negativity fills you up like helium in a balloon you should always try to find the light in the darkness. Thinking positively doesn’t make the hard times disappear, it helps you survive negativity and the daily conflicts that challenge you. Looking on the bright side of things increases attentiveness, improves your ability to think, and leads to happier thoughts (Psychology Today). No matter what you are going through, you should always stay optimistic. “Man’s Search for Meaning” and “Dear Miss Breed” are great examples of how having a bright outlook can help you survive conflict.

In other words, ->start by taking actionFocus on the genuine love for another when you are tempted to do your bad habitRemember to face the resistance, step out of your ego and focus on genuine love for another In order to get what you want in life, you have to make other people happy Stop turning to self-help books If you EVER complain or blame someone else for your life, you aren’t taking 100% responsibility. ANYTHING you can complain about can be fixed by YOU making new choicesSo make changes or STOP complaining<-

In the video titled “The Happy Secret To Better Work”, Shawn Achor really outlines how being happy and staying positive can really change your life. In other words Achor is referring to positive psychology. When referring to the world around us Achor really believes the majority of people focus on only the negatives and not the positives. He also talks about how that reality might not be what shapes us but in actuality it is our brain that puts a lens on how we perceive things and that may change our happiness. Achor also outlines another trait of our brain, which is that we as humans set progressing goals that never seem to be fulfilled due to human nature. He finishes his presentation by giving the audience some ways to help reverse the way we see the world and help our work and life in general.

As an electrical engineer, my father often looks to take on problems that very few know how to solve. He has found that the fear of failure in people commonly conquers their ambition. It frequently suppresses a person from even attempting a challenge, and he or she yields. For my father, however, he has trained his mind to separate his fear of a problem from his actions. Where he recognizes his fear but momentarily silences it in order to accept a challenge. This mentality in his life has taught him to confront fear, divvy it up into micro fears through a plan, and then utilize them as motivation every day. Over time, as he slowly solves hard problems and experiences little euphoric feelings of success, these feelings begin to become addictive. This addiction builds upon itself, and gradually his battles with the prospect of failure have become easier and easier. He believes, in addition, that the sensation he feels from challenging himself and then accomplishing a challenge—despite his fears—plays a large role in helping him to ignore instantaneous feelings, such as drugs and alcohol, which in turn could short circuit his natural happiness.

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First, we have to enjoy the present moment. We have to get in the habit of paying attention to the small details around

The only thing in my life that I can be positive about is change. Everything changes, from the moment we’re born to the moment we die. Reality has many twist and turns, and our perception of reality is what shapes us to become who we are. Our life is spent on deciphering the difference between reality and not reality. This is hard to define because reality is unique to each individual.

Stay in a joyous mood. If you are always in a good mood and spreading joy, there is no way to be negative. You will always be looking on the bright side seeing how fortunate you are. This will keep a smile on your face showing that you are truly happy. Also, help others around you to be in a good mood. This will help you connect with others.