Plain Talk About Dealing With An Angry Child

Parents come home from a long day at work tired and agitated. When agitation gets the best of them, anything a child may do could possibly send them over the edge. A child may be loquacious and that makes their parent/guardian upset. Instead of being pragmatic towards the child, the parent takes all of the stress from work out on the child. Even though the parent may not mean anything of the words being said, they still affect the child. After the parent is able to calm down and realize yelling isn’t the answer, they talk to their child. Parents apologize for what they did and say they overreacted. Sometimes a parent feels compunction for yelling at their child and will bribe them with a toy or food to make them feel better. To conclude, each and every parent is able to relate to yelling at their children when they don’t deserve

As a practitioner, it is important you deal with unwanted behaviour in a calm manner. This is because children and young people will copy what they see as their behaviour is affected by others around them. For example, if the practitioner shouts at the child saying play nicely or say go to the carpet for time out then the child will copy this behaviour and tell other children off. If adults show conflict then children and young people will get frightened and confused. This can also lead for the child to have unwanted behaviour. For example, if the parents be aggressive when dealing with conflict then the child is going to feel scared and confused on what is going on. It is important that practitioners and parents reassure the child and allow

Children will always need guidance in what good behaviour is and it is the adult/carer role to teach them. Working with children who have behavioural issues as a result of neglect and abuse I often see children acting in negative ways as a way of seeking attention. This is a result of their lived experiences and they need to be taught how to seek attention in a more positive way that allows for less chaos and full of growth. Behaviour of such kind is also an indicator something is not right and they lack the right communication skills or are not being heard. It is important that we try to identify patterns of behaviour or triggers because:

As the child gets older i.e. around two years old the relationship as parents begins to change they start educating their children through discipline etc. When setting boundaries for discipline rules are implemented. The rules provide children with the freedom to express themselves within certain boundaries enabling them to learn and develop effectively.

Tension Control: Children cannot maintain physical aggression indefinitely and will eventually begin to regain control and rationality. At this stage they may become withdrawn, confused, frightened or apologetic. Staff members need to reopen lines of communication, reassure the child and form a verbal contract with them, letting them know that if they remain calm they will not need to be restrained again. Within safe judgement the child can be allowed to make their own choices while staff remain fully in control should another violent outburst occur. The more therapeutic communication initiated, the quicker the child will regain total

When children fall out and say mean things to each other I always say to them well how would you feel about that if that’s what she said or did to you? I always get down to their level and use the appropriate body language and tone of voice. I ask them what they think they should do and I sanction them if

Anger Management is a practical guide that will help you to stay calm in the face of angry

Children model their own behaviour on others and if adults can effectively communicate and exchange age or developmental appropriate information with children this can encourage them to behave in acceptable ways. Frustration at their own inability to communicate effectively can lead to behavioural problems.

.Staff should use appropriate methods to manage children behaviour including distraction, praise and rewards and excellent partnership with parents. In case of serious behaviour such us bullying, racial or other abuse, is unacceptable behaviour and attitudes will be made clear immediately, but by explanations rather than personal blame and would be explained to parents. When children show a positive behaviour such us kindness and wiliness to

It’s really how you approach your child that makes him a better person. For some parents, they like to pamper their children because they are afraid they might hurt or injure their child. Which might be the reason why they are screaming in public places and love to throw tantrums. Which can also lead to unsuspected behavior in the future. “Kids who grew up with “tough love” parents were twice as likely to become empathetic, more determined in the face of difficulty, and better at controlling their emotions and avoiding temptation, by the age of five, then those with “disengaged” carers” (Wardrop.)

Being able to determine the reason behind the pint up anger in are children is an important matter because it’s affecting the way they live, along with the way they will live their life’s when they reach adult hood. With this knowledge psychologist and doctors will have the ability to better understand this issue, and will have a better understanding and a general method of diagnosing the symptoms. The main objective is for doctors to be able to identify the symptoms before the child learns to hide the anger with in. Before they learn to cope with the pinted up anger or lash out at their parents of other young children.

When the child is in a calm frame of mind talking to them to help discover what triggers their anger

Another point the authors make is to show love and respect when disciplining a child. The main message regarding this is, with love and respect, the child will be able to calm him/herself down and will be more willing to listen to instruction, once love and respect are shown. The authors argue that with love and respect, the child will feel like his/her feelings matter, that the parent cares enough to listen, and that the parent is there for him/her, no matter what. With these two things—love and respect—the parent(s) will have a better chance at getting the child to open up and express his/her feelings, in a healthy

Younger children witness the disputes of adults and older children, which often were resolved through fighting, cursing, abusive talk, and/or violence. "The street-oriented adults with whom children come in contact , help them along in forming this understanding by verbalizing the messages they are getting through experience: "Watch your back." "Protect yourself." Don't punk out." "If somebody messes with you, you got to pay them back." Some adults received such lessons as a child from their own parents, and know no other way to "toughen up" their child.

Teachers must challenge and enhance the moral reasoning abilities of children and youth, and all educators must be committed to the process of conflict resolution. Found on page 58, this idea is the basis for how children and youth will handle their issues in the future. Rather than fighting they must be taught how to appropriately handle their conflicts. I personally think its human nature to get angry before knowing the facts and finding any reasoning in another person’s view. Even as I watch my children argue and fight over toys, they don’t seem to understand when the other has it first or if one is grabbing the toy to help the other with it. The initial reaction is the same, scream, cry, hit, and then yell for a parent. Children often act the same in a school setting, they fight, call each other names, and resort to the least practical way of handling a problem. If we can teach our students to handle conflicts the proper way, we can teach them to overcome many of life’s obstacles. Furthermore, by showing them