Pros And Cons Of Arranged Marriage In India

Arranged Marriage vs. Free-choice Marriage"Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry" (Tom Mullen, 2005, p.1). It is argued that free-choice marriages based on love or romance, offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages where the man and woman are chosen by the parents and so there is pressure and is not so suitable and independent. However, no marriage is necessarily an ideal sort of marriage. Therefore, it becomes difficult to predict the ideal sort of marriage. The decision is upon the individual, whether he or she wants to be part of an arrange or free-choice marriage. There are two main types of marriages that are practiced in various societies and

Indian marriages are deemed almost necessary in the Indian society. Arranging a marriage is the responsibility of Indian parents and other relatives of both bride and groom. In India there is no greater event in a family than a wedding. Some parents begin marriage arrangements on the birth of a child, but most wait until later. The brides family usually hosts most of the ceremonies and pays for all the arrangements for large numbers of guests for several days, including accommodation, feasting, decorations, and gifts for the groom’s party. These arrangements are often extremely elaborate and expensive and are intended to enhance the status of the

Arranged Marriage is a planned marriage by the parents or guardians of the bride and groom, who have little say in the planning of the agreement. Arranged marriages in the US, would take applications and they would decline people. Arranged marriages in India, the parents ask family friends and people in their social circle about perspectives or advertisements through newspapers and marriage websites.

The author begins with the basics of marriages in India, explaining that arranged marriages are so common that marriages not setup have a special term. She goes on to speak of how the couples set to wed usually do not meet before the ceremony and that if they do, it is for only a momentary conversation after the decisions have been made. However, she points out, that if one person objects to the match that the parents agreed to, they do not have to wed.

Certainly, arranged marriages have been a life line of Indian culture. Gender does not hinder marriage in their culture

A person’s community greatly impacts their ability to form their own viewpoint, such as arranged marriages. To go further, arranged marriages are traditions in the Indian culture and have been for centuries. The young generations that have migrated to The United States and other countries have still kept the traditions of their ancient ancestors because they can’t form their own opinion about their Indian customs. The traditions have “come from a different concept of family. You trust the wisdom of older relatives” (Helft 86). The fact that it comes from older relatives and has been a part of their community for generation considerable blocks their ability to see the other side of a “love marriages”(Helft 86).

Arranged marriages are part of the social culture of South Asian society. This has been their tradition for ages, and it goes on to contribute to a high majority of Indian sub-continent marriages.

Most girls in these circumstances are younger than me. If I had to have my parents choose my lifelong partner, I would change my name and move to Mexico. If our society was like India’s people, there would be no way I could settle for that conformity. There is no law saying the girls must follow through with marriage; however, whether they would like to or not, girls still do it for their parents and tradition. Indians do not see arranged marriages as being wrong. They think that “brides are the embodiment of that family's honor and pride” (“Arranged Marriages and Dowry”). But, us in the West see this tradition as an unnecessary custom. Rejection from your own blood, your own friends, and your own people, is not right. No dowry in the world could pay for love. Love is an emotion worth more than all of the money in the

The concepts of arrange marriages seems impractical to American society, but in India it is a culture that is still being practiced to this day, and still preferred even though modernization has been changing India. Arranged marriages are a good way for the family to make sure there son/daughter marry into the right religion, social order, and class. To make sure that no mishaps happen the boys and girls are often separated. Meaning going to a different school, girls are faced with more restrictions in some cases talking to boys is frowned upon. To insure the female doesn’t get to promiscuous she is married off early on even before the legal age 18. I found an article that looked at the statistics taken from a survey “found that 74% of young Indian women (18-35 yrs) prefer an arranged marriage over free- choice.” And “90% percent are arranged” (2015, November). As a young women growing up in the American society and the way our culture is free willed marry whom you choice to make a life with best blessings and all. And learning about the Indian culture, at first the feelings I felt were 1) offensive as if we cant choice our own mate for our self but chosen for us. 2) Confusion of why the culture chooses to do that.

It is a common thought that being involved in an arranged marriage does not lead to any beneficial outcomes. However, not all cases lead this way. Arranged marriages has its advantages to both the bride, groom, and their family. In an article by Ji (2010), he stated that being in an arranged marriage is more reliable and rational. This is because the bride and groom are most likely chosen by the parents within the same social class and with the consent of the parents. With this, this will lead to a more stable and a more harmless relationship. According to the author, being in an arranged marriage will lessen the probability of the bride being looked down upon or hurt. This is because the bride is well-respected by both the parents and society.

Arranged marriages continue to be normative in many Asian cultures, such as Japan, India, Korea, and so on (Applbaum, 1995). Specifically, among Hindus in India, they continue to be the most popular form of organizing a marital relationship (Mullatti, 1995). Despite globalization, modernization, and urbanization, the number of arranged marriages continues to outnumber 'love ' or 'self-arranged ' marriages. In fact, an estimated 95% of all Hindu marriages in India are still arranged marriages (Chawla, 2004). My parents are Indian, my mother was born in the Islands of Fiji and my father was born in India, they both migrated to the US in Los Angeles, where they met though arranged marriage.

In American culture the view on arranged marriages are not looked at very favorably. This is because we have grown up with the knowledge that when it comes time to marry we will have chosen our spouse of our own free will. The match will be a love match and one that is chosen through our own needs. Young men and women in India grow up with an opposite view on marriage. They know that when it comes time to marry their parents will find them a suitable mate and it will be considered scared and a lifelong commitment (Agence France-Presse.) A total of 74 percent of respondents from across India voted in favour of traditional "arranged" marriages, according to the poll by private television channel NDTV. In the Hindu faith, marriage is

Some believe that love is love, but others feel that same sex marriage is not love or people of different cultures shouldn’t be together. Some people in the United States are still stuck in their old ways and will not accept people of different cultural background. The social workers who work with these families of diverse cultural backgrounds learn about their backgrounds and understand the customary norms of family functioning. In my point of view, I lean more towards the traditional family dynamic, which has a mother and father. Yet, this doesn’t make the non-traditional family less of a family. The great diversity in marital arrangements and family form includes different types of family structures such as: transracial marriages, transracial adoptions, single

In the same way as arranged marriages are an established and expected part of Islamic culture, arranged marriages are very common also in India, where Hinduism is the leading religion. Most marriages here are arranged, but importantly with” the consent of the bride and the bridegroom and the blessings of the elders” (http://www.hinduwebsite.com/hinduism/h_marriage.asp). Also here the question of consent is very important to provide a distinction between arranged and forced marriage. This focus on consent has been a modern development of this ancient tradition. In the past, consent from the spouses was not necessary for them to be married (http://www.culturalindia.net/weddings/arranged-marriage.html HHHHHjjlafdkdk.)

My life has always been full of expectations weather they are small or big my parents know that there expectations will be met without a doubt because I was raised to obey and respect my parents using them basically as guides to live my life in a positive way avoiding stress and negativity. In my culture most Pakistani parents think children are often subjected to obey they parents without a question although times changing slowly the same traditions are still being passed down from generation to generation. In my point of view the idea of arranged marriage has a lot of importance and value the idea of letting others decide who you will spend the rest of your life with is pretty wild. The outlook of marrying a stranger or someone that your family doesn’t know seems absurd to many Muslim families, although many people are accustomed to it by now there are still many in society like my father and grandmother who think of think of it very adversely. My life has never been tough I have never faced big struggles in life and neither have I been placed in situations which make really put me in deep thought. For as long as I remember I have always loved my Father with all of my heart and have always tried to please him weather its academically or just normal responsibilities son should complete for his father. Throughout time the bond between me and my father has gotten only stronger and stronger by me making my dad proud to call me his son to me considering myself very lucky