Personal Statement On Non Verbal Communication

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Last Fall, I took an Interpersonal Communication class from Josie Wood at Chemeketa. While I enjoyed most of the class, I remember one project in particular which I initially rejected as not applicable to myself. We discussed in class that men and women generally physically carry themselves differently and interact in the world in differing ways using non-verbal cues. Our text explained the non-verbal communication we use is often influenced by gender. The list for women seemed submissive and yielding. This is not how I saw myself; I expressed as much to Josie. She encouraged me to become more aware of my actions as I likely had internalized more female traits than I realized. I came to understand that through subconscious…show more content…
The women in my family seemed to generally follow the traditional role of submissive homemaker all the way down my maternal line until we came to my mother. She was spoken of with some awe after adventurously joining the Navy as one of the first women admitted as a sailor and then later taking a male dominated career as an Air Traffic Controller. I came to view traditional female roles as weak and undesirable. This example of social learning theory influenced my actions and thoughts, though not necessarily in the traditional way for most girls. In my younger years, to my embarrassment now, I saw myself as “not one of those girls” and loved the title of tomboy. My family seemed to encourage these behaviors and encouraged me to pursue an education and career that would fulfill the role of a “bread winner”. I think that this, in many ways, taught me that it was acceptable to diminish other women, especially those who were more traditionally feminine.

While I’ve always identified and felt that I am female, I chose certain behaviors and pulled away from others. I did indeed actively chose how to express my gender as is supported by the cognitive development theory (Wood, 46). During adolescence, I came to realize that as a female who acted in ways which were traditionally masculine I had more power. This may have been my unconscious understanding of standpoint theory. I had the privileges of being white and middle class so by taking on masculine
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