Children have minds of their own. As they begin to mature, their newfound independence will sometimes lead them to misbehave in various ways. A parent's patience(or lack of) as they interact daily with their children is crucial. Hitting, slapping or spanking a child as punishment often sends the message that it is okay to hit others to solve problems. A more productive approach may be to help the child figure out what they did wrong and show them how to learn from their mistakes. Kids need to understand the reasoning behind our rules and they need to feel that they can correct these mistakes if they do make them. No matter what the child has done, he needs to know that your love for him/her is unconditional.
Discipline also leads to more respect from the child. When children are disciplined at home, those children tend to be respectful towards others. Those children say respectful things like good morning, please, thank you, etc. Also, discipline instills appropriate behavior. When a parent disciplines their child for poor behavior, he or she learns about what behavior is acceptable. According to an article in the journal Pediatrics and Child Health, “Discipline can foster appropriate behavior in children, teaching them how to interact with others, when to postpone pleasure and how to tolerate discomfort” (Carpenter). With effective child discipline, that child will be respectful his or her whole life. For example, if a child borrows something from their parents, the parents car or jacket, and doesn’t return it either with a full tank or washed, than next time when they ask, the answer will be no. Next time around they are going to respect the parents and the parents’ things if that child wants access to the parents’ belongings, they are going to return it the way they found it (Radzka).
Corporal punishment which disciplines wrong behavior should not be considered child abuse because it is beneficial to the child.That is, it teaches children the necessary knowledge of what behavior is wrong. Without this knowledge, children will believe that simple sins such as lying, stealing, and cheating are acceptable. Consequently, they will be unable to function normally in society. Corporal punishment has been found to be the most effective method of teaching children the knowledge of what behaviors are wrong. In the article “Smacked Children More Successful Later in Life” by Murray Wardrop, the spokeswoman for the child advocacy organization Parents Outloud, Margaret
94% of parents said they have spanked their child once within the ages 3 to 4 (Corporal Punishment Beneficial, Should Be Parents' Choice). Many people feel punishing a child is up to the parents. Many arguments believe that spanking a child teaches them discipline. Just as a child shutting their fingers in a door, teaches them to not put their fingers there. Or touching hot water on the stove makes them become aware of hot objects on the stove. Spanking could be used in this same situation. Not doing what they are told could result in a spanking, therefore they start to to listen to their parents. Although spanking may be useful in some situations there are other ways to punish them. Some parents simply scold their child, or take things away from them. Love is one of the key ingredients to helping a child learn. Spanking them over and over again could lead to violence, while spanking a child once and showing them the spanking was out of love is the more effective action. (Corporal Punishment Beneficial, Should Be Parents' Choice). The abuses that are most commonly seen is physical or sexually
Growing For example: if a child decides to do drugs or physically harm someone, then they should get a spanking or a harsh scolding accompanied by a week of restriction on things they enjoy. Luscombe includes a quote involving the alternative punishments to spanking being more effective than spanking (par. 9). I normally agree with this, however I would add that it also depends on the child and their attitudes after the punishment has occurred. For instance, if a parent was to eliminate one of the stars on “The Star Chart,” and the child’s response was, “I don’t care,” then the parent would have to apply harsher punishments until the child has changed their attitude towards the punishment. Luscombe also includes information on the negative effects physical punishment may have on children, which should be taken into account when disciplining (par. 5).
I believe that there are many other, more efficient ways, to discipline and make your child mind. There are many ways that you can use positive reinforcement that will have a better outcome. Spanking can lead to more mental problems as well as be involved in violence (Reeves and Cuddy, 2014). We tell children not to hit therefore I do not understand why you would hit your child to teach them a lesson.
Children will make mistakes, it’s apart of growing up and learning lessons, no one is perfect. We need to teach children that it is okay to mess up, it helps us learn from our mistakes. The last thing we want is having our own children afraid their parents. They should be able to trust their parents and know that they will care for them and love them. Physically punishing children makes it harder for kids to trust their parents, and it sends their stress levels through the roof knowing that they have to try and be perfect or else there will be a punishment. Children can be a blessing, but sometimes they can be a little too much to handle. When parents take the physical charge to hurt their children, people don’t know if they took it too far
Other parents beg to differ, and say that spanking their children actually controls their anger. The more frequent a child is spanked, the more anger and aggression is shown from them. The angrier a child becomes, the more frustrated a parent will be which causes them to spank their child a bit harder than usual. Parents nowadays also spank their children for some of the most ridiculous reasons. For example, trying to get a child to clean their room, or if their child accidentally dropped a plate of peas. Not only is spanking not humane or acceptable, those reasonings are just absurd. Using words to talk to a child to explain why what they are doing is wrong is a level way of teaching them. Using a bit of a stern tone will also grab the child’s attention because the expression on the parent’s face will show the child that they made their parent upset, This shows that children are visual
Punishing children for their wrong-doings has been and always will be necessary for a child's development of right and wrong. The different types of punishments parents use on their children work for various types and degrees of trouble the child is in. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist that specializes in relationship-based parenting, assumes in her essay “Should You Spank Your Child?” that spanking is one of the worst punishments a child could receive from his parents. However, corporal punishment teaches responsibility and the difference between right and wrong, remains different from abuse, and is not the reason for issues in adulthood.
“A Midland mother is demanding justice after her child was allegedly slapped in the face. The report of child abuse was filed in June, a week after Tyverious Mackey’s birthday.” In any case anger should never result to violence (Williams). Even though kids should be disciplined but not to the
3 ways parents hurt their children using rocking horse winter There is no sure way to be a perfect parent, kids are all different so not everything works the same. Some punishment or rewards never seem to for certain children. The way parents handle their children can seem harsh to some parents to others not enough. But all parents end up hurting their children weather or not they mean to. Sometimes parents ignore their children, tell them they are always wrong, not supporting what their children want.
I believe that kids should not get spank. For example, if you spank the kids they will not listen to you they will think that you are mean person. So I think you should punish the kids by taking their phones, games, and laptop, anything they like they will feel bored and realize they did something bad and they will not do again. For instance, when I was around the age of twelve I didn’t use to listen to my mom so she will spank me I used cry and go to my room not talk to anyone. My mom use to hate when I don’t talk to her she feel bad so the more I get older when don’t spank me she just talking me if I do something wrong . I believe that kids will stop behavior when you take their favor
Child Spanking Many parents tend to spank their own children. While spanking your children out of anger for what they did wrong, will it teach them a lesson? Alternatively, make things worst? Spanking is to teach younger
Well, many parents find that time-outs and physical punishments are becoming more and more ineffective when disciplining children; this leaves parents questioning their authoritative abilities. In a recent study conducted by Dr. Shari Barkins in the article, “Positive Reinforcement is More Effective than Punishment”, “1 in 3 [parents] said they could not effectively discipline their kids” (Pope). This shows that many parents are experiencing difficulties and challenges when using punishing methods when disciplining
Children are going to continue to make mistakes, but they will learn from them just like adults do. So why would we punish them for it? When positive guiding children we can help them see and understand consequences from the choices they make. By using punishment instead of positive discipline can cause possible side effects, such as blocking open communications, punishment represses behaviour, but doesn’t deal with the behaviour, models a negative use of power, and to have continue effect it must escalate in order to remain it’s effectiveness. Using punishment as discipline will create a negative relationship between educator/parent and child. This could lead the child to have negative thoughts about themselves creating a low self-esteem.