Pros And Cons Of Being A Military Spouse

The authors concluded that the shorter that dwell time, the harder it is for military families to maintain a stable relationship. The authors also provided helpful information on family support and how stress factors can be reduced when military families come across deployment.

War creates a great amount of stress on families that go beyond the regular struggles that occur in every day family life. When a family member is deployed to a war, no one is left unaffected. Just as the soldiers themselves go into the war unaware of what effects it will cause neither does their families. War instills vulnerability throughout families as it is not certain that the enlisted family member will return home again. Robert Ross from Timothy Findley’s

The podcast, NPR Programs: Talk of the Nation- Faris Family Fights for Their Military Marriage, was enlightening and informative. I would like to say that I commend Command Sgt. Maj. Chris and Lisa Faris, for the service they are providing and having the courage to talk about their life story so the world can get a glimpse of the strain that military has on service members and their spouses. Command Stg. Maj. Chris Faris and Lisa Frais elaborated that marriage isn’t easy and that couples have to really put forth an effort if they want their marriage to work. This interview discussed the reason behind Command Sgt. Maj. Chris and Lisa Faris deciding to share their struggles within their marriage, how the experience of combat affected their marriage, how their struggles in their marriage affected their children, treatment that’s available, and how social workers can assist.

Long absences can very often lead to complications in marriages and in relationships with children. Soldiers can miss very important moments because of a war, such as holidays and birthdays. The parent who is not at war also has to take on all of the responsibilities for home, children, and finance while their significant other is deployed. In addition to this, the parent who is left behind often finds themselves dealing with a change in behavior from their children, which is very likely a result from their other parent’s long absence. Many returning veterans blame the complications in their lives after their life in the military on their time deployed. It may seem insignificant, but this is a big reason why military force has an impact on the everyday lives of Americans who do not even serve for a military branch.

There is a large amount of military families around the world. About Forty- three percent of active military members have children (Website). These children face so many challenges and struggles in their life while having a parent in the military. Children of Active duty military members exhibit anxiety, depression and stress just as much as the service members and spouses experience. For instance the children experience going through multiple deployments, long separations, frequent moves and awkward reunions when their parents return home from deployment. Even more so if the parent has been physically or mentally traumatized from overseas.

While many articles look at military children and how they cope with deployments this article (Cozza & Lerner, 2013, p. 3-11) examines the resilience of military children so that professionals can better understand military children as a whole child not just a child during and post deployment. This article also looks at how military children need to have policies and programs that are designed to meet their developing needs. The article further goes on to look at how professionals need incorporate the strengths of military children and the strengths they bring to their military families, so they can cope with the challenges that arise in their lives. This article points out that many children exposed to traumatic events tend to be healthier. Then the article discusses how overgeneralization of military children and families can hurt how programs and policies are enacted to benefit military children and families. It also looks at even though military pay has improved the wages of a military spouse are much lower than their civilian counterparts. A look at how the youngest of military children are the most vulnerable, how there needs to be more childcare as well as community support programs. Concluding with how we can gain insight and learn from the resilience and strengths that military children and military families

Being able to understand how people from different cultures and religions communicate, interact, and perceive the environment around them allows for the formation of important guidelines and practices which help combat and avoid anxiety and uncertainty in government, business, and personal intercultural relationships for the purpose of efficient negotiations and merges different cultures into more tolerant cohesive existence.

MILITARY SPOUSES AND THE CHALLENGES OF MILITARY Abstract Army life is unique to say the least. The subculture, with its own language, rules, acronyms and ways, is foreign to the general population. The Global war on Terrorism has brought more awareness and certainly more curiosity about Army life. (Krajeski, 2006, 2008, p. 5).Today, more than ever, the military spouse is a pioneer who travels to strange lands, rears her

Family is something that is always on a soldier or a sailor's mind. They think about them every waking second and getting home to them becomes a number one priority. Interestingly, while a service member is deployed, their family becomes a motivation instead of a grievance from the separation. A soldier's family becomes something they can fight for, something that they know they can protect by the things that they are doing. And ironically, although some can be deployed for more than a year sometimes, the time apart can often make a family stronger, strengthening the bonds between them when they reunite (PTSD). The way that this can happen is only truly understandable by someone who has gone through it; and although there have been many written and told accounts, when a deployee finally meets his family again after being deployed for any amount of time, the feeling of relief and happiness among all the family members is something that isn't felt lightly. For many, once deployed, their new mission is to come back home

As mentioned above the military family members go through many challenges. The service member when deployed leaves the other parent to the care of the family and home. Many divorces happen due to one parent being away from the home for long periods of time and the stress placed on the one parent at home. With one parent left to take on the role for both parents, this can either become a stressor for that one parent or strength building time. The children may receive less attention because the one parent is doing the duty of two. They become self-sufficient during this time. The service member that is deployed is focusing on the duty at hand. This may be patrolling the boundaries of the

Military personnel are deployed as part of their job. Usually deployments are out of the country, where most service members are leaving their family behind. With deployment, sometimes you don’t know where military personnel will be going and how long the person may be gone. The most important question is “Are they safe where they are going?” Not only does the person in the military ask these question, but the significant others such as partners and kids worry about these questions, knowing that sometimes these questions won’t have a straight answer. Not only do military personnel suffer from certain emotions and become affect from being away from their family; the family also goes through the same storm. Some are under the assumption that because the family back at home have the benefits provide by the military, they have nothing

Knowledge about some differences between yours and the other person’s culture can, for instance enable you to plan an event so that you have the best chance of enabling the communication to run smooth. It helps us to have curiosity and knowledge about the customs and norms of other cultures and the meanings associated with simple actions so that we can understand reactions and can influence the action by preventing misunderstandings as far as possible. This involves being aware of our own rules and prohibitions so they can be evaluated and examined in terms of appropriateness in different situations, otherwise we make judgment based on acceptable criteria.

Playing the waiting game when they are away for deployments, duty stations that the family can’t join them at, waiting for them to get leave to come home, or even waiting while they are at basic training, advanced personal training, or any other training that they may be where they can’t see you or maybe even talk much or at all. While the military member is gone for any reason it can be hard for the person, or people, left behind. It is equally hard for the person going and the

Throughout my childhood, I have been exposed to a number of people, places, and experiences that have molded how I see the world, and where I see myself in the world. I have had many opportunities to grow and learn about myself through successes and failures alike. Because of my own, independent view of the world, I have constructed goals and aspirations that I believe will positively impact those not only around me, but throughout the world.

The military moves us around the United States and overseas and is the only consistent form of financial and community support. The positives are that we are fully supported with our health insurance, housing, travel, and a host of other military benefits. The negatives are that we move often and do not build long-lasting relationships. However, the relationship between my husband and I are incredibly strong with good commitment and companionship.