Philophobia And Relationships

Fear. Fear of heights, fear of responsibility, fear of the future, or even fear of the unknown. Eventually everyone faces what they are afraid of. As time goes on you easily learn these fears are unavoidable especially when the thing you fear is your love as well. How could you be scared of something you love? How do you get past the fear so you can finally enjoy it? Passion, determination, and never giving up.

A phobia can be acquired by a person by making the person associate one thing with something not pleasant or painful to them. The effect of this can be permanent if the extinction process on the person

I also feel that the fear of death governs many of our actions and behaviors throughout our lifespan. For example, in the first half of our lives we adapt an individualistic approach to life, feeling that we have to do whatever we can in life to survive for ourselves. In this half of life, death governs our actions and behaviors by dividing us through the sense that we must compete with each other for better survival in this system or we could possibly experience the hardships of struggling to survive or even death. In our latter years of life, or the second half of our lives, we fear the nearing of death, so this causes us to reflect on our lives and we wish to obtain more valuable and intimate relationships.

As humans, we are all afraid of something. However, most of us have a fear of committing to certain events, such as a relationship. Commitment can be a scary word for some people because of the connotation that follows the word. For many, commitment symbolizes loss, feelings of being trapped or controlled. In Marina Keegan’s “Cold Pastoral”, the reader meets a young girl named Claire. Claire is one of the many people who has a fear of commitment. Because of this fear, Claire in unable to have a serious relationship with anyone.

(b) Current findings about the origin include that real or imagined abandonment can cause unpleasant outcomes. Interpersonal relationships tend to be unstable and destructive. Instability of moods and severe episodes, intense anger and constant emotion of emptiness. Suicidal behavior and acts, also

Another cause for people having fear is the past experiences they have had. Generally, if something bad has happened to somebody, they try to forget about it and/or they try to make sure it never happens again. However, in doing so, they still have a subconscious fear that something similar to the terrible event they’ve experienced may somehow manage to happen again, especially if there are a few similarities between the past event and the current situation. For example, if a man had surgery for his heart to perform better and he nearly died, he may be very reluctant to ever have surgery to his heart or any other body part(s) again.

Known as a mental disorder a phobia is a persistent fear of a specific object, activity, or situation that leads to compelling desire to avoid it. Phobias tend to affect the way people live their lives, for example, their working and social environments, considering that they last for a very long time and are capable to cause intense psychological physical stress. It is considered today the most common mental and anxiety disorder in the United States (Matig Mavissakalian & David H. Barlow 1981 pp 2). There are many phobias such as: the fear of aging, fear of changing, fear of clowns, fear of getting fat, fear of being in closed spaces, etc.

Generally speaking many people fear of ending up alone and having nothing to lose. The fear of being alone can cause someone to feel insecure, depressed, and anxious. It causes people to feel such anguish not having anyone to be there for them when needed. Moreover, some simply fear being seen lonely because society has made it apparent that being alone is wrong , ergo why people either want a partner or friend. This is relevant to both The Crucible and contemporary society

Phobias, an extreme fear of something, can best be understood through use of the psychodynamic perspective. Oftentimes, childhood traumas or exposure to the object of the fear at an early age can lead to the phobia to manifest itself when the patient is an adult.

Fear of the unknown, and fear of what is to come in our lives, has generations of people wondering what will our lives be like tomorrow or the next day. Death is always there and we cannot escape it. Death is a scary thing. Our own mortality or the mortality of our loved ones scares us to the point that we sometime cannot control how we are dealing with such a thing as the thought of death. Why do we fear such a thing as death? We don’t know what happens after we don’t how it feels. The fear of death is different for most but it is most certain to come and we cannot hide from it. For death is just around the corner and maybe it’s will come tomorrow or the next day! We fear not death but the unknown that comes from death, that is the scariest thing about death.

God created people for connection. The first thing that God deems “not good” is Adam’s aloneness. Our Creator built humans to relate to other people in our lives, as an echo of the perfect relationship of the Trinity Although God designed us for unity, sin corrupted everything when it entered our world, relationships included. According to Dr. Gary Smalley, all people struggle with a “core fear” (19-20). These core fears cause us to engage in a “Fear Dance” that keeps our relationships in constant conflict. Throughout the book, Smalley examines new ways to look at conflict and steps to start a “new dance” to replace our dysfunctional fear dances.

Fear is a normal and an important human reaction to something dangerous, it keeps one out of danger, because fear is disliked and one tries ones best to avoid the object or situation of fear. It causes physical changes known as fight-or-flight reaction, which causes blood pressure to increase and the heart rate to speed up to pump blood to the large muscles used to run away, to balance this the human body has sweat glands which produce perspiration to cool the body.

The basis of fear of aging and death are partly due to how we view life. Everything about this life structure is based on a beginning and end. Nothing in this world will last forever except our souls, which we have an option of how and where we will spend eternity. However, getting back to the journey we call life, our bodies are constantly changing as are the times and seasons. I believe that the worldview of life has caused a great “fear” in

     We humans especially, fear many different things: death, disease, old age, commitment, noises in the night, pain, responsibility, work, being too fat or too thin, or any number of other things. Some of our fears are reasonable and rationale, like the fear for our safety so we lock our doors at night, never walk alone on dark streets, and

We humans are scared of the unknown. The unknown could be something you just found out about and don't clearly understand, or something you can't understand so you decide to avoid. “So many things seem filled with the intent/to be lost that their loss is no disaster.”(1.2-3), the speaker feels as if things are not meant to last. She has no control of what stays and goes in her life, because she has no clue of what will stay she is afraid to admit that