Everyone has something that they may have done and recognized later that they are playing with someone’s feelings and may have hurt them to cause mixed feelings towards them. This could have been done by accident or on purpose but you might have felt some sort of guilt as to what you done to the victim and how you made he/she feel that way. This creates some sort of hate towards the bullies as the victim does not like or acknowledge the bullies presence as well as theirs. By forgiving someone who hurt you and moving on, you understand that you faced the bullies and the problem while being brave and strong. Moreover, you essentially understand that by forgiving, the people are aware of what they have done and helped tell them that they can move on as well. Forgiveness leads to happiness as the person will be free from guilt but will not make the same mistake to someone else so that the other victim doesn’t have to go through the same thing.
By facing the problem and the bullies’ head-on and forgiving people for their mistakes can help you to move on as well. In the book Positive by Paige Rawl, Paige had discovered that she was HIV positive by overhearing a conversation with her mother and doctor. It wasn’t her fault since she was born with
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An example of that was after World War 1, Germany was treated unfairly because of the Treaty of Versailles and so they created another world war which was named World War 2. Instead of forgiving the League of Nations for how they embarrassed them, they were annoyed and kept the hatred in mind. Germany ended up taking back what was rightfully theirs and becoming a threat to Britain and France for them to call war on Germany. If Germany forgave the League of Nations for the unfair treatment, then both Germany and LON could have faced their problem without having a fight but just the power of
In the memoir Positive by Paige Rawl, the main character, Paige, deals with multiple hardships while entering middle school. Not only is Ms. Rawl HIV positive, but she is bullied for her HIV status.
You have to question whether you are forgiving the person because they are sorry and you are capable of moving forward or you are forgiving them because you are still left with some feeling of attachment and that’s what is holding you back. For example, in the memoir, Jennette continued to forgive her parents particularly because they were her parents and her blood. That got her nowhere. She was left in an endless circle of forgiving yet receiving the same mannerism back. However, once Jeannette decided enough was enough, she moved to New York City, away from her parents, began accomplishing her goals and overall Jeannette became so much more liberated. This example goes to show my point exactly. Forgiving and forgetting will leave you with too many toxic people in your life. You must know when to set an endpoint and cut people out of your life because it will benefit
Forgive today, live in peace tomorrow. Forgiveness; one of the many hardships we encounter throughout life. As Marianne Williamson, an American author, stated, “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” Forgiveness leads to peace because it lets go of all the negative feelings and allows freedom from disturbance to take place.
Grudges only hurt those involved; forgiveness can save those from a life time consumed with anger. Forgiveness is benificial because "forgiveness of ourselves and others leads to increased feelings of self worth and decreased psychological stress." For example, In the interlopers "and what peace there would be among the forester folk if all ended our feud tonight." Grudges can cause you to dispise a person and when all that anger builds up it could cause irritability along with other psychological
Forgiveness is very important throughout life. If people don't forgive, they are going to be stuck in the past always remembering about the mistake that person did. Forgiving someone can make yourself feel better because you know you forgave that person and there's no negativity between you and that person.
To start, forgiveness is a good action that results in better consequences. Forgiveness can only be great and rewarding due to the fact that moving on and leaving the past behind is what the main focus truly is. As demonstrated, the film Simon Birch shows a young boy named Simon and his best friend Joe. Simon was picked on numerous times from his physical limitations and
This is may be true for some individuals, but the benefits of forgiving are greater. A weight can lift off one’s shoulders when they choose to forgive someone of a debt or wrong-doing. They will not hold a grudge anymore and that dark presence in their life can disappear. Revenge still won’t satisfy justice because it will just continue as a never-ending cycle. The one that takes revenge will only be paid back with a revenge in return. The cycle of grudges and violence will never end until someone forgives. Whatever reasons people may use to validate revenge, they must face the truth that forgiveness is always a better
It enables us to be compassionate towards others even when they cause pain towards us. One life experience that really impacted me then and continues to this day is when a friend of mine committed suicide in 6th grade. To keep it short, he was dealing with severe depression for a couple of months on account of being bullied for a long time.The problem with suicide of a loved one or friend is that it has a powerful, lasting effect on those who they leave behind. I was one of those people who was angry towards his decision to end his life. He had caused me so much pain by his abrupt exit, but eventually I forgave him for what he did to me because I knew that I had to remember him for who he was and not for what he did to himself. This was an incredible accomplishment on my part because after that I felt so relieved to have that weight taken off of me. Lastly, one recent experience of my forgiveness and compassion towards others is when someone broke my trust and betrayed me. This happened when I had texted someone who I thought was my friend with some private information. The next day, I found out that a rumor had started around school about me. It didn't take long for me to realize who had started the rumor. When I confronted my friend about this rumor, at first he denied this as anyone would, but soon he confessed to having betrayed me. He asked for my forgiveness and at first, I was in disbelief of what he was asking me. I initially thought that no friend does that to another friend, but eventually I realized that even if I couldn't mend the broken friendship, I could still make myself feel better about the situation by forgiving
It was once said, “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” To illustrate my point, forgiving someone is basically saying to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone. Langston Hughe’s fictional story Thank You M’am represents a similar idea. At eleven o’clock at night, a woman named Mrs. Luella Bates Washington Jones is walking alone on the street. From nowhere, a young boy named Roger attempts to snatch Mrs. Jones purse but fails at his attempt.
We forgive for our own good, not for the people who have hurt us. We should never be held prisoner by the people who hurt us. That is what happens when we choose to not forgive and choose to hold grudges. Being unforgivable soon turns into bitterness. That bitterness will eat at your heart and soul. Being able to forgive does not by any means imply that we are weak. It is actually showing ourselves and others how strong we are. Do not wait to forgive those who have hurt you. If you wait to forgive until you feel the time is right, it will never happen. Simply because there is no “right time.” Remember, forgiving is not easy and never will it be. Yes, it is easy to say “I forgive you.” The hard part of it all is to genuinely mean it. If you become so wrapped up in holding a grudge, all you see it hurt and anger. You are missing what is important. Such as the present and all the joyful happiness that comes along life. The Holocaust was one of the worst things that has ever happened over time. Yet, some people have managed to forgive the horrible crimes that they endured. In The Fault in Our Stars, Hazel at first had a hard time forgiving Peter Van Hoten for being so rude to her and Augustus. He was her favorite author and he completely let her down by being so rude to her. She was very angry but didn’t hold a grudge against him for
What do you think is the purpose of forgiving and how it affects others? I think the purpose of forgiving is to restore the broken relationship and sometimes it could dramatically change someone’s life. For example, the book “Cry the Beloved Country” shows James Jarvis and Stephen Kumalo’s relationship was restored through forgiveness. Forgiveness has a strong power to restore the healthy relationship. Sometimes it could help restore a relationship with a family who killed your son. Forgiving can benefit you and others because you also learn through forgiveness and strengths the bond between you and the person or the whole group of people.
Forgiving others will bring you peace. People often hold grudges to a person that has hurt them in some type of way. Although this song has to do with bad heartbreaks that sometimes lead to depression and self-harm, it is important to learn how to forgive.
Throughout life everyone has been in a situation where they were offended or they have offended someone else. Therefore, forgiving someone is therapeutic for the victim, and the offended. However, when someone is wronged, justice is what they seek. On the contrary, when people feel pain from being wronged, they experience an “injustice gap.” Worthington defines “injustice gap” as, “the difference between the way the person would like a transgression to be resolved, and the way things are perceived to be currently” (Worthington Jr, 2005, pg. 121).
Imagine someone embarrassing you in front an audience, what would you do? Normally in situations like these, we would try and get back at them to feel what we’ve felt.Instead of trying to get back at them we should be able to forgive and forget because in reality it probably wasn’t their intentions.Forgiving someone is something that helps us in many ways.While some may argue that vengeance teaches people their lesson, there is more value in forgiveness than vengeance because it helps you with your well being, correlation, and makes you feel empowering.
Enright and Reed’s (2006) article confirms that forgiveness is extremely important because it brings positive change from negative experiences. Forgiveness therapy does not mean that a person has to forget the abuse they experienced. It does not even mean that the person is looking to build a better relationship with the person that abused him or her but it does mean that the person has made a moral decision to have an attitude of benevolence which will improve all of the negative outcomes of the abuse. Accepting the fact that I have been done wrong and realizing that I cannot change what has already occurred leads me to only want to make sure the situation or a similar situation does not happen again. Choosing to forgive and let go of anger makes room for joy and cheerfulness.