Pros And Cons Of Helicopter Parenting

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

Individual children are significantly impacted by the parenting style and behaviours of their caregivers as it influences the way they perceive the world and life skills they acquire. All parents aim to shield their children from danger, illness and other harm, although there are some that protect their offspring excessively. Despite the best intentions of mothers and fathers, overprotective parenting or ‘helicopter’ parenting can have adverse effects of the long term wellbeing, growth and development of children.

Most of the middle-class families have gone through the decision of how much protection they should give their children. In the articles, “Bubble-Wrapping Our Children” by Michael Ungar and “For Some, Helicopter Parenting Delivers Benefits,” the authors explain what are the negative outcomes of over-parenting and the benefits of being a helicopter parent. In addition, over-parenting had made the children have emotional and psychological issues in the future, while helicopter parenting makes some kind of better relations between the parents and their offspring.

Currently, family around the world have different way to take care their own children. Some of parents are very care too much about their children and some maybe not even care. However, some of parents are very care to much about their children. they don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of their to much overly involved in children's life and overprotective .In fact, Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children and Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting .they don’t think , when they do like this can be bored the children life,make their kid stress, feel alone and hopeless because of them too much overprotective. For example, on these articles I had read before BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN by Michael Ungar, “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By Don Aucoin and there two article are different.

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

Being a child of a helicopter parent, I don’t believe that having a helicopter parent made me dependent on my mom, if anything I’ve distanced myself so that I can have more independence. My mom means well she just wants to protect my sisters and I, but how does she expect us to learn if we never get hurt or fail? The effects of helicopter parenting, in my experience, is distancing so that we can do what we want. Rebelling from parents is another effect, again because of the need for independence. I do think that if parents are willing to do their child’s homework and projects then they might as well let them live at home for the rest of their lives because once someone experiences that kind of “sheltering” they aren’t going to want to do work for themselves if they know their parents are willing to do everything for them. In some cases this type of parenting will not have bad effects on the children. It’s natural for parents to want to protect their children, but there comes a point where parents have to let their children fail in order for them to learn what to do and what not to

“Helicopter Parenting College Students”, Schiffrin Holly H and colleagues argue that “when parents solve problems for their children, then children may not develop the confidence and competence to solve their own problems” (Holly H et al .554). Holly H claims that if parents keep managing their childrens’ lives, they will be unable to manage their lives on their own. In short, helicopter parenting is causing children to be fearful of independence.

Throughout my whole life all I could really remember is playing sports and always playing them very competitively, and having my parents very involved. There was a lot of pressure put on me from a young age, all the way up into even now playing college football. I was raised with “helicopter” parents rather than the “laid back” parents. The best moments I can remember is just throwing the football around and playing small games in the neighborhood, no pressure just simply playing because I want to. Unnecessary pressure on sport from parents and what style of parenting is something I have put a lot of time and effort into studying. Putting to much pressure on your kids in sport could lead to; physiological affects, bad relationship with the parents, eating disorders, burnout of sports all together, kid not reaching his/her full potential, being a “helicopter parent” leads to children being afraid to voice their opinion, or afraid to fail, or even act as who they are and not what there parents want them to be. While there is know perfect way to be a parent while your child is playing youth sports, the majority of parents in my generation are putting to much pressure on their children and being “helicopter” parents, which could lead to many negative consequences. There are many interpretations of what a helicopter parent is, one of my favorites comes from authors Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay from their book Parenting With

When regarding helicopter parenting, most of the time there is a misconception of what this type of parenting is really about. In which, I was included in this misconception, as before reading an excerpt from Alfie Kohn’s book, The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting, I thought every aspect of helicopter parenting was bad for children. However, Kohn’s excerpt from his book has changed my point of view on excessive parenting. As before reading this excerpt I thought helicopter parents were overbearing with their children, but now I see them just as parents trying to carry out what is best for their children. Except I agree with Kohn to a certain extent, since not all helicopter parenting

Imagine if someone did all your laundry, payed all your bills, called your professors and bosses, and basically solved all your problems for you. You may feel grateful at first until you realize that they are denying you the right to be self-sufficient. This is exactly how adult children feel when their parents are overinvolved. Overparenting has been a popular media topic recently. Whereas parents used to stop supporting their children as soon as they turned eighteen (Etterson 5), more and more parents are continuing to hover, which is commonly referred to as helicopter parenting (“Helicopter” 1). This type of parenting involves “... inappropriate levels of parental directiveness, tangible assistance, problem-solving, monitoring, and involvement into the lives of children” (Segrin, et al. 1). Even though helping a child learn to navigate through adulthood can have a positive impact on their life, parents should be wary of believing that what they consider to be best for their child is also want their child wants. Parents should only provide their adult children with advice and allow them to make their own

Many of these children while becoming more responsible will try to take on to much and become overwhelmed. Many feel that they are not allowed to ask for help and try to follow the example of their parents, not realizing that their parents often have to ask for the help of others. This can lead to kids become more closed off and very stressed. (Hall, 2008)

Holly H. Schiffrin • Miriam Liss • Haley Miles-McLean • Katherine A. Geary • Mindy J. Erchull •
Taryn Tashner the authors for the article titled “Helping or Hovering? The Effects of Helicopter Parenting on College Students’ Well-Being” states that parents who use inappropriate ways to control their children will bring negative child outcomes. Moreover, they also found that helicopter parenting were related to children’s depression and decreased satisfaction with life.

When parents generated their time and effort to constantly be there for their kid’s needs, conventionality, the emotional and behavioral state involve disarray, in the society, these kids could be deviant if not properly supervised.

There are two type of Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children. Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting. Begin helicopter parenting is not easily because you have to keep your child’s safe from harmful according to the “Psychotherapy Networker Magazine’s article”, “BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN “by Michael Unger, and “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By (Don Au coin). Unfortunately, there are two families don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of them too much overly involved in children's life and overprotective. Moreover, why is helicopter parenting harmful?

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to