Personal Statement : Family Dynamics

Even tho many are lucky to have their parents together and grow up in one family that was altogether, I was lucky to grow in a divorced family and I say lucky because I have become stronger because of this situation and even tho I have become stronger, I have also learned to cut off the slack off myself. I grew up with 3 older male siblings and we were not the type to get along and share, some of us would help each other and the older tell the younger how to survive through different circumstances but I was left out.

The film, Precious, is a powerfully charged story that delves into the family dynamics of a 16-year-old girl and her struggles to survive an onslaught of treacherous experiences. Throughout the film, the viewer is enveloped in a dramatic web of extreme situations, experienced by the main character, and those to whom she is close. The themes of domestic violence, rape, incest, drug addiction, gambling, poverty, social justice, social services, housing and education are laced together throughout the story. Particularly poignant attention is paid to various systems that help shape the experiences of the characters. The social services industry, and its associated workers, educators and administrators, set the foundation for the social themes that are highlighted by this film.

This is the typical response I get when I reveal to someone that there are ten kids in my family. When the shock subsides I am always bombarded with the same questions. "The same two parents? How big is your house? How many bedrooms are there? Are there any twins?" and more importantly, "How many bathrooms does your house have?" My personal favorite is, "Can you say all your siblings'

Though her sons are over the age of 21, Jane sets rigid house rules, curfew times to her children and imposes a great deal of disciplinary actions when disobeyed. They practiced the traditional Chinese culture wherein the eldest or the head of the household has the final say in everything that goes on. Her sons follows her rules with no questions asked. It can be inferred that she is domineering and wants control of her sons even if they are on their way to seek independence and live their life on their own. She wants a say in every aspect or decision that her sons will make and she actually can be defined as overprotective stage mother.

I knew college was going to change me in many ways. Yet, after my family and I restructured our collective and individual emotional reactivity over the three years that I was away at school, I believed my work in that department was done. I thought transiting into college was difficult, however, I found myself once again unprepared for the aftershock that rocked my family once I return from school. I left college a strong, independent, mature, and differentiated person, or at least I kind of did.

Morals: A person's standards or beliefs concerning what is and what is not acceptable for them to do. On today's society, many appear to have different “variations” on common, widely-believed morals. Usually, these “variations” are designed and believed based on situations that are both good and bad, according to standards set forth by a society and/or a government. For example, some societies believe that the action of abandoning family is morally unacceptable, whereas other societies believe limiting family growth and expelling excess children is within moral boundaries. Another instance of differing morals is what defines a right or wrong action.

When I consider family systems, I am reminded of a metaphor I heard while in undergraduate school about a mobile. A mobile is used to soothe an infant, normally placed above a crib or basinet. Each of its parts are in balance, when working correctly, however if one section becomes off balance the objects become out of sync. This is true with families. If each member of the family unit is doing their part, there is complete balance or homeostasis (Henson). This balance is viewed as a healthy family system. However, if one part of the unit becomes off balance, it disrupts the whole unit causing an unhealthy response with possible long term consequences. As families grow, each member plays an equally important role in the family unit. Children learn quickly the importance of relationships and adapt quickly to their environment. No one can deny the family unit is the most complex system in existence.

I began my college education with a desire to become a pediatrician and ending with a degree in Family Studies, with a focus in Crisis Management. As with both aspirations it has always been about helping children. Upon graduation I obtained a position as a Forensic Interviewer with the Children’s Advocacy Center for Denton County. Working with this agency fulfilled a part of my passion, however being away from my infant son at the time was heart wrenching. My husband and I chose for me to stay home during the early years of my children. While I stayed home I provided summer and after school care to a few families for 7 years and I realized, even more so, how I love being available to children in their various life stages. For the past 4 years

My family dynamical is framed surrounds traditional marriage. It features socialization, adaptation, describe formation, role-making, and self-concept development. Although conflicts have caused facing for a few of my family members. Initiating to divert from contextual beliefs positioning them in groups of matriarchy. Conflicts have impacted my family through divorces, children out of wedlock, and single women, parenting, attending the workforce, structuring childcare and independent gender responsibilities. Also cohabitation existence equates into the equation for survival measures. To no struggling with monthly obligations Enlighten by interactions symbolic and demonstrated the influences of history. Those family members restored power

Families of Origin have significant impacts on how individuals view their future relationships. This is especially apparent when problems arise among couples. The ways that parents teach their children how to approach the different roles in intimate relationships can replay itself repeatedly.

My family dynamical is groomed around tradition marriage. Socialization, adaptation, describe formation, role-making, and self-concept development. Although conflicts may cause facing for family members to divert from background believes. Being in the group of matriarchy and faced with conflicts has impacted my family through divorces, children out of wedlock and single women parenting their children while attending the workforce structuring childcare and gender responsibilities. Also cohabitation existence equate into the occasion for survival measures for meeting monthly obligations Enlighten by interactions symbolic and demonstrated influences of history. Those family members restored power befitting them to position now they’re in the

Many things can contribute to what you think is morally right or wrong. Religion, for example, may create a barrier on to what extent you do something. Some religions set rules, or guidelines on which they limit what people do. Cultures, as well, contribute to people’s decisions. Many times our values and ethics disagree with different people who hold different

In her book The Unfinished Revolution, Kathleen Gerson argues that today, family pathways are more important than family structure. In this context, family structure refers to the organization of a family, and the way that it has been changing as a result of the gender revolution. For example, some nontraditional family structures that are explored in the book include double parent families with both parents earning, single parent families (mostly single mothers), and families with same-sex parents. Gerson argues that while family structures are not negligible, it is family pathways that are more important for the children of the gender revolution. That is to say, the children value the dynamics of their family more than the structure. They are more concerned about how well their parents are able to provide them with the necessary emotional and financial support than they are about how well their families follow a norm. For them, it is more about feeling like they’re part of a family rather than just physically being in one. Gerson emphasizes this when she explains that the people she interviewed “focused on the long-term consequences of parental choices, not on the specific form or type of home these choices produced at any one moment in time.” One important implication of this argument is the way in which the children of the gender revolution imagine their own romantic relationships unfolding. Even there, they prioritize a feeling rather than a format. For example, one

To answer Preston (2001, p39) question one, it would depend on the circumstances. I have the moral understanding passed down via my family beliefs passed on from previous generations to them, from their parents and grandparents, I also have the influencing values of friends in my social circle. I believe I have learnt the right moral behaviour, as

Institutionalized ideas of a successful lifestyle have been perpetuated in society throughout time. Each generation faces newly refined perimeters of righteous behaviors that have been affected by progressive ideas, technological advancements, and traditional beliefs. These components and more, play a role in creating a public image of a family structure. Essentially, families are key representatives of society. The posterchild family structure of society depicts values held by a generation, and promoted throughout the means of mass marketing during that time. Every citizen is considered to be held accountable to the societal standards of correct human behavior and ideology. These standards have an impact on freedom, marriage, work, education and children. My family structure is grass rooted in Punjab, India. The dominant religion, political structure, public institution, and societal ideology have differences and similarities with those of America’s.