Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.
As a practitioner, it is important you deal with unwanted behaviour in a calm manner. This is because children and young people will copy what they see as their behaviour is affected by others around them. For example, if the practitioner shouts at the child saying play nicely or say go to the carpet for time out then the child will copy this behaviour and tell other children off. If adults show conflict then children and young people will get frightened and confused. This can also lead for the child to have unwanted behaviour. For example, if the parents be aggressive when dealing with conflict then the child is going to feel scared and confused on what is going on. It is important that practitioners and parents reassure the child and allow
When the child is in a calm frame of mind talking to them to help discover what triggers their anger
This is due to the extreme influence that our culture has. With so many negative topicalities floating around on the daily, it is only natural to assume that the young generation is going to pick up on it. Unfortunately, this is not an issue that can instantaneously be cured or coped with. In fact, the Psychol Bull (2007) says that “early aggressive behavior is an indicator of future aggressive behaviors.” Patience is a key in helping cope with something like this, and we must try to understand how this aggression continues to affect our society. An issue that has always been prominent in today’s world is physical punishment. As parents continue to non-verbally teach their kids a lesson with methods such as “spanking”, a door to future aggression is being opened. The Pediatrics Journal (2011) says that “Children who are spanked show more aggressive behavior towards their peers.” These current trends in data leave us wondering what us as a society needs to do in order to prevent anger at such a young age. When we grow up, it is natural for us to go through changes, and being moody more than often is one of them. When the stress of growing up hits us all at once, we tend to lash out and blame others. This is not the case in current day adolescents. At such a young age, social stress is not yet an issue. Outside
Children should be dealt with in a sensitive manner and their feelings should be taken into consideration. They can be guided by adults who can help them to deal with the situations by showing that there is always hope of something new in their lives. Children should not be forced to take part in activities unless it is absolutely necessary.
Another point the authors make is to show love and respect when disciplining a child. The main message regarding this is, with love and respect, the child will be able to calm him/herself down and will be more willing to listen to instruction, once love and respect are shown. The authors argue that with love and respect, the child will feel like his/her feelings matter, that the parent cares enough to listen, and that the parent is there for him/her, no matter what. With these two things—love and respect—the parent(s) will have a better chance at getting the child to open up and express his/her feelings, in a healthy
Building a strong, caring, and positive relationship with children is extremely important. This is when a child first learns how to form a trusting bond with an adult. The adult is usually a parent, grandparent, a care provider, or another key adult in a child’s life. A caring relationship with an adult is essential to a child’s social and emotional growth. Through a strong, trusting relationship with an adult, a child learns that the adult will protect them, nurture them, and respond to their needs. This also helps the child learn how to form healthy relationships with others. “How you approach children, what you notice about them, and how you respond to them will either boost or detract from their confidence and social competence”
Children are like flowers, if well taken care of they will bloom. If ignored or tortured, they will wither and die. Child discipline is one of the most important elements of successful parenting. Today, many people have this notion that physical abuse is in no way a solution to helping children discern between right and wrong. Since generations children have been taught the art of discipline through physical punishment. Often this approach to disciplining has resulted in two outcomes, one is where the child becomes more tolerant and is willing to adhere to what he/she has been told, or the other which more often results in children developing a sense of anguish and desire to revolt.
Managing feelings and behaviour: children talk about how they and others show feelings, talk about their own and others’ behaviour, and its consequences, and know that some behaviour is unacceptable. They work as part of a group or class, and understand and follow the rules. They adjust their behaviour to different situations, and take changes of routine in their stride.
Anger Management is a practical guide that will help you to stay calm in the face of angry
If the teacher notice that the child is becoming emotionally disturbed then the teacher will take them into a quiet room to enquire if they are worried about something, so managing the situation into a proactive way. when conflict arises more suddenly, it is also wise to take the child into a quiet place to talk to the teacher without audience. The teacher always need to calm themselves and try to appear confident and they should not try to argue or glare to the child. Dropping an eye contact to the child is also helpful. For example in reception there are two sections, if the two pupils are always fighting in class, one of them will be moved into another section. Moving the other child in a different room can help prevent the two pupils from fighting.
Children are the future adults. I belie they not only listen to what we tell them (guide them), but also look for our actions. We cannot demand respect from children, if we going to treat or guide them without respect for their rights. Also, any guide techniques will not work without:
There is also emotional neglect of the child and its very irritating for them and it is very hurtful to the child’s feeling. Ward (2010) stated that “emotional neglect is any attitude, behavior, or failure to act that interferes with a child's mental health or social development”. As Gardner (2012) claimed that, by keeping the child feelings always under pressure, a parent is creating the fearing process by preventing the child need to interact with other and not showing the positive feelings to the child and blaming the child about every step done it is destroying the emotions and feelings of the child.